Top 13 annoying things about people on dating sites:

[CaliGuy]

I have been a little tolerant of the no pic rule if I feel the profile is interesting and well written. The leash is short and if a pic isn't provided within an email or two, I lose interest. I have been pleasantly surprised a few times. In my mind, the no pic was validated as they were teachers, a mayoral assistant and a television reporter.

 

Of course, there are also the ones who expect you to fall in love with them before they reveal how unattractive they are and the cheaters you reference.

 

For the most part, you are correct, but there are valid exceptions.

 

Heh, that would be a pleasant surprise. Mostly my experience is that they are simply cheaters or currently dating someone and browsing the menu. In either case, no pic, no reply

 

I've purused match.com for entertainment purposes only.

 

Things that crack me up:

 

Ridiculously hot women in their late 30's never married or have kids & looking for James Bond. No exceptions. Unless their rich. (honestly, I don't think she's going to have much luck on match.com)

 

Women that post pictures of themselves with their boyfriend literally just cut out of the photo. (seriously? you can't work the timer on a digital camera or have someone take a picture for you?)

 

That is pretty funny. I mean, you don't have a better photo than one of you with your exes face cut out of the picture. In that case, I'd say the bathroom mirror pic is better. LOL.

[paperchase]

I never tried on-line dating but I have though about it. Once out of school, the opportunity to meet new lovers is diminished. I really cannot date co-workers because of my professional seniority and while I do hang out, I've yet to have a meaningful relationship without anyone I met at a bar or night club. I did date a woman once and we were looking to spice up our life on line and I can attest to the fact that many of the third wheels were much heavier than advertised.

 

What's good CaliGuy?

[CaliGuy]

I never tried on-line dating but I have though about it. Once out of school, the opportunity to meet new lovers is diminished. I really cannot date co-workers because of my professional seniority and while I do hang out, I've yet to have a meaningful relationship without anyone I met at a bar or night club. I did date a woman once and we were looking to spice up our life on line and I can attest to the fact that many of the third wheels were much heavier than advertised.

 

What's good CaliGuy?

 

What's good about it?

 

Well there's a relatively large pool of people to choose from. You get to find things out about people in advance so you can screen them in or out depending on your requirements. I'm very open and honest about what I am seeking so it automatically screens out women I know in advance I'm not going to be interested in.

 

And yes, I guess if I was looking at my profile from the outside I have stringent requirements but that's because I know what I bring to the table in a relationship

 

That said, until you actually go out on dates it's sort of like what Forrest Gump said about life and chocolate: "You never know what you're gonna get..."

[paperchase]

What's good about it?

 

Well there's a relatively large pool of people to choose from. You get to find things out about people in advance so you can screen them in or out depending on your requirements. I'm very open and honest about what I am seeking so it automatically screens out women I know in advance I'm not going to be interested in.

 

And yes, I guess if I was looking at my profile from the outside I have stringent requirements but that's because I know what I bring to the table in a relationship

 

That said, until you actually go out on dates it's sort of like what Forrest Gump said about life and chocolate: "You never know what you're gonna get..."

 

Thanks for your response. When I asked "What's good?" it was my way of saying what's up, how ya been. Lol! But what's a good dating site you'd recommend?

[CaliGuy]

Thanks for your response. When I asked "What's good?" it was my way of saying what's up, how ya been. Lol! But what's a good dating site you'd recommend?

 

LOL, oh ok! I'm good, fantastic really, thanks for asking

 

I use PoF but there are plenty of others. I have tried Match in the past and while the quality is better, people are just as picky/flakey on pay sites as they are on free sites so why pay?

[littlewhiterose]

This coming from the girl who thinks that "ask me for details" means they have something to hide? Paranoid much? Ask me for details means ask me for details. Maybe they can't express themselves well on an online environment. Maybe they don't know what to say. It's very hard to personify yourself in 500 words or less ...or using "buzz words" that fit into the dating sites matchmaking ability.

 

Ask me for details is a way to see who is interested. Now if that's ALL they have in their profile, I wouldn't think that they have something to hide, I would think they were too lazy and hence wouldn't message them for that reason. But if they have a profile with a little info about themselves and then at the end "ask me for details" I'll just assume that they would rather keep somethings private until they know me(you) better.

