jean valjean Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 (edited) Hi I joined this forum to get a different perspective on things from a females pov. The other forum I belong to is all men and very biased in opinion. You know the 3 date rule, etc. My question is for the women. 1. Can a guy be friends with a woman, after some romantic activity although no intercourse took place, it started as a wild infatuation that now appears to have fizzled. She refused to have sex though everything else and insisted on just friends till she finds mr. right. Recently she had a brief fling with a new man and got humped and dumped, broke her heart (and mine). Can i keep her as just friends. I spent alot of time with her, have fondness for her and don't want to see it go down the drain. We both enjoy some common hobbies. 2. Also, Do women over 35 nowadays say we need to be just friends and see if a relationship grows a result of being humped and dumped too many times with nothing to show for it Edited October 26, 2009 by jean valjean
boogieboy Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Are you tryingto be friends with her so that you can try to be with her again in the future? Thast not a real friendship.
Javelin Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Hi I joined this forum to get a different perspective on things from a females pov. The other forum I belong to is all men and very biased in opinion. You know the 3 date rule, etc. My question is for the women. 1. Can a guy be friends with a woman, after some romantic activity although no intercourse took place, it started as a wild infatuation that now appears to have fizzled. She refused to have sex though everything else and insisted on just friends till she finds mr. right. Recently she had a brief fling with a new man and got humped and dumped, broke her heart (and mine). Can i keep her as just friends. I spent alot of time with her, have fondness for her and don't want to see it go down the drain. We both enjoy some common hobbies. 2. Also, Do women over 35 nowadays say we need to be just friends and see if a relationship grows a result of being humped and dumped too many times with nothing to show for it Leave her alone man, she's not into you... Friend's won't work either, because you're still tryin to go after her.
ADF Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Have no contact with each other for about a year. That means no seeing each other, no phone calls, no emails, no text messages. Then try to be friends. I promise it will work out better.
Author jean valjean Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 (edited) Are you tryingto be friends with her so that you can try to be with her again in the future? Thast not a real friendship. I've heard everyone say NC especially the men but there has to be other opinions. RE: my using a friendship to get back with her ... No not anymore. we just went thru 35 days of No contact and I have accepted that neither of us need a relationship with each other now. A big factor, is that I am separated and not fully divorced yet so women do not want to get too involved with me because they say I may get back with my wife ... She wants to find someone before she turns into an "old maid" by her account. I no longer want an LTR with her .. just want to keep in touch and have another friend because I do genuinely like her, maybe see her occasionally, but no more romance. She lives 90 min away and has too many issues for me to deal with, likewise I am sure she thinks the same about me Just friends is how I want to keep it - how to do this? Edited October 27, 2009 by jean valjean
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