axisdenied Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Sometimes when I try to meet a new girl, she gives me a negative facial expression. She makes an ugly face like "hey back off" or "is this guy really trying to talk to me?". I am not hitting on her. I am just trying to have casual conversation. In school girls sometimes like to rate guys. Who is cute, sexy, hot, average, nerdy, or just plain ugly. I always ended up on the ugly rating from every girl. I took a look at your photos. You are not "ugly." Your look in the face can be changed with some superficial adjustments (glasses, hair, etc), but constant rejection is usually not symptomatic of being physically unattractive. How are you approaching these women? do you have anything in common with them? do you take a class together and then approach asking questions about the lecture or the homework? what exactly do you mean by "casual conversation?" I'm trying to get you to think about how you're interacting with these women. If you are approaching random thin, large-breasted women who aren't in any of your classes or know any of your friends, you're probably going to be out of luck in the dating department. The women you describe as preferred are the ones who are relentlessly pursued by men all the time. It is understandable if they're used to playing defensively. So, tell us, what exactly are you doing to attract these women to your personality?
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 Sometimes when I try to meet a new girl, she gives me a negative facial expression. She makes an ugly face like "hey back off" or "is this guy really trying to talk to me?". I am not hitting on her. I am just trying to have casual conversation. In school girls sometimes like to rate guys. Who is cute, sexy, hot, average, nerdy, or just plain ugly. I always ended up on the ugly rating from every girl. I took a look at your photos. You are not "ugly." Your look in the face can be changed with some superficial adjustments (glasses, hair, etc), but constant rejection is usually not symptomatic of being physically unattractive. How are you approaching these women? do you have anything in common with them? do you take a class together and then approach asking questions about the lecture or the homework? what exactly do you mean by "casual conversation?" I'm trying to get you to think about how you're interacting with these women. If you are approaching random thin, large-breasted women who aren't in any of your classes or know any of your friends, you're probably going to be out of luck in the dating department. The women you describe as preferred are the ones who are relentlessly pursued by men all the time. It is understandable if they're used to playing defensively. So, tell us, what exactly are you doing to attract these women to your personality? I don't approach random girls. Most girls I have asked out were in my classes. Not all of them are large breasted women. My casual conversation when meeting a new girl in class is mainly discussing something about the class rather it is the work, teacher, or students. It is not a long discussion just a short chat. Depending on the girl and her attitude I might try to start a friendship. I will ask her "how are you" to start a conversation. If she told me about she was going to a concert, I'll ask her "how was it" after she went to the concert. I listen to women when they speak, and I rarely forget anything. Some girls are surprised that I remember the things they tell me. I also talk about things we have in the common. For example and this really happen. I met this cute girl in my math class. The first time we talked it was about the class, and I introduced myself. We set next to each other everyday. Before class we would talk about our day, her life in Germany, the class if she wanted my notes, her hobbies, we both liked football and basketball, etc. We were really cool friends. I have not had her in any other classes and this was last year.
Ross PK Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I agree, his suits do look like they're too big for him. I wouldn't say baggy though because there's a difference between something being baggy and something being too big.
axisdenied Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 That sounds good. What about your friends? do you have a supportive network of people on or around campus who can lead you to others? it is good to get out with people who know you well to show your potentials how well liked you are by others.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 I agree, his suits do look like they're too big for him. I wouldn't say baggy though because there's a difference between something being baggy and something being too big. My clothes are not too big. That sounds good. What about your friends? do you have a supportive network of people on or around campus who can lead you to others? it is good to get out with people who know you well to show your potentials how well liked you are by others. Yes, I hangout at the Student Center on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.
Ross PK Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 My clothes are not too big. How come they look that way then?
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 How come they look that way then? They don't look big, and the pictures are big.
ADF Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 FRANKLIN, I think I've figured out EXACTLY what the problem is. Here's a hypothetical situation: You and a woman are out on a date. FRANKLIN: I just got a haircut. Do you think it's too short? Woman: Well, maybe just a little. FRANKLIN: No, you're wrong. It's not too short. Woman: But you said it might be. FRANKLIN: My hair is not too short. My hair is fine. Why are you saying my hair is too short? Woman makes a mental note never to call FRANKLIN again. That's my theory. Now go ahead and tell me I'm wrong and you're right.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 FRANKLIN, I think I've figured out EXACTLY what the problem is. Here's a hypothetical situation: You and a woman are out on a date. FRANKLIN: I just got a haircut. Do you think it's too short? Woman: Well, maybe just a little. FRANKLIN: No, you're wrong. It's not too short. Woman: But you said it might be. FRANKLIN: My hair is not too short. My hair is fine. Why are you saying my hair is too short? Woman makes a mental note never to call FRANKLIN again. That's my theory. Now go ahead and tell me I'm wrong and you're right. If a girl tells me my hair is to short then that is her opinion. I would not say she is wrong. I would most likely say OK. Oh I never been on a date before. I don't think I mention that. I am guessing you are referring the comments about my clothes being too big. If so then it is completely different than an opinion about my hair. I know my suit size. I go to the suits store where I am friends with the owner. I always try suits on before I buy them, and I get the opinions about the size from the owner and his employees.
ADF Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I am referring to your tendecy to ask for an opinion then, when you get one, expalin why that opinion is wrong and yours is right. You ask for advice, but you don't really want any.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 I am referring to your tendecy to ask for an opinion then, when you get one, expalin why that opinion is wrong and yours is right. You ask for advice, but you don't really want any. I do want advice, and I am taking it. I do plan getting new glasses. I am growing a beard. Someone told me to try getting surgery for my ears. I said no. It is mine body so I have the right to say NO. If women don't want me because of who I am then they would not truly love me if I made such a major change. I was born like this. It's not like I am fat(no one is born to be 270 pounds, just example).