 

As for the cell-phone bathroom mirror shots....unless they are posing in a bathing suit/partially nude/towel....there's nothing wrong with it. Some people want to upload a "new" photo. What's the quickest way to get a photo of yourself on the fly? Go to your bathroom mirror with your cell-phone camera and snap a shot. Sure it's not exactly exciting or glamorous, but it actually shows a relative normalcy about the person. In fact I'd rather prefer those over the "Here I am on a friday night with my best makeup, best clothes, best side facing the camera" photos.

 

And to those who are want people to know the "inner you" and dont post any pictures. Don't expect to get messaged alot. Regardless of personality, people want someone who looks at least half-way decent. At least show your face. (Personally, I'm the type of guy that as long as you have a decent face the rest of your body doesn't really matter, in fact I prefer my women a bit larger then norm but that's neither here nor there.)

 

Paranoid?! Of what? Nope! A lie speaks more of the liar than the person being lied to but that's for another thread. I was responding to what he chose to post: his purpose for using the site, and him referring to women as "hoes":eek:!

[aerogurl87]

Haha I love it Caliguy!

 

1) People who write "will write more later" in their profile when it's been up for like 2 months.

2) Men who email asking what's your bra size or anything else that is totally innappropriate for a first email.

3) People who spell entire words with one letter or numbers (ex. "C you later" or "Want 2 hang out?")

4) Anyone who doesn't even use basic spell check on their profile.

5) Stating that you're ready to settle down and yet having a picture on your profile that shows you surrounded by women at what is obviously a wild party.

6) Constantly emailing me if I say I'm not interested and asking to meet. (If I'm not interested in even emailing you, why would I want to actually meet you in real life?!?!?)

 

That's all I can think of for now. I tried online dating for a bit and I'm glad I can now stop since I found my boyfriend (whom I ironically met in a chat room and he had the worst spelling ever, lol).

Edited October 27, 2009 by aerogurl87

[CaliGuy]

No kidding. A friend on PoF sent me a profile where the guy had said:

 

"No lizbeans or bichecks."

 

I kid you not.

 

Spelling and grammar was not his forte!

[littlewhiterose]

No kidding. A friend on PoF sent me a profile where the guy had said:

 

"No lizbeans or bichecks."

 

I kid you not.

 

Spelling and grammar was not his forte!

 

OH! That's rough!

[EmmaLou]

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These are guys in their 40's and not many can spell, use sentence structure, paragraphs or proper punctuation.

 

When I used to have a profile on POF, that was something that always shocked me too. Lot's of text speak i.e. u r so gr8, r u OK?, lolz, loads of emotes, no commas so their whole message would be one big huge block! There were so many like this... I've seen older female profiles like this too. You might expect it from a teenager but from adults!? They're only letting themselves down because I know adults in real life who talk like this online, yet are very literate, well spoken and intelligent face-to-face... they're selling themselves short!

 

Might aswell carry on now I've started.... hehe...

• married men! both blatently married, and the lying ones who say they're single.
  
• torso shots
  
• gangster shots
  
• no smiling pictures
  
• lying about age
  
• sex chat
  
• persistant men who wouldn't accept a non-reply meant uninterested.
  

[CaliGuy]

When I used to have a profile on POF, that was something that always shocked me too. Lot's of text speak i.e. u r so gr8, r u OK?, lolz, loads of emotes, no commas so their whole message would be one big huge block! There were so many like this... I've seen older female profiles like this too. You might expect it from a teenager but from adults!? They're only letting themselves down because I know adults in real life who talk like this online, yet are very literate, well spoken and intelligent face-to-face... they're selling themselves short!

 

Might aswell carry on now I've started.... hehe...

• married men! both blatently married, and the lying ones who say they're single.
  
• torso shots
  
• gangster shots
  
• no smiling pictures
  
• lying about age
  
• sex chat
  
• persistant men who wouldn't accept a non-reply meant uninterested.
  

 

Great list! I have literally had to BLOCK people to stop them from contacting me, even after I have made it CLEAR AS DAY that I was not interested.

