power Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 hi irealy need some help i am in such a mess... basically i have been with my partner for 6 years and we have had our fair share of ups and downs but we have managed t oalways work through it... 2 years ago he broke up with me saying he did not want to be with me and did not want to marry me and that he needed space if anything .... i accepted his wishes and tried to move on we did keep in contact by email and fone and a year and a half later he wanted me back saying he realised this time apart made him realise he wanted to b with me and t omarry me recently we set the date to get married next year however i had an argument with his auntie who he is very close to and this left us arguing however he came back to e after 3 weeks and told me not to ever contact her again as time is now going on i wanted to make things better and get her on talking terms with me so he wedding can go smoothly and she did help me before which i appreciated so 4 nights ago i emailed her saying sorry.... she emailed e bak with the most horrible message whoich made me cry she said she didnt want t ono me and i was a pathetic indvidual blah blha blah...wen she emailed me i was on msn to him and told him i emailed her and he went mad at me and that she had replied saying this and then he told me not to email her bak but i sent another email saying i was soryy adonly wanted her there a t the wedding etc and to make amends and then she sent another message saying i was a mad psycopathic butch and she is glad he has finished with me etc... he went mad at me saying it was over as i went against his wishes and that i was trying t ocause trouble but i was genuinly trying t omake amends.....now he doesnt want to know me has roke off the wedding for next yr and says he has told his mum its over im so devastataed i just dont no wat to do..... any advice would be helpful o nhow i can get him to understand im sorry p.s i no i shudnt have emailed her and because of her i have lost him
GrayClouds Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 (edited) I am very sorry for you. He sound like he has some anger issues. But if you lost him because of the email, you never had him. That is such a small thing compared the commitment to live your life together forever. He is the one that was out of line. I snuggest reading both: So you want a second chance? It is going to be hard but , thik about it, if he goes off like this for one mistake then you willbe walking on egg shells the rest of your life. Edited October 24, 2009 by GrayClouds
patkirk Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 What a shame, He's supposed to be on your side with this situation, and I agree that he has some anger issues. To be mad at you because of a tiff with an aunt when you're the person he's to spend the rest of his life with is just plain irrational. You humbled yourself and sent an apology which says a lot of good about you, she reacted in a way scores from what an adult should. You did nothing wrong to apologize and he should have understood that you didn't want any bad blood with the aunt, and supported you.
trueblue72ny Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 that's too bad. it doesnt sound like he was too solid to begin with. like the other posters said, imagine living your life like that?? id think again before marrying this guy.
Author power Posted October 25, 2009 Author Posted October 25, 2009 thanx for your reply..yea he does have some anger issues and i so agree with u if he left me over this then wat wud he b like in the future i think i had a lucky escape...im will get threw this thankyk god he has gone .....
Author power Posted October 25, 2009 Author Posted October 25, 2009 What a shame, He's supposed to be on your side with this situation, and I agree that he has some anger issues. To be mad at you because of a tiff with an aunt when you're the person he's to spend the rest of his life with is just plain irrational. You humbled yourself and sent an apology which says a lot of good about you, she reacted in a way scores from what an adult should. You did nothing wrong to apologize and he should have understood that you didn't want any bad blood with the aunt, and supported you. yea i spoke to alot of people and theyre sayng she is plain childish i mean wat she wrote to me was pritty hurtful but none the less expected from her as she is like this with alot of ppl she is close to....i am just glad i got away now ....and this happened ... i stil lcare for him but hate him as he took his aunties side over mine ... he didnt even care that the email she worte me was horible in one of the emails she called me a mad psycopattic bitch and that i need loking up and that im not normal etc etc.....i think she is the mad one and im gladd that i have gotten away from bth of them..i keep ecplaining to him she wont be there for u in ur time of need wen ur i nbed and need a hug from ur partener she will be with hers and it will be you that is alone...... i jus twan to move on now and i am going to.... he wasnt ever mine to begin with ....
Author power Posted October 25, 2009 Author Posted October 25, 2009 that's too bad. it doesnt sound like he was too solid to begin with. like the other posters said, imagine living your life like that?? id think again before marrying this guy. thanx for your reply yea i dont think it was too solid to begin with because if we was we wud not have broken up 8 yrs of being together over this.... time to move on.....
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