RealtorMom Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 I'm mid 40's, divorced, dating a 53 y/o for about 3 years. He lives about an hour from me in a large home by himself. Part of the home has been converted to an apartment, no separate entrance, tenant has to come in through garage & family room to get to the steps that lead to the 3rd floor where the apartment is located. I've never had a problem with previous tenants he's had, either men or older women, not a threat to me in other words. He is interviwing a 29 year old single female this week as a perspective new tenant who he connected with through a website for tenants/landlords, her picture was posted and he reach out to her first (yes she is attractive), I also discovered on his profile on that site that he cut 10 years off his age. Needless to say I'm not comfortable at all with this set up but I haven't said anything as its not a done deal yet, he's interviewing others. Its not that I don't trust him (welll.....maybe just a little), its just a situation I would not want him in (and I know he'd be very upset if the situation were reversed). He has no kids, nobody else living there. I'm not really a control freak, and usually not at all insecure, and am considered very attractive and look younger than my age, but I think this would put a strain on the relationship....any suggestions on how to handle this?
ADF Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 You should tell him exactly what your concerns are, because they are valid. Lies about his age? Red flag. Runs right to the 29 year old attractive female? Red flag. 29 is pretty young, and young people are not always the most financially responsible people. The biggest red flag is that he would object to your doing something similar. In my experience, the most jealous men are usually the quickest to cheat.
Author RealtorMom Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 Thanks ADF, I should say something before she shows up for the "interview" on Friday. I was thinking exactly what you said (especially about the very jealous ones being the first to hide something) but sometimes you just need to hear someone else say it. He's got a 58 year old guy looking at the place on Wed who is very interested in it, so I didn't want to make a big deal over something that may not happen. I will still have to address the fact that he lied about his age on that site, and pursued the 29 year old first as a perspective tenant. Those things are problems regardless of who rents the place.
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