Johnny M Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 So basically you're an ugly black dude who's only attracted to hot white girls? Sounds like you've got a problem
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 So basically you're an ugly black dude who's only attracted to hot white girls? Sounds like you've got a problem The race of the woman does not matter to me. I just don't find many black women attractive. I have asked out two black girls, one Hispanic, and one Asian girl(not the same date). I am mostly attracted to white girls. I just been able to connect with them much better. I don't know why. I guess I just run into the right type of people.
DCchillin Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Alright, so i hate to come off like an *******, but from that post you seemed like your biggest flaw was being too arrogant, in your post you made yourself seem like a perfect guy, I don't if that's how you normally act or what, but take a step back and see if maybe that's what's putting women off. With your appearance, I think that the people at your church and your family etc. may have been sugar coating it a little bit, now the women who said you were the ugliest guy ever were also going to far, but based on those pictures I'd say you're somewhere in the middle. Certainly lose the glasses they make you look very nerdy. But the most important thing is to keep trying, and don't get discouraged, the right girl is out there for everyone
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Alright, so i hate to come off like an *******, but from that post you seemed like your biggest flaw was being too arrogant, in your post you made yourself seem like a perfect guy, I don't if that's how you normally act or what, but take a step back and see if maybe that's what's putting women off. With your appearance, I think that the people at your church and your family etc. may have been sugar coating it a little bit, now the women who said you were the ugliest guy ever were also going to far, but based on those pictures I'd say you're somewhere in the middle. Certainly lose the glasses they make you look very nerdy. But the most important thing is to keep trying, and don't get discouraged, the right girl is out there for everyone I spoke the truth about myself. I have a good life. I don't have any drama. Things are going good. That's not being arrogant, that just stating how life is for me. I am not perfect, but at this time in my life I don't have problems. I am far from the perfect guy. I can't dance. I can't attract women. I don't have much muscle. Sorry I can't lose glasses, but I will be getting new ones in three months. I can't wear contacts because my eyes are very sensitive. Anything that touches my eyes will cause them to be very irritated.
gypsy_nicky Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 FRANKLIN, I think I've figured out EXACTLY what the problem is. Here's a hypothetical situation: You and a woman are out on a date. FRANKLIN: I just got a haircut. Do you think it's too short? Woman: Well, maybe just a little. FRANKLIN: No, you're wrong. It's not too short. Woman: But you said it might be. FRANKLIN: My hair is not too short. My hair is fine. Why are you saying my hair is too short? Woman makes a mental note never to call FRANKLIN again. That's my theory. Now go ahead and tell me I'm wrong and you're right. can you tell me what type of behavior this is? I noticed it with the op too. Is it arrogance? Or something else?
DCchillin Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 can you tell me what type of behavior this is? I noticed it with the op too. Is it arrogance? Or something else? you're right, but Franklin, just try to be a little more open to ideas. I haven't read the whole thread, but every one i've read you've basically said no to. We might be critical, but we're trying to help you. Go back and read some of your responses from a third person perspective and you might understand what i mean
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 you're right, but Franklin, just try to be a little more open to ideas. I haven't read the whole thread, but every one i've read you've basically said no to. We might be critical, but we're trying to help you. Go back and read some of your responses from a third person perspective and you might understand what i mean You might want to read my posts as well. I did not say no to everything. The advice I said no to is very reasonable. I don't have to get surgery. It is my body not yours. I am getting new glass, and a new haircut(I already said so many times already).
Ross PK Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I am referring to your tendecy to ask for an opinion then, when you get one, expalin why that opinion is wrong and yours is right. You ask for advice, but you don't really want any. I don't think he ever asked if his clothes looked too big.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 I don't think he ever asked if his clothes looked too big. You don't completely see me in my pictures. I am a tall guy so my clothes may seem big in the picture.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted November 1, 2009 Author Posted November 1, 2009 Franklin, Why worry about it??? When I got tired of all the rejection, I bought my Realdoll. It was a decision I never regretted. Now when some woman starts asking me why I never got married, never fathered a couple of retards, etc etc, I just start telling her about my Realdoll. It's pretty damn funny to watch these women get all flustered and defensive... but hey, they did it to themselves by withholding love and I don't feel sorry for them. I am not buying a toy deal to replace women. I rather continue to be lonely than buy a doll.
Odyssey Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 My advice? never give up man...keep trying. It's your life, you're still young. Attitude.
alexsimms Posted November 4, 2009 Posted November 4, 2009 You come off as being very arrogant Franklin. Reading your thread I find you to be an unattractive personality. Which for a man is the most important thing if you want to get a woman. You always get no for an answer because there is something wrong with you. The way you go on and on its as if your seeking validation that you are right and never wrong. Seriously stop trying to hard, take a step back and develop your character first. PS: You best not be trollin' bro. This is my first post here.
Author RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 You come off as being very arrogant Franklin. Reading your thread I find you to be an unattractive personality. Which for a man is the most important thing if you want to get a woman. You always get no for an answer because there is something wrong with you. The way you go on and on its as if your seeking validation that you are right and never wrong. Seriously stop trying to hard, take a step back and develop your character first. PS: You best not be trollin' bro. This is my first post here. Please tell me what is very arrogant about my first post.
Odyssey Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 From reading the post and responses, i didn't get the impression that you're an arrogant dude, but maybe a bit abrupt in address, which can come across as insensitive/too direct. Like i said before, 'Attitude'. Sometime it's not what you say, but how you say it. You'll be fine man...good luck.
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