vin_c_boy Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 My ex g/f is now married. We did not really have a true break-up. She went to live overseas, and we both found other loves. My ex discovered my e-mail address, and now contacts me every day to chat online. We do not talk about love, or emotions. We talk about news, old friends, etc, but nothing intimate. She insists that she and her husband love each other very much. I am puzzled as to why a married woman who is happily married, enjoys my online company everyday. Is it that there is some secret love for me?
lostmirthfulness Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 People often times feel their SO's don't hear them out enough. Perhaps she is just looking for conversation outside of her SO. Since you are ex's there is a rule that I apply, and that means if your in a committed relationship, then cut all ties with anyone you have seen nakid.
mickleb Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 vin c: Posting three threads on the same topic because you didn't like the responses you got in your first two is sneaky. Sneaky from yourself! How ridiculous it is to think she enjoys chatting online to you because she secretly loves you! How ridiculous it is to think all these thoughts you have about her are right and proper when you are MARRIED. I see a man here who is disatisfied in his marriage. Who is desperately seeking a way of avoiding it. His commitment to it. Check yo'self before you wreck yo'self, my friend. I.e. seek couples counselling. (Unless you want to end up like one of those 60 year olds who only realise how much they actually did love their wife - even though they didn't really - when they're manky flat is littered with opened cans of baked beans they've eaten cold and at least one of these has a dirty sock coming out of it.) Ha, ha! I jest! ...Or DO I?! Seriously - stop running and talk to the missus.
BCCA Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 She likes the attention, sure, but equally important is just knowing you dont hate her. From what Ive seen/lived, women really dont like the idea of someone out there that hates them, especially if they loved that person before. The woman left you before, is now married, and you are married. Who cares what her angle is, youre both off the market anyway.
Author vin_c_boy Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 Some people are just SICK, and take pleasure in being mean and nasty. Have a nice day. vin c: Posting three threads on the same topic because you didn't like the responses you got in your first two is sneaky. Sneaky from yourself! How ridiculous it is to think she enjoys chatting online to you because she secretly loves you! How ridiculous it is to think all these thoughts you have about her are right and proper when you are MARRIED. I see a man here who is disatisfied in his marriage. Who is desperately seeking a way of avoiding it. His commitment to it. Check yo'self before you wreck yo'self, my friend. I.e. seek couples counselling. (Unless you want to end up like one of those 60 year olds who only realise how much they actually did love their wife - even though they didn't really - when they're manky flat is littered with opened cans of baked beans they've eaten cold and at least one of these has a dirty sock coming out of it.) Ha, ha! I jest! ...Or DO I?! Seriously - stop running and talk to the missus.
mickleb Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I apologise for offending you, vin but you do seem to need a good shaking, to me. You seem to be living out a fantasy here, which will only bring you and those around you, trouble. Why are you even posting this in Break-ups? If it's entirely innocent, it's more appropriate in Friendships, isn't it? You have not, for whatever reason, dealt with the break-up you had with this woman. It is fine if you think my only intention for posting here is to be mean. Acutally, it isn't. It's to get you to answer some of the questions the posters here have asked you. You seem to want help but you are not prepared to listen or talk. You only want to hear what you want to believe. I may have the picture completely wrong but then that's me and most of those who have taken the effort to respond to your questions. She may be the true love of your life. It may be she is so bleatin' marvellous that just having her in your life to some degree is all you need to make you happy. I don't know. I don't know you and I don't know her but, from what you have given us in your three posts about a failed relationship from THIRTY-SEVEN YEARS AGO, I'm getting that you're hanging on to some kind of false hope that will only end in tears. I hope not and I, very much, hope you have your eyes open. Have a nice day.
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