[leap83]

On Eharmony, I got matched with a guy who answered "sex" to everything. I also got a person by the name of "John LOL". Or guys claiming they're older than their actual age - for God's sake, I can tell from your picture you're way younger!!!!

[kiss_andmakeup]

This thread is funny. I agree with what has been said, especially the guys with shots of only their shirtless torso with their head cut off. Either you're in a relationship and don't want to be identified, or you have a seriously ugly face.

 

I remember when I was on OkCupid (please also note I was 20 years old at the time), I got 4 or 5 messages from a married guy in his mid-fifties asking if I wanted to have a threesome with himself and his wife.

 

Every 20 year old girl's dream, right?

 

I ignored his messages (I will admit I was bad with that - ignoring people I wasn't interested in instead of politely telling them - but how are you supposed to respond to all those messages?) but he was persistent. Gross.

[Avarage]

Or guys claiming they're older than their actual age - for God's sake, I can tell from your picture you're way younger!!!!

 

I would be careful on this one since I myself do look younger than I really am. Most people when they first meet me estimate my age to be about five to six years younger than I am. I’m sure it will pay off in my later thirties to forties, but for now it’s more of a hindrance.

[leap83]

I would be careful on this one since I myself do look younger than I really am. Most people when they first meet me estimate my age to be about five to six years younger than I am. I’m sure it will pay off in my later thirties to forties, but for now it’s more of a hindrance.

 

Well, I had a guy claiming he was 28. Then he sent me a picture of himself and he looked 16. There is no way he is 28. I know what you mean because I look younger as well (about 2-3 yrs younger) but when I open my mouth, people tend to think I'm older than my actual age (then they start to wonder how old I actually am). This guy was talking immature and he looked very young. I know when a guy looks young and when he is young. Haha.

[Sith Apprentice]

I recently contacted that "It's Just Lunch" dating service, but they wanted like 1,000 bucks for a dozen dates. I decided to take the money and get a few "It's Just Sex" dates instead.

[Thornton]

Women please keep your dopey pets out of your photos, they mean nothing to men. I dont care to see your pet until I get to your place. Ill be glad to pet the lil gremlin when I see him.

 

Don't you think being a pet lover is part of someone's personality? Photos of your dog show you to be a caring person who loves animals. Although I have to admit that I'm not keen if a guy posts photos of his dog, because I worry that his dog wouldn't get on with my dog! I much prefer guys with no dogs, so they can devote all their attention to my dog, plus if they have no dog there's no chance of a mean pooch snapping at my precious pup and hurting her

[WTFO]

Don't you think being a pet lover is part of someone's personality? Photos of your dog show you to be a caring person who loves animals. Although I have to admit that I'm not keen if a guy posts photos of his dog, because I worry that his dog wouldn't get on with my dog! I much prefer guys with no dogs, so they can devote all their attention to my dog, plus if they have no dog there's no chance of a mean pooch snapping at my precious pup and hurting her

 

 

Hate the solo animal shots. It's ok if your in the picture with the pet,but come on. The only thing I hate worse are those moronic scenic shots. WTF?? Why?

[CaliGuy]

Those who complain & criticize other people's profiles is also an annoying thing about online dating.

 

By being critical you are just as guilty of annoying behavior as you accuse others of being annoying if not more.

 

It's also very easy for me to spot critical people & that's a deal-breaker for me. I wouldn't eve think about dating a woman who listed 13 annoying things about other people's profiles online.

 

Good thing I am not a woman.

 

You might add to your profile: "No sense of humor"....

[Sam Spade]

 

It's also very easy for me to spot critical people & that's a deal-breaker for me. I wouldn't eve think about dating a woman who listed 13 annoying things about other people's profiles online.

Yes , the hissy check lists tell all

[littlewhiterose]

Those who complain & criticize other people's profiles is also an annoying thing about online dating.

 

By being critical you are just as guilty of annoying behavior as you accuse others of being annoying if not more.

 

It's also very easy for me to spot critical people & that's a deal-breaker for me. I wouldn't eve think about dating a woman who listed 13 annoying things about other people's profiles online.

