i'mfaraway Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 How many of you men have given up on the women you went on early dates with after sensing no-interest from them? What were the female signals that made you give up? Women, have you (for some reasons) given mixed signals to men that were probably interpreted as no-interest on your part and made them give up on you? Do you know on hindsight what the signals were?
alphamale Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 What were the female signals that made you give up? when she said to me: "i don't like you..."
Author i'mfaraway Posted October 25, 2009 Author Posted October 25, 2009 when she said to me: "i don't like you..." What non-verbal signals would you intepret as no-interest?
mushmush Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 poor eye contact poor hygene leaves after 1 drink
Sith Apprentice Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Failing the 3 date rule= **** you b1tch. I recently went on 4 dates with a woman because I like her personality, silly me.
MalachiX Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Pepper spray to the face is usually a good hint for me as are the words, "when I used to be a man..."
Author i'mfaraway Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 What about a woman not telling you she enjoyed the date or committing to a subsequent date? What does that tell?
phineas Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 What about a woman not telling you she enjoyed the date or committing to a subsequent date? What does that tell? I've had women tell me that had a good time & want to do it again then blow me off. Actions. Don't worry about what she says or doesn't say. Wait & see what she does. If a woman is interested in you after a first date she will make a 2nd date happen. At least that is my experiance.
2sure Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 If I dont touch you at all the whole night while we are talking...you can count on it being an accident if I ever see you again, regardless of what I say.
homersheineken Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 poor hygene leaves after 1 drink Are you sure that's a clear sign that she's not into you? I'd rethink that one
BlueHarvest Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Failing the 3 date rule= **** you b1tch. I recently went on 4 dates with a woman because I like her personality, silly me. You know...just pointing out that you seem to have a deep seeded Misogyny. Every one of your posts that you describe a situation about is either resentful or at least derogatory towards women. You know, I've been rejected, dumped, blown off (not in a good way), and other equally dissapointing situations with women. But I don't come on here calling them "bitches" just because things didn't work out. You might want to change your attitude; because it could be what is preventing you from doing well on these dates in the first place.
homersheineken Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 If I dont touch you at all the whole night while we are talking...you can count on it being an accident if I ever see you again, regardless of what I say. What if you do touch them multiple times (slight flirty touches) and then don't agree to 2nd date/encounter? Why would you do (any woman) do that? cocktease?
2sure Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 What if you do touch them multiple times (slight flirty touches) and then don't agree to 2nd date/encounter? Why would you do (any woman) do that? cocktease? Cocktease??? That is sooo stereotypical!! Maybe she is just Italian!
homersheineken Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Cocktease??? That is sooo stereotypical!! Maybe she is just Italian! Nah, she's polish if not that then, why?
BCCA Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Nah, she's polish if not that then, why? What kind of answer are you looking for? lol I look and see how much they smile, if they ask me any questions, if they look at me during our time together, or if theyre looking around, if her shoes are pointed toward me, if she flips her hair, but... as some one else said, I've had all the good signs, and been blown off. So, now I just kind of let things happen as they may.
Balthazar Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 A bit off-thread but wanted to comment on women not touching during a first date... I went out with a lady about 2 weeks ago and she didn't touch me at all during the whole dinner date(which she also actually cut short...). My mistake(and it was a big one) was not starting the kino myself.... However, I call her up and arrange for coffee. During the coffee, I start holding her hand and playing with her hair. Suffice it to say that it made all the difference in the world. Since then, she has been touching me all over the place . The women will blow you if you don't stake your claim....
ADF Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 People who lack interest don't talk much. They don't ask many questions and answer yours with as few words as possible. They check their watches and cell phones often. The make exuses for having to leave early. It is usually pretty easy to tell when someone isn't into you.
Isolde Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 If I dont touch you at all the whole night while we are talking...you can count on it being an accident if I ever see you again, regardless of what I say. I don't think this is true for all women. On a first meeting, I don't usually get touchy with the guy, regardless of interest level. It would be different if I already knew the guy a bit and was meeting him for a first, "real" date.
Author i'mfaraway Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 ADF, what you've described seem to be an extreme situation, no? I mean are you saying if otherwise, things are hunky dory? Isolde, I agree. I don't get touchy feely until the guy I like starts first. Men, do you always get touchy feely on a first date with a woman? If not, is that a bad sign?
mortensorchid Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I had a guy show up 45 minutes late, and HIGH. I don't think he was cognizant enough to register if I was there or not. My verbal signs that I wasn't interested in him was that I keep gesturing to the waiter every 30 seconds to bring the check. The waiter had mysteriously disappeared. Finally, I just got up, not even telling him where I was going (if he even noticed), told the hostess of the situation I was in, gave her a twenty, and left.
Author i'mfaraway Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 So men, do you always get touchy feely on a first date with a woman?
homersheineken Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 So men' date=' do you always get touchy feely on a first date with a woman?[/quote'] I try to if I'm getting good vibes. Don't women want assertive men?
2sure Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Touching someone during the course of conversation is not "touchy/feely". It can be done not only with a date, but with anyone you want to show affection to - like a friend or relative. But during a date, I find that if during the course of conversation I , for example, put my hand on his arm while we share a laugh....it makes him less nervous and lets him know I am open to being interested. However! I am not a "touchy/feely" person , especially with strangers, so if a man were to do this to me repeatedly on a first date I wouldnt like it. I'd step back.
homersheineken Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Touching someone during the course of conversation is not "touchy/feely". It can be done not only with a date, but with anyone you want to show affection to - like a friend or relative. But during a date, I find that if during the course of conversation I , for example, put my hand on his arm while we share a laugh....it makes him less nervous and lets him know I am open to being interested. However! I am not a "touchy/feely" person , especially with strangers, so if a man were to do this to me repeatedly on a first date I wouldnt like it. I'd step back. Touchy/feely with a friend is completely different than with a stranger you're on a 1st/2nd date with. If you touch my arm during a conversation, that to me is a sign to proceed with touchy/feely since you're already done it.
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