pandagirl Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I hate dating. Sometimes I feel like I could just be single for the rest of my life and invest in a good vibrator. On the other hand, of course I like boys! And when I find one I like -- which is rare -- I really LIKE them and I care. I feel like I'm too old-fashioned in the realm of dating to really survive in it. I don't like the disposable nature of meeting one person after the other. My friends go through women and men like they're cans of soda. I just can't do that. I understand that I could change my perspective and see things in different light, but it's not really in my nature have...such superficial tendencies. I end up getting so hurt in the end. I believe in love and my ability to love, but I have such little faith in finding someone who shares my values in this time and age. I like the slow burning kind, and no one is patient enough to even get there anymore. blah!
Devil Inside Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I'm sure it is more than frustrating. Funny thing is there are probably tons of great guys thinking the same thing right now. You'll find someone...but it's like getting a good job, you are going to have to put in some work and it will take awhile. Hang in there.
Author pandagirl Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 I'm sure it is more than frustrating. Funny thing is there are probably tons of great guys thinking the same thing right now. You'll find someone...but it's like getting a good job, you are going to have to put in some work and it will take awhile. Hang in there. That's sweet. I know, big picture -- things aren't that bad. But seriously, I've been single since I moved to this damn city almost 8 years ago. Dated a handful of guys, but nothing lasted more than a few months. Everyone has their eye on the next best thing. Last guy claimed I was "too laid back." LOL. I'm not gorgeous, but -- so I'm told -- attractive. Smart, funny (or I like to think so!), successful, honest and sincere. And I can barely get a date. I'm going into dating hibernation for the winter.
Johnny M Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 On the other hand, of course I like boys! And when I find one I like -- which is rare -- I really LIKE them and I care. Maybe that's your problem....you are attracted to the kind of man who changes women faster than the average person changes socks. Men who are in the top bracket in terms of their looks and other desirability factors have plenty of options and little incentive to settle into a long-term relationship (until they are well into their 30s, anyway). Perhaps you need to broaden your horizons.
trueblue72ny Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Pandagirl you are not alone. I hate the dating scene also. And I know a lot of other people that its not their favorite past time either. But like the saying goes, you gotta be in it to win it? nothing ventured, nothing gained? You have to go thru a lot of frogs before you find a prince. Ya know???
Author pandagirl Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 Maybe that's your problem....you are attracted to the kind of man who changes women faster than the average person changes socks. Men who are in the top bracket in terms of their looks and other desirability factors have plenty of options and little incentive to settle into a long-term relationship (until they are well into their 30s, anyway). Perhaps you need to broaden your horizons. You're probably right, though the last few guys I dated were 31, 34, and 32. But I suppose they were in that "top bracket" in terms of looks and personality, etc. I have to stop dating handsome men. What a shame.
Author pandagirl Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 Pandagirl you are not alone. I hate the dating scene also. And I know a lot of other people that its not their favorite past time either. But like the saying goes, you gotta be in it to win it? nothing ventured, nothing gained? You have to go thru a lot of frogs before you find a prince. Ya know??? Where I live, people are into serial dating. Just STR after the other, after the other. I think people get into such a pattern of disposing of people, it's hard to break the habit. And then when/if you find someone great with potential, it's just habit to write them off, too.
Devil Inside Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 You're probably right, though the last few guys I dated were 31, 34, and 32. But I suppose they were in that "top bracket" in terms of looks and personality, etc. I have to stop dating handsome men. What a shame. Don't settle...but do look at the men you are dating and see if there are any patterns there and maybe try to date someone outside of that pattern. Either way...a hibernation may not be a bad idea...have fun for awhile and just take a break.
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