stace79 Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I broke up with my fiance on Thursday. We have had a horribly rough relationship, broken up at least three times, lived together and separated, and now he lives six hours from me (new job started in July). We were engaged since May. Among every other problem we had (many), I got pregnant in August (I'm three months now). I am feeling strongly that an open adoption with a close family member and her husband may be my best option. My fiance did not agree. We fought mercilessly over these topics. Many insults hurled, many threats of legal action, etc. After we broke up Thursday, we had one last horrible conversation Sunday (yesterday), and I was certain it was going to get really ugly, with lawyers and all that mess. Surprisingly, last night he e-mailed me and copied my mom, saying that he gives up all rights to our baby to me, and that he will sign whatever documents are necessary when the time comes. He still doesn't agree with the adoption, but will "go along with it" for my mental/physical wellbeing. I have not replied to him, and am not sure if I should. I don't know that there is much to say that will make him or me feel better. I really think no contact is best for us because of all the meanness lately, but should I at least reply to confirm I got his message and that I appreciate his decision, and will contact him in the future when necessary? What a mess.
BCCA Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I think that at least warrants some reply. "Thank you, I appreciate your willingness to make this as easy for everyone as possible. I'm sorry things did not work out with us, but wish you the best in the future" At least that way he knows you got it, and appreciate it to some extent. Also, its a great segway to NC.
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