Yamaha Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I appreciate ur candor b/c many people would still date the hot person just b/c of the attention they would bring to themselves and the ego boost. It just means u are a person of high self-esteem and he probably isn't used to a women turning him down before he gets into their pants.
CaliGuy Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Well, I don't find the way he's acted all that appealing. After the date, he offered me a ride home, but I said thanks but no thanks, since I barely know him at this point. So he said, "I'll walk you to your train stop." Great. It was only two blocks away, but after walking half a block and getting to his car, he didn't walk me any further. Saying you're going to do something then not doing it is lame. Though we tentatively discussed getting together on Sunday, he didn't make a plan or contact me again till that day. I already told him before that I like to plan things in advance, given my schedule. If he'd really wanted to see me again, he would have asked me out in advance. Also, he made too big of a deal out of his "herb" and asked if I wanted to "hang out" next time and smoke with him. I was pretty sure, and some friends confirmed, that that is definitely code for sex. And I called him on it. He did not refute, just asked me out for another coffee date instead. Two coffee dates in a row? Lame. Second date should be something more fun -- lunch, dinner, or something at least slightly novel. At best, he has low imagination, which is a big turn-off. I am pretty sure I can do better. See, Ruby? This proves my point that WHO someone is is much more important than WHAT they are. Sure, he's a hot guy on the outside. I know many HOT women too. But I wouldn't date them simply because they aren't attractive on the inside. What a goob. You CAN do much better than this guy.
mr.dream merchant Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Not all of us are heartbreakers/players
Author Ruby Slippers Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 I appreciate ur candor b/c many people would still date the hot person just b/c of the attention they would bring to themselves and the ego boost. It just means u are a person of high self-esteem and he probably isn't used to a women turning him down before he gets into their pants. Thanks, man. It was nice to know that even if he was a player, no way was I gettin' played.
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