sambagirl Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Hi, I'll try to make it short. My boyfriend and I had a huge fight this weekend (we've been together for 2 months) and, well, it was really a misunderstanding, I blew it out of proportion as usual, said some things, and then he said he was sorry, and I said I was sorry, and everything's fine now. But, we have a friend in common, and I told him about the whole thing, I was very sad all day today, I didn't eat anything all day because I wasn't hungry, only got hungry about 2 hours ago. So I mentioned this to my bf before our friend told him about it (because I know it sounds a little extreme but I was so sad, I didn't feel like eating). So he got a little pissed off and told me to never do that again, and then he said he was going to bed, said goodbye as usual, said he loved me, but to promise him to never stop eating again because of something like that. Now I'm confused, does he think less of me now? Did I seem too needy and now he feels pity for me or something? Or is this something normal between couples who fight and I shouldn't think much of it? I'm afraid he'll treat me differently now for knowing how sad I got because of the whole thing. Thanks for any replies.
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Sounds to me like he cares about you and doesn't like the thought of you not eating. But especially as it ties into something that he had part in creating. Nobody could really tell for sure if he thinks less of you, but I'm inclined to say no - he just didn't like hearing about you doing something possibly harmful to yourself.
justwantlove Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Sounds to me like he cares about you and doesn't like the thought of you not eating. But especially as it ties into something that he had part in creating. Nobody could really tell for sure if he thinks less of you, but I'm inclined to say no - he just didn't like hearing about you doing something possibly harmful to yourself. I would agree i dont think itll change his mind but i personal wouldnt show him this kind of weakness(?) again right now. A guy i new once said that in a similar but worse situation was unattractive because it made me look weak and he knew that i wasn't. I just put my stong foot forward with him for a while after that and nothing has been a problem since. I still have moments of weakess and i do let them out but i try to show strenth with the situation too so it balances out. You getting as upset as you did about it only showes that you really care and hopefully he sees that in you.
Lucky_One Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I think that you actually made a bigger deal out of not eating for the bigger part of a day than it deserved. So you didn't eat for, say 10 hours. If you didn't eat for 36 hours, then you can get accolades for how deeply this hugely sorrowful event effected you. What were you LOOKING for from him, to tell him something like this? Did you want him to rush over with some Campbell's soup to force feed you? Did you want him to say "Oh wow she must REALLY care for me because of this?" This wasn't a life-altering or odd event (many many people lose appetites for all sorts of reasons), so why the need to mention it to him and to make it into such a big deal? Perhaps he may think that you are a bit of a drama queen, or he may think that you are flaky and have an eating disorder, or he may have known someone with a eating disorder in the past and he could fear that you are going to develop one in a bid for attention. Or he could think nothing of it and just go to bed. Who knows?
dreamergrl Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 He might find it unhealthy and extreme to stop eating over being sad.
mushmush Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I think you are over thinking things. All you did was loose your appetite for half a day
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