4givrnt4gtr Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 So, friday i sent my ex a drunken message telling him i missed him and hope he was doing well... he answered today "Yeah school is going well and I'm having a pretty good time. Trying to stay busy with new things as well as finding a job. I hope you are doing awesome and like the being a psychologist and not running into too many (his town) crazies" To me this read "im moving on and so should you" Right? I went online to find out how to get over him....other than NC which wasnt working at all.... I found this. It helped a lot so i figured id share with you guys.... http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up Anyway....hope your weekend was better than mine....but i got a feeling this should be the last straw on my accepting that its completely over.
Leia Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I read the other thread. Oh whoawee ... what a boo-boo you made. You will get over this. I have been there and I'm thankful thatI have stopped drinking
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 Good god....i am on a suicidal mission apparently (not really) I just replied to his message....i totally changed the tone now.... "hahaha yeah no more (his town) crazies...just that one and as a matter of fact he is doing better so there is hope for you all Im doing well too, i love the clinic and my patients. Im finally doing something i love and im good at! yey! Other than that just busy with school and applications. God i forgot how painful those were! Looks like you're doing great, saw a picture of you in a suit surrounded by pretty ladies. Good job! Alright boy, take care. Good hearing from you. " my thought here is....at this point all we can be is friends....so lets be friends. Seeing this picture of him and the girls didnt make me flinch as much as i thought it would, thus the reason i joked about it. I realize that i mostly miss talking to him. He was fun and interesting to talk to....but in reality he cannot give me what i need. Sad as it might be. In the past the only way i was able to get over an ex was by changing the light i saw him on, by making him my friend. I was then able to really see who he is and realize he is just another human being, not some superhero in civilian clothing... Ofcourse im not trying to be best buds with this guy....just change the light i see him on..... lets hope im right about this one
ATR Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 You shouldn't have replied, you are still hung up over him. If i were you i'd go NC asap.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 You shouldn't have replied, you are still hung up over him. If i were you i'd go NC asap. I still like him but I no longer harbor any hopes of a reconciliation. Its obvious he is moving on and is happy without us so Im respecting. I feel incredibly free today. Like the shackle that tied me to him broke this weekend by hearing him say he was happy. I think i kept holding on because somehow i thought he would not be happy and would realize he really wanted to be with me. Now i know thats not true. I think i was using NC as a way to make him miss me. Now that i know its not possible i dont see the point on doing that. I mean im not contacting him or calling him ofcourse, but im not shunning him either. There is no point, he is stepping down from the throne i had him in and becoming one more.... so very liberating. Since i started NC by deleting him from all my networks etc i felt like i was giving him so much power mostly because i would constantly think of him and wonder whats going on. Somehow after this weekend....i just dont care. weird huh
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