Soloboy Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Well to cut the story short. I was with this 20 year old girl for 3 years. Started going out ever since 2006. Ended 2009 August 20th. Its been about 1 month of NC, and 2 months of On and Off talking/texting/Seeing each other. Ever since May, My family and her Family took at trip to Thailand, Where she got her implants and nose done. I was with her the whole time going to all types of Well known Hospitals for consultations. Well story short, I abandoned my Mom and My family that lives in Bangkok to be with her throughout her surgery, and She still says that I wasn't there for her. She says I didnt take care of her. I told her I didnt take care of her because her mom didnt really want me to. Her mom wouldnt let me feed her when she was in pain, her mom wouldnt let me shower her when she was in pain. Everything I tried to do her mom wouldnt let me show her that I truly cared and Loved her. Im 24, she's 20. I was there day and night while she was recovering and going through surgery, At this time it was just Me and Her mom. I slept on the Hospital floor and Let her Mom sleep on the couch while we made sure she had everything she needed. I tried to feed her and stuff but her mom would take over. And she still doesnt think I try to take care of her. Well then that was most of my Vacation, She went to Laos which is her moms homeland. They met her brother there which he's from Here, but he went to visit a girlfriend he had in Laos. I came home to the States Early because I had to fly back keeping my mom company. She stayed in laos for two extra months, We had contact. But it was kind of weird. I would buy calling cards everyday just to call her and talk to her but she would only talk to me for like 10 minutes everyday. Im back in the states taking care of her Puppy (yorkie) and I took care of her dog as if it was her, I bathe the dog and I potty trained the puppy, while she was in Laos. She would only email me saying is her puppy is okay. After that I realized theres something going on. I asked her if she was talking to someone else in Laos. She bluntly said No im not. and she would bring up how I didnt take care of her and she's still mad at me for what I didnt do for her in Thailand while going through surgery. I dont want to compete with her mom, I told her that. If her mom doesnt want me to take care of her I wont. Plain and Simple. Story short, She got back in July, I picked her and Her mom up from the Airport. and everything seemed fine, I still lived at her house and took care of her dog, and took care of Bills and cut the lawn and stuff. I lived with her for 2 years. But went out with her for 3 years. All of the sudden she tells me that Im suspended from the relationship saying that I need to live and home and that became permanent. Im at home, but we still hung out every single day. She still chose Me over her friends to hang out with everyday. Which I thought we were still together. All these times that I thought we were together because she never broke it off with me, She just said she needed some time to reevaluate everything and I respected that. I stayed at my House, and She lived at hers. We hung out everyday and everything seemed fine for me. But I knew things were kinda going sour. One night at like 4am I get a call from another country and the guy speaking my Second Language which is (Thai), I spoke to him and he was telling me that He thought we broke up and that He's been her Bf for the past 2 months she's been in Laos. Her brother hooked him up with his Little sister. He's 27. And that they never slept together or did anything intimate. He says that he likes her a lot and that he would do anything for her. He straight up told me. I told him that she never broke up with me or said that She didnt want to be with me. So I got mad and called her out on Facebook, Saying why she'd do me so Dirty and Play my ass. I dont understand. We were so deeply in love. I know I had mistakes in the past, from being to controlling and complained that I didnt get what I wanted. I kepted her from having girls night out. Which I know was my wrong, and things like that can change, I told her that I can change those habits. I never thought she would play me like this, and she said she would never play me also. But I consider this playing me, while she's in two relationships. She read her facebook and called me cussin me out, saying why you have to spill it out to the world that I played you. I was like because thats the straight truth. I was so Upset and Heartbroken that I had no one to talk to about this, This was about 5am in the morning after I got off the phone with him. Well story more short, After that confrontation from her, We didnt talk for a while, like 3 week-1month. After that, I would see her at clubs with her friends. And then she calls me asking me to hang out, I give in, because this girl meant the world to me, And She kept telling me that its just a Phone relationship. But I still say its BS. Because Phone relationships still involve feelings for one another. Just no physical touch. Im So hurt. Im still hurt and confused till this day. We still hang out and she still has random sleep overs at my place. We go out to eat and watch movies "couples retreat" "paranormal activity" and go to haunted houses together. Its weird because She consider us just friends but we still hold hands, We still kiss, We still sleep together. She says she still loves me when we Make Love, She still texts me when She misses me. Im confused??? Is she just saying this because that guy is 10,000 miles away??? What I came to find out was that she still buys 10 dollar calling cards each week to call this guy in Laos, and Texts him every night. I know because I looked while she was sleeping over one night. I know I was being nosy but I wanted to know the truth and I know it hurts to see it. I mean I built a life with this girl for the past 3 years being together. We talked for 6 months before we even got together, Our feelings for each other was strong. We made sure that we had spark before we even got together. Because I was looking for a Serious relationship. Someone I can settle down and grow old with. I made the wrong Choice. I got played. Is it that shes too young and she doesnt know what hell she wants? Or was my Controlling habits and complaining getting to her last straw with me. I mean I was making changes but small changes. If I could have her back I would, Because she didnt cheat meaning Sleep with the other guy, or anything physical with him. I could put that aside if she could cut him off. Im so confused and hurt right now. My heart is in million of peices. I still talk to her each morning and she and I talk all night till her battery dies. We still bring up memories from the past that reminisce of how we used to be when we were together. I still make her smile and laugh. Its just weird that Im just a friend, and not her Bf and more, and that she has another guy from another country as her BF. She tells me that she doenst like him as much as she likes me, but her feelings for him is growing. How the **** does she beleive words coming from this guy that has no Actions. I've read a book call "The 5 Love Languages", and He only meets one criteria, Words of affirmation. I meet like all five of the Criterias. Please can someone give me some input of what yall think I should do. I tried the NC but that does not help at all.
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