lovinghim Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Alright, so I have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years now. He has been separated/divorced for 4 years. Every time I go to one of his family parties, friends parties, etc. Her name is constantly brought up. It never fails. At first, I was able to keep smiling and just try to brush it off but now it is just getting annoying. How would you feel and what would you say.
2sure Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Is his ex the mother of his children? If so, neither she or her name are going away. If not, do this. When her name is mentioned to you...hesitate a moment, look puzzled, like you are not sure who thay are talking about or why. This shows in a polite way that this person is NOT a part of your or your BF's current life.
Author lovinghim Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 She is the mother of his daughter BUT...her name is mentioned every time, and has nothing to do with his daughter about 99.9 percent of the time. I understand that her name is not going anywhere BUT I do not think it should come up every time we get together when his daughter's name is not even mentioned.
BCCA Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 The problem is that even though they broke up, his ex became part of the family. So, even though she isnt there any longer, they see him and when they think back, her name is naturally attached to his, especially if they have kids together. I think we all experience this to some extent with anyone who dated someone for a couple years before meeting us. I mean, I cant tell you how many times people have asked me if I was a girls ex, or called me by a name Ive never heard of, etc. IMHO, some people are good about making sure this doesnt happen, most arent.
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