hopefullove Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I went back home and met up with my ex boyfriend in september, we spent 2 weekends together, and they were great. We had both moved away after our break up 2 years ago, and for the last 2 years, I dont think either of us moved on... we had a great relationship (breakup was lack of communication, hurt feelings, perhaps clash of personalities, but had a very passionate relationship, no infidelity), and I thought we were on our way to mending things back, especially since he told me what a huge deal it was that we were meeting up again... and the 2 months prior to our meeting, we were chatting everyday, he even said to me, that he wishes that there was a plan, for us to be together. Fast forward to now, it has been maybe 3-4 weeks since i haven even heard from him. I heard from him 2 weeks after our last goodbye, and we would IM, and he would call me that pet name he has for me, and send me off with kisses. When i was in town, he really seemed that he wanted me to tell my father that we were seeing each other again, and almost pushed for it, and so I did. Our last conversation was about that, and I said basically what I feel any parent would say, that my dad wants someone who is stable, and can support himself, and perhaps me, in the future... well that was our last actual conversation. I got upset because i hadn't heard from him for 2 weeks, and sent him some emails, where he responded that we would talk during the weekend, and nothing. I am unsure of my emotions, and I am throughly hurt by his actions, i mean, honestly, what a guy, you can't just be honest with me, what is the point, he is so disrespectful. Part of me just wants to know, what the heck happened? I feel like i dont even know him anymore, nor do i trust him, and I can't tell if he did this all on purpose to get back at me for something, not that I would put it past him to do that, but, just, really, what the heck??? I know i must move on, but. just. wow. -so confused.
Author hopefullove Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 hi, i would appreciate any feedback, i feel so hollow and depressed.... thanks.
Lamak Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 The problem is that you never really moved on. That's why it hurts so much.
ADF Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Ask yourself this: would any excuse he could give you be acceptable, given his behavior?
Author hopefullove Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 i read all of the "and it ends with silence, brilliant" post, and that is the post i definitely relate to 100%... it is sooo scary how so many other people have gone through the same thing as me, where their ex suddenly just drops off the face of the earth without explanation... i mean we werent even oon bad terms, we just had 2 romantic weekends together and then, gone. it is messed up for sure. yeah, from reading that post, he is a coward. spineless coward, and this really shows who he is. i cant believe after all we had together, this is how he chooses to end things, tho part of me is not surprised at all, and some would say i should be thankful that this ends now, and i do not further torment myself with hiim around.
Phedre Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Lady I feel ya - stick with those newfound 'better off' feelings because you ARE better off. We should really all be singing Mr Coward McDouchebag a 'Thank You!' note and sending it to him... becuase it is so great that he showed you very clearly, beyond any doubt, beyond any 'I'm sorry I love yous', showed you who he really is, deep in his heart. And he is not someone worth a minute of time from you. So Thank YOU to Mr Coward McDouchebag, thank you for making your true ****ty-ness clear so that Hope can move right along with no doubts or unfinished business concerning you. She doesn't need any baggage from you to take with her to her next fantastic relationship that makes her question what she ever say in you in the first place! You are going to rock it hard lady. F him. He did you a favor by setting your free. Take the favor and run :love:
wondering_girl Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 hi hopefullove, i know how you're feeling and it hurts, after 4 years... he didn't even say anything but you know that WE SHOULD KNOW their silence says more than they ever could......... it HURTS. i don't even know how to describe the pain..
Author hopefullove Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 man, it is so sad, because i joined this forum 2 months ago, to post in the "second chances" forums, cause that's what i thought was going on... i was so hopeful.... haha. it hurts sooooo much wondering_girl... i teeter everyday, or ever, hour, sometimes im good, or i think of something and i relapse... as much as we know that they are in the wrong, sometimes cant stop us from caring about something that really is just in the past. even though that person is clearly dead. how can they justify what they are doing, is beyond me, and decency.
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