singlegirl Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 So, have never been wooed like this in years. I am after a month smitten totally , My new man wanted to see me three nights in a row to get to know eachother properly which we did. We connected amazingly Thursday night...he turns up with the biggest bouquet of flowers imaginable....Friday night he is home as were both worn out.... texts and asks is it too late to call. I reply no which he mistakes for me saying don't call....He doesn't tell me this of course till the next day. I don't know how it came up but was glad we cleared it up. I had felt a shift in him somehow though, slight but there Saturday was his birthday, he didn't want to "share me with his friends" so he came to my house again..I bought him some nice gifts, two ties and a pair of smart leather gloves. I put a lovely message in the card, put with love as everyone does that....I haven't said I love you or anyhting stupid like that. he told me Thursday "you rock my world" he texts me and tells me he's thinking of me all the time etc.... So even though I say take yr time chill, get here when youre good and ready, he can't wait to get here.... He seems happy, I go get the little birthday cake I bought him and asked him to make a wish....I was so happy, the he drops the bombshell "This is moving so fast I just need to catch up" My lip quivered and he knew he had hurt me... I had explained to him about me having problems socialising earlier. I worry that this is affecting his thought processes about me....He is intense, gregarious but funny...He has a million friends and I have struggled as a single parent for 20yrs with no family or support system....I am quiet, reserved and calm.....He took me out today and taught me to play golf and I did it really well but when we had dinner it was tense and uncomfortable.... Any ideas what's going on?
JustLooking123 Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 What do you mean, "any idea what's going on"? It's pretty clear that you guys really did move too fast. The compatability issues you mention may or may not be a factor. It's only been a month. Back off for a bit, don't contact him, let him contact you.
Author singlegirl Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 (edited) Thanks guys, yeah I feel we both let things get carried away.....I was thinking of asking him to get together at the weekend and not meet up this week during the week..... He is trying to sort a lot of stuff out in his own life, job, home etc...These are huge things for anyone especially a man who's trying to impress a woman he likes...I felt that he was tired and stressed on Friday night and the fact that he thought I said he couldn't call me threw him for a loop..Logically I think this was the first time he realised he could get hurt..... We are both vulnerable in different ways, sensitive and very emotional...It's what's making it beautiful but also what's making it difficult. We both have stuff we need to fix my anxiety in social situations worries me greatly.. Were connecting on such a deep level at times I guess it's scary...He invited me to meet his Mother in a couple of weeks but I will tread morre cautiously from now and not go there no matter how much he asks me too..... His heart is running a mile ahead of his head. I think I now need to make sure we don't run before we can walk .... I love this forum, it's so nice to get other people's imput. Thank you guys again Edited October 26, 2009 by singlegirl
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