4givrnt4gtr Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 (edited) So I dont know about you but when a breakup happens you often feel like such a loser, like you're not good enough, like you will never find someone who would actually love you enough. If only you were smarter, hotter, more succesful, whatever.... Well a few days ago i was given a huge reality check. I met this one guy a while back. Ridiculously successful, smart, good looking, good heart funny, the works. Im talking CEO of this huge place, PhD, fellow of a very well known school, marathon runner, charity fund raiser, hilarious dude. When i met him which was right after my break up i thought "see if i could be somehow like this guy (girl version), Im sure my ex would have thought twice before he took me for granted" Well a few days ago this guy was talking to a group of us and told us how a few years back his gf of 4 years dump him out of the blue. At this point he was still successful, and im assuming good looking.....yet, this girl dump him....leaving him in the depths of depression and confusion. I was shocked. Someone actually had the nerve to dump this genious hottie?!? So it dawn on me....its not whether he was succesful and funny and good looking....it was that he just wasnt what she wanted for some weird reason. I personally think thats outrageous, which then gives me hope that maybe someday Ill find someone who thinks "he left her?! what the heck was he thinking!!!" like i thought when he told us his story. Then it made me think of my own ex. When he told me about how his ex treated him i was outraged as well....even now i still think he is one of the most interesting people ive known...no he doesnt have a Phd, or is CEo of anything, but he does have a good heart and is very interesting...still she didnt think twice before cheating on him twice. So if you feel like a loser, or some such, dont....chances are you are an amazing person regardless of what you have or what you are, and someone out there will be in shock your ex was dumb enough to let you go.... Edited October 23, 2009 by 4givrnt4gtr
Turista Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Heh, yes it does happen to the best of us... I have a doctorate, I'm the equivalent of director at a major tech company, and well, connect the frickin' dots... Didn't stop me from falling for a narcissist and her dumping me when I stood up to some of her crazy crazy... We all do stupid things. The difference is whether we learn from them or not...
salem mark Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 very true, I know i was dumped by my girlfiend last night, I tried to call her on her crazy behavior she got angry and became even more crazy. But I realized something, Im a worthy decent person who doesnt deserve this and made me wonder what was i doing being with such a person in the first place.
Turista Posted November 3, 2009 Posted November 3, 2009 very true, I know i was dumped by my girlfiend last night, I tried to call her on her crazy behavior she got angry and became even more crazy. But I realized something, Im a worthy decent person who doesnt deserve this and made me wonder what was i doing being with such a person in the first place. Damn right! I met someone decent just under two months past getting dumped by the jumbo C-cup foobie narcissist. I'm having a blast, and she's thanking the JCCFN for making her minor foibles look insignificant. In truth, this new one's a catch independent of that or whether we make it work or not, but that's for another thread...
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