tVII Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 (edited) so me and my ex (my first) work together and well today... was definitely not a good one...she has a new someone already...and i feel left in the dust and thrown aside. I do my best to talk to her and TRY to be friends and it always starts off well and we talk but after a an hour she starts to ignore me and give me one-line answers...i don't understand... that and i hurt everytime i see her go into the back room and read her texts and come out on the floor all happy and cheery... and my mind just snaps and wonders wtf are in those texts... and i KNOW it is a rebound relationship...but still BUGS THE HELL OUT OF ME!!!! siiighhhh.... i need to get out of this hole im in... a guy that sees his ex almost on a daily basis (4 days a week). ive dealt with the separation but her finding someone else is something else entirely...i don't know if i can take anymore... sorry needed to vent... Edited October 24, 2009 by tVII more info
Lamak Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 I see my ex pretty much every other day at school, but that's alright though because I protect myself through NC. Anytime we greet each other, it's because she initiated. Her, not me. I stay away from her friends and I don't look for her around the school. So stop worrying about what she's doing and start bettering yourself.
PinkToes Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 It's definitely tougher when you have to work together. The only thing I would suggest is to keep your distance as much as possible and don't even try to be friends yet. And it will absolutely get better, so hang in there.
Odyssey Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 (edited) There is light at the end of the tunnel... ...while i'm not in the clear yet (about 95%), i am no longer hurting and certainly don't think about her anymore. It's a very good place to be, knowing that i am almost myself, and dating again. I know for a fact that you will also get there because i've been through the same situation. I understand your pain and confusion too. My ex-gf sat opposite me at work every agonizing day. Saying moving on is hard, is an understatement, but it's not impossible. Certainly tested my character, i'll say this was my worst breakup so far. Thinking about it, in terms of hours, we probably see our co-workers more than our SO. You shouldn't even try to be friends right now because your feelings are still raw and causes all kinds of confuse thinking. Keep communication to a minimum, ignore the gossip, be the busiest person in the world. When you're out of work, you need to vent and release those pent up emotions e.g. hit the gym (this is absolutely important)! Let her go. You will find someone better than your ex. Edited October 24, 2009 by Odyssey
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