 

 

Oh the irony! You're doing the very thing you say you don't like others to do? How does that work?

 

But seriously, how else do things change but through discussion and action? Lighten up!

Edited October 27, 2009 by littlewhiterose

[EmmaLou]

Having standards when you're online dating does not mean you're critical in general. You're potentially choosing a life partner, not shopping for shoes, so when you see countless profiles demonstrating the points in this thread it's a bit disheartening. Who wants to date someone who can lie so easily about things like age and weight? Who wants to date someone who talks like a gangster teenager online? Who wants to date someone so persistant bordering on becoming a pest? (when you don't reply) These things say alot about who they are. It makes the normal guys stand out more though...

Edited October 27, 2009 by EmmaLou

[EmmaLou]

Having standards is one thing. If I don't like a certain person's profile I just move on to the next. I don't need to complain to anyone about the annoying profiles on a dating site. Those who complain about the annoying profiles are annoying too.

 

You can have standards and keep your complaints to yourself. I would not want to be on a date with someone who will talk to me about all the annoying habits that people do on online dating. I'd be like "ok fine what's your point? Why are you telling me this?"

 

If someone's pestering me with emails on the site all I have to do is block them. It's very simple. I don't need to get annoyed with them.

 

 

But that's what all the people in this thread probably do.. just block the person, move onto the next profile and not get annoyed with it. And I would never bring it up on a date, as I wouldn't have spent any time thinking about it. But a forum is for discussion..

 

You're the one getting annoyed. You're coming across as a bit uptight, which is another thing to add to the list... You have bare torso pics on your profile don't you!

[littlewhiterose]

 

You can have standards and keep your complaints to yourself. I would not want to be on a date with someone who will talk to me about all the annoying habits that people do on online dating. I'd be like "ok fine what's your point? Why are you telling me this?"

 

I think two ideas are getting confused. I would hope one would not discuss the things you find inadequate to what you're looking for on said date. But more importantly why would one go on the date after seeing that many violations on one's list?

 

Nobody's perfect, you're right about that! It's not a matter of thinking you're better than the next person either. It may just be a matter of putting a little forethought into presenting yourself in the best way possible. After all, everyone's all on that same site together looking for their "better" half.

[BlueHarvest]

Oh the irony! You're doing the very thing you say you don't like others to do? How does that work?

 

But seriously, how else do things change but through discussion and action? Lighten up!

 

No she's not. I think you're confusing irony with decisiveness. She doesn't need to "lighten up" . She has every right to point out the inherent flaws of the people who complain about "annoying dating site trends" as you have every right to point out said trends.

 

No I'm not. If I find certain profiles annoying I keep it to myself & move on. I don't need to come to a message board & complain about it.

 

Quite so.

 

The thing is nobody is perfect. There's probably things about caliguy's profile that some people find annoying too. Different strokes for different folks.

 

What you consider annoying with other profiles you never know who might be annoyed with yours. The qualities you bring to the table may be someone else's deal-breakers.

 

You can't please everybody. It's certainly not my goal to please everybody on a dating site either.

 

I only need 1 match. I don't need 10,000 matches!

 

There's a saying. "You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can't please all the people all the time."

 

There's also another axiom which I live by. It's an unfortunate truth too....

 

"You will meet people in life you just won't get along with, the sooner you realize that, the sooner you can move on when you meet those people and not waste your time worrying or wasting your energy on them."

 

Like she said, she only needs 1 match. Not 10,000.

 

I think that what one person may find annoying, the next might find endearing. For example: there's already at least one thing in this thread people disagree about...the pet shots. Some people like them, some don't. Just because you don't like them doesn't make that person who posted it any less of a person.

 

I have to say those people are probably not pet owners, and if they are well...I'll be blunt...they probably don't own the pet of their own free will. Voluntary pet owners love their pets. Alot. That's all I'm going to discuss on this topic.

 

Skillet was just trying to make a point that people who complain about things should be aware that there is most DEFINITELY something about their profile that annoys someone else in the world. This thread, in all honesty, isn't ironic, funny, or informative. If anything its hypocritical.