mendsley Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 (edited) For some reason I have had a really crappy day. I have been trying to stay busy to keep my mind off of my ex and her new man, but nothing I do helps ease the pain. This has totally consumed every thought I have, I cannot seem to stop thinking about why she can do something so horrible to me and she is loving life why I sit here in ****ing torture. I know people say that I can choose to move on or sit and mope, but I am really trying to move on past her. It seems like every damn thing I do something reminds me of her and my eyes start to tear up and my blood boils. I talked to my son today and it just tears me up to think that my family is no longer because of something inside of her is pulling her away from me and she does not know what it is, all she know is that we were not meant to be together. I know this is part of the grieving/loss process and I do know it will get better, but I feel like I have no where to go. I do not want to sit here at home, or go to the movies, or go walk around at the mall I feel like I am out of place in anything I do, I wish this would all stop! One quick question I have read caliguys guides and one of them said LET GO, I hear it all the time. What exactly does that mean? How the hell do you start to do that? I know it sounds so easy but I can truly say I don't know if I know how to do that. Edited October 25, 2009 by mendsley
NopeNah Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 It took me a few months of back and fourth with the ex, seeing some new chicks and being "ok" by myself. It just takes time. The more that passes the less you'll think about it. Keep your chin up!
symbol Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 For me letting go started with understanding that there are things I can control and things I can't. I can think about the things I can control and change but thinking about things I can't control is a waste of time and energy. So many things are out of your control during a break up. Yet the mind doesn't accept this and tries to find ways to change things you can't really change. Like the feelings of your ex. Stop thinking "why did she do this?". You won't find an answer and it will only prolong your pain. Accept that it's over and accept that you will grieve until you heal yourself. Give yourself time but also actively try to heal your heart. I think this is what letting go is...
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