bac Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 (edited) I was emailing to young guys in 20s on personals. I am in 40s. A hot guy was very interested in meeting me according to his emails. He told me that he was not popular with girls and had a fantasy of an older woman. We were emailing each other for 1-2 months. His emails were mostly meaningless, but sweet. He sent me many very sexy pics of him to turn me on. Finally, he told me that he wanted to meet me and we set a day. On the day of meeting he started vanishing into thin air without any note. He did not give me his phone#, so I am pretty sure he was leading me on. Why would a young guy do that? What did he gain? Is not that natural for a young guy to want to score? But, that guy obviously did not want to score, instead he wanted to waste his time writing useless emails for the whole month. If a girl is a flake, I would understand because girls are not necessary want just to score. Edited October 26, 2009 by bac
Lucky_One Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 You're a girl, and you just want to score. Bac, I think you need to remember that you are just looking for random hook-ups from young guys. Expecting "typical" dating behavior in an atypical situation isn't ever going to work. Maybe he really wasn't a 20 year old guy. Maybe he has a speech impediment. Maybe he was playing a game with you to be cruel. Maybe he is too shy to have sex with a strange woman who is that much older than him.
boogieboy Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 a. Most young boys/men are insecure. Get used to it. b. While they say they want a cougar, if a young hottie comes their way, they'll "pounce" on her. c. Don't expect to have much fun other than meaningless sex. There will be no "relationship" in the typical sense of the word. d. What did you expect? My definition of "cougar" isn't just an older woman. It's a HOT, HOT, HOT older woman....but that's just me. Leave the young guys alone, theres plenty of guys your age that just want sex.
ADF Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Why would a young guy do that? What did he gain? There'a a lot of young men--and some older ones, too--who measure their manliness in their ability to "get over" on women. They like to trick, fool, frustrate, even humiliate them. Stringly you along may have been soemthing he did as an ego boost. Sick, childish, but there it is.
threebyfate Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 had a fantasy of an older woman.I think he's stated quite clearly, what he was after. When fantasy got close to reality, he bolted.
Lucky_One Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Bac, why the meeting through personals for sex? I was telling a guy friend today that I felt pretty confident that if I wanted to badly enough that I could have sex with a man within a two hour time period (part of that time is so I can shave my legs and shower). If you just want to get laid, why not just go out and troll for some guy to have sex with? Why all of this back and forth emailing crap? Why not go right for the gusto and find some young guy in a bar?
Author bac Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 Bac, why the meeting through personals for sex? If you just want to get laid, why not just go out and troll for some guy to have sex with? Why all of this back and forth emailing crap? Why not go right for the gusto and find some young guy in a bar? I am looking for a guy who I would like. He should have some right qualities which I like. I have no interest in a random guy from a bar because I do not know anything about him.
Author bac Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 a. Leave the young guys alone, theres plenty of guys your age that just want sex. Guys, who are about the same age as me, are not interested in me at all. Guys, who are much younger or much older, show more interest in me.
Lucky_One Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I am looking for a guy who I would like. He should have some right qualities which I like. I have no interest in a random guy from a bar because I do not know anything about him. So you are looking for a relationship?
frustr8ed Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 It's not just the boy's, it seems to be this current generation. I see it all the time women in their early twenties. I had this girl tell one of my friends that " I had to ask her out!" So I did and she agreed to go (bought tickets to see a musical at the theater), then flaked out on me a week before the show. The young ones like their games/attention but seem to lack a pair when it's time to step up to the plate.
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