Author CaliGuy Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 Skillet was just trying to make a point that people who complain about things should be aware that there is most DEFINITELY something about their profile that annoys someone else in the world. This thread, in all honesty, isn't ironic, funny, or informative. If anything its hypocritical. Maybe, but it's the way he comes off that irked people. It's not like I went to the dating site and complained or called out specific users. I noticed a trend/pattern of behaviors that annoyed me. Things people should NOT do when they are looking for a life partner. As someone else said, "We're not shopping for shoes here"... and that's a very good point. And sure, there's probably something about my profile people don't like (like a checklist -- haha, I am sure that annoys people!). They are free to complain all they want -- it's not going to bother me And yes, I do find the humor in complaining about people who complain. It's kind of like having no tolerance for people who have no tolerance
fral945 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 If a woman only has a picture of her face and shoulders and nothing below, she is almost always hiding a weight problem. I've been tricked twice by that. Nearly every woman I've met online was fat, but most of them said "average" or "a few extra pounds". Guess (like one of the other posters said) that fat is "average", so technically they aren't lying. To be on the safe side, from now on if they have no full body shots that are recent I ignore them.
Author CaliGuy Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 To be on the safe side, from now on if they have no full body shots that are recent I ignore them. Easy way to know is if most/all of their pictures are looking at them from the top down. Usually just their face and cleavage. They do this, I've found, to hide their body and make their face look slimmer. They also like poking their beaucoup cleavage out there as an additional selling point. When I see those type of photos, I click "next" - lol
Author CaliGuy Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 It's got nothing to do with the way I said things. You would have been irked no matter which way I came across about it. You just didn't like that I disagreed with you. Which is fine. It must really hurt your ego when someone disagrees with you. On the contrary, I think it's your ego that was effected judging by your responses. No one else took my post personal (or appeared to take it personal) as you did. This is a public message board. If my ego was ever effected by any of the countless, thousands of post which differ from my opinion I would have left years ago. This is definitely not a place for people with fragile egos, that's for sure... Whatever floats your boat though. This is a message board which means there's no way for you tell the tone of voice behind my posts since you can't hear me. Meh, I disagree. Tone can be discerned quite easily based on the words you choose and how you deliver them in your message. People who don't want their messages to come across in a negative tone won't post that way. Cheers.
edinsvet Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I recently contacted that "It's Just Lunch" dating service, but they wanted like 1,000 bucks for a dozen dates. I decided to take the money and get a few "It's Just Sex" dates instead. that is funny
betamanlet Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Having standards when you're online dating does not mean you're critical in general. You're potentially choosing a life partner, not shopping for shoes, so when you see countless profiles demonstrating the points in this thread it's a bit disheartening. Who wants to date someone who can lie so easily about things like age and weight? Who wants to date someone who talks like a gangster teenager online? Who wants to date someone so persistant bordering on becoming a pest? (when you don't reply) These things say alot about who they are. It makes the normal guys stand out more though... Nobody has a problem with standards, but what about laundry lists of requirements?
edinsvet Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Hmmmm...... 1. The hardest for me is always when you go on the date you like them and then they don't fullow through. I know it is not necessarily personal but that always hurts. 2. Spending hours and hours of energy to go on a date and then realizing I would have made the same conclusion she was not for me in an offline setting in about 2 seconds. 3. The hot girl who writes you 25 or more messages and then doesn't want to give you her number. I have never figured out the logic behind that one. 4. People who write rude things.
betamanlet Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Hmmmm...... 1. The hardest for me is always when you go on the date you like them and then they don't fullow through. I know it is not necessarily personal but that always hurts. 2. Spending hours and hours of energy to go on a date and then realizing I would have made the same conclusion she was not for me in an offline setting in about 2 seconds. 3. The hot girl who writes you 25 or more messages and then doesn't want to give you her number. I have never figured out the logic behind that one. 4. People who write rude things. Something tells me the #3 girl is an employee of the company and not the person you think they are.
alphamale Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 for the average person online dating is a complete waste of time and money
betamanlet Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 for the average person online dating is a complete waste of time and money I say it's worthwhile for women, but for men, it's pretty much a waste of time/money because: (1) There are way more men than women on these sites (2) A decent % of women on online dating sites are there only for the self esteem boost of getting 50 responses a day. (3) The few that actually are there to date can afford to have huge laundry lists because they meet plenty of guys in person, so online is a place where they can find what they consider ideal. In short, for a guy, unless you are ideal, it's a waste of money in most cases.
