SValentine Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 Its been months... 10 months to be precise, and i still can't over my ex girlfriend. I don't know what it is about her that's got me in this choke hold but all i know is that i can't get over it. She's with someone new now and they're madly in love and i know because she used to tell me. This makes it even harder. I've met girls in between and some really caught my attention but i gave up because they never made me feel like how i did with her. Only one girl did, but she didn't feel the same way about me and now i'm left to lick my wounds twice as much. I feel like i'm stuck like this forever. I don't know what to do. It really depresses me.
onewillburn Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 Have you gone no contact? If so, how long has it been since you started?
TheLoneSock Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 Its been months... 10 months to be precise, and i still can't over my ex girlfriend. I don't know what it is about her that's got me in this choke hold but all i know is that i can't get over it. She's with someone new now and they're madly in love and i know because she used to tell me. This makes it even harder. I've met girls in between and some really caught my attention but i gave up because they never made me feel like how i did with her. Only one girl did, but she didn't feel the same way about me and now i'm left to lick my wounds twice as much. I feel like i'm stuck like this forever. I don't know what to do. It really depresses me. We're going to need more information about how you two have behaved in the past year or so. How she has behaved with you, how you have behaved with her, and how you have behaved on your own since the break up.
Author SValentine Posted October 24, 2009 Author Posted October 24, 2009 Have you gone no contact? If so, how long has it been since you started? I guess you could say no contact. The last time i spoke to her was through text when she wished me on my birthday, that's all. Its been 10 months to be exact.
Author SValentine Posted October 24, 2009 Author Posted October 24, 2009 We're going to need more information about how you two have behaved in the past year or so. How she has behaved with you, how you have behaved with her, and how you have behaved on your own since the break up. Okay well, we were both crazy about each other during the first 4 months of being together. Then later on she kept saying that she felt i wasn't trying hard enough and i could tell she was getting bored. So i tried my best but i couldn't hold on to her. But during the first few months after our breakup she kept treating me hot and cold. I asked her if she thinks i should let go off her and she said she thought i should, but she didn't actually want me to. Later on when she met her current boyfriend, she went around telling people that she was just using me to get over her ex. I was really hurt when i heard it but i didn't want to confront her about it. I mean what's over is over right? So up til now she doesn't know that i know about it.
GrayClouds Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 If it has been that long likely more it is no longer about the girl. I suggest pcik this book up and see if could be helpful: "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life" .
WTRanger Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 Wear a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you think about her, snap the rubber band. You'd be amazed at how the brain responds to pain as a negative enforcer. Soon enough, your brain will begin to associate physical pain with thoughts of her. It also makes you self aware of how much you really think about her, when you should be putting that mental effort into something else.
soheartbroken Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 I understand that you're not over her. But is the pain less intense? Are things at least better than at the beginning?
Author SValentine Posted October 25, 2009 Author Posted October 25, 2009 I understand that you're not over her. But is the pain less intense? Are things at least better than at the beginning? Yes, way better. I don't go through the crying spells and depression. I just can't seem to get over HER. And i do still get jealous when i hear about her new squeeze. We have lots of mutual friends.
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