Baby Gorilla Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Lol, well.... look where you are posting this question..... what do you think the overwhelming answer will be? I know plenty of couples who married young, alot are still together , some divorced.
LovelyDaze Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Lol, well.... look where you are posting this question..... what do you think the overwhelming answer will be? I know plenty of couples who married young, alot are still together , some divorced. Still together...but are they happy??? NO ONE knows what goes on behind closed doors. Appearances are usually key in preventing anyone from knowing the crap that is REALLY going on. Remember, most of us USED to be in a happy relationship and...here we are on LoveShack.....
Tayla Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Cant agree that there is a magical number at which its more reasonable and/realistic to get married. Met some couples celebrating 60 year marriages and they have the "IT" factor with one another, married young and endured economic strief, child rearing, all the challenges Life can toss at a person (health issues) Yet endured. Met couples who did the *proper*, went thru college, bought the house with the picket fence, had 2.5 kids (errr??), Had the family vacations ,and within 8 years they called it quits. Now once someone figures out why the ones who endured at (young ages )challenges yet those that supposed had their act together didnt then I'll rule in favor of the 30 year magical marital age. Each couple is uniquely different and either they got "IT", or they dont. No one is guaranteed how long they will live or love.
Kristie16 Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 People say you grow and change a lot in your 20s, but what if you were with the same guy from 20 on? Wouldn't you grow and change with him the same way you would if you were single and grew and change?
LovelyDaze Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 People say you grow and change a lot in your 20s, but what if you were with the same guy from 20 on? Wouldn't you grow and change with him the same way you would if you were single and grew and change? No. You still grew up in separate households and experience different things. No matter if you two work at the same job, are homeless together, or are long distance, an individual can't help but grow and change on their own. It is VERY hard work to combine two growing and changing individuals. That's why a lot of relationships fail miserably because most of us either doesn't know how to do it or only one does and the other still doesn't.
TheLoneSock Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Marriages fail much more now of days because no one actually believes their own wedding vows, and it has become an acceptable and not a big deal thing to get a divorce. We live in a time of instant gratification, greener grass and a plethora of options. People think they have a right to be perfectly happy, and if they aren't perfectly happy then there is obviously something wrong, and therefore should end. I blame Hollywood chick flicks for filling women's heads with unrealistic expectations, and the sexually oriented media in general for bombarding men with lustful temptations literally EVERYWHERE we go. Neither of those two things were NEARLY as abundant until the late 50's / early 60's. Which is precisely when divorce rates started rising significantly. My .02 cents.
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