justforfun Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 PofF is a great free website by far the largest with about 16m members. Women outnumber men 70/30. So, for a woman it's a deal. I actually like online dating. It's not much different to meeting someone elsewhere, swapping numbers and hanging out/going on a date. I don't get into long drawn out messaging before we meet. I'm not a big fan of 'making a connection' before I have met the guy in person. It's great opportunity to meet guys that are looking for the same thing but who ordinarily you would never meet. I do have a pet peeve. Those guys who must believe that anything can happen on the internet. Gross, old, obese, hideous guys who contact me. I'm wondering what the hell are they thinking? I'm an attractive woman. I am astounded at the munters that wink at me/send me a message. And before all of you start. I'm not being full of myself. In fact I could post a few pics of them on here. They'd have trouble finding any woman.
justforfun Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I'm chatting on PoF right now and in the side panel there is this advertisement. Look carefully and see that they offer these clothes in plus sizes. A little surprised was I
edinsvet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 When I lived in America, I used to really like the POF forums. but they block my entire country from accessing their site. Too many scammers in the former Soviet Republics.
edinsvet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I'm chatting on PoF right now and in the side panel there is this advertisement. Look carefully and see that they offer these clothes in plus sizes. A little surprised was I Those clothes in Plus sizes is just wrong.
Holding-On Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I say it's worthwhile for women, but for men, it's pretty much a waste of time/money because: (1) There are way more men than women on these sites (2) A decent % of women on online dating sites are there only for the self esteem boost of getting 50 responses a day. (3) The few that actually are there to date can afford to have huge laundry lists because they meet plenty of guys in person, so online is a place where they can find what they consider ideal. In short, for a guy, unless you are ideal, it's a waste of money in most cases. This has not been my experience as a woman. My experiences are that men are flaky too. That it is a lot of work and messaging and a bit taxing.
Isolde Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Easy way to know is if most/all of their pictures are looking at them from the top down. Usually just their face and cleavage. They do this, I've found, to hide their body and make their face look slimmer. They also like poking their beaucoup cleavage out there as an additional selling point. When I see those type of photos, I click "next" - lol A lot of slim women post those photos too. The classic "emo" pose.
Author CaliGuy Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 A lot of slim women post those photos too. The classic "emo" pose. If all their photos are top down, odds are they are obese. Slender/Fit women usually have OTHER photos and don't need the "emo" pose, lol!
Author CaliGuy Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 for the average person online dating is a complete waste of time and money Good thing I have a great job that offers me lots of free time -- and PoF is free!
D-Lish Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I just returned a message on POF the other day- the first one I've returned in months. Douche's with their shirts off is a huge turn off. Guys that post a profile pic with bar whores or ex's is a loserish move. It's a deal breaker to read a profile and read anything negative- you just know they have issues. I got a message today from some guy and I left it to finish reading other messages- it couldn't have been more than 10 minutes...Then he messaged me AGAIN saying "sorry to have bothered you"... Less than 10 minutes without a response- and he's sending me that??? It told me everything I needed to know about that guy!
fral945 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 If all their photos are top down, odds are they are obese. Slender/Fit women usually have OTHER photos and don't need the "emo" pose, lol! Especially when they have ONLY those types of photos with body type as "Prefer not to say".
BlueHarvest Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I actually prefer a "few extra pounds" on my women. But most of the women aren't honest. Usually a few extra pounds=Morbidly obese/needs a scooter to get around almost.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I actually prefer a "few extra pounds" on my women. But most of the women aren't honest. Usually a few extra pounds=Morbidly obese/needs a scooter to get around almost. So don't do online dating. But don't forget, dating has got to be up there with job interviews, as some of the most dishonest acitivies there are. People hide for as long as possible, all of their negative aspects, but one day, they get revealed, and boy, do they get revealed. I hate dating because it's just so dishonest. And if you are honest at the beginning, very upfront, you won't get a second date.. It rewards dishonesty.
EmmaLou Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 When I used to date online, I always took it to msn after a few messages and spoke for a few weeks. I really got a feel for them and any white lies came out of the woodwork.. So I've never had the priviledge of meeting a fakey! I often wonder how awkward it is when you meet someone face-to-face for the first time and they look completely different to the picture you saw... "Err.... Hi, nice to..err... meet you? I just need to get something from my car... *tyres squeal* Hehe...
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 When I used to date online, I always took it to msn after a few messages and spoke for a few weeks. I really got a feel for them and any white lies came out of the woodwork.. So I've never had the priviledge of meeting a fakey! I often wonder how awkward it is when you meet someone face-to-face for the first time and they look completely different to the picture you saw... "Err.... Hi, nice to..err... meet you? I just need to get something from my car... *tyres squeal* Hehe... Dammit, this is America, speak American!
EmmaLou Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Dammit, this is America, speak American! *says it out loud with an American accent, y'all* Which bit I wrote was too UK-ish?
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