littlebittle Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 My ex-boyfriend broke up with me last month, but we are trying to remain friends. He's a nice guy and our relationship was healthy and loving. Since we broke up, things have been slightly strained between us, but he has been a total gentleman, and really emotionally supportive. We're very compatible on so many levels, but unfortunately neither of us are really ready to be in a relationship at the moment. But my friend Lisa has been so weird about things. When she first met my ex, she talked about how much she liked him and how great we were together. But as soon as we broke up, she just went off on this big rant about how he used me and he probably cheated on me and he's a horrible person, etc. I guess she's been in some really bad relationships, but she had hardly listened to what I had to say about my ex before bombarding me with her two cents about how awful he is. She's also only met him like 3 times, so she didn't even know the situation. Now whenever I see her, she brings up this breakup and goes on and on about how I'm so much better off and I need to find someone who will treat me right, and that I let myself be used and all of this stuff that she just seems to be pulling out of her butt. I've never let a guy use me before, and she didn't know any details of our relationship, and I feel like she's just projecting her own feelings onto me. She is in a toxic relationship right now with someone who she's not compatible with in any way whatsoever (she's super clingy with him and he just ignores her most of the time and then they argue a lot). I saw her last night and not only did she talk about my ex, but out of nowhere she suggested that I hook up with my male roommate! I was like, "Gee, great idea, that always goes well for people and never makes things awkward." She was like, "God, you'll never get over your ex!" I love the girl, but I want to punch her at this point.
carhill Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 So, ya think she's projecting her situation onto yours? Perhaps it's time for less contact.
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