Jersey Shortie Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 So guys, do tell us ladies, how often in a day you let the oppurtunity to introduce yourself to a woman that sparks your interest and why? The woman at my salon who gives beauty treatments is from Britian. She says the men here are boring because they just don't flirt. Men in Britian are much mroe playful. I don't want to turn this into a thread about how evil women are and how we cry foul the second a man flirts with us. What I would like to know is how many times have you let an oppurtunity pass you by when you were interested in a woman for dating potential.
espec10001 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Me personally I'll give it a go here and there, but it never works. They always have a boyfriend or husband. So I just don't really care anymore, I'm fine being by myself.
TheLoneSock Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 So guys, do tell us ladies, how often in a day you let the oppurtunity to introduce yourself to a woman that sparks your interest and why? The woman at my salon who gives beauty treatments is from Britian. She says the men here are boring because they just don't flirt. Men in Britian are much mroe playful. I don't want to turn this into a thread about how evil women are and how we cry foul the second a man flirts with us. What I would like to know is how many times have you let an oppurtunity pass you by when you were interested in a woman for dating potential. Well let's see, yesterday I saw girls I wouldn't have minded talking to atleast 3 times on campus. Why didn't I stop and flirt? Because I was in a hurry, and from the look of it they were too- walking quickly to their classes. I guess the right moment to strike was not available to me. Other things that have gotten in the way is a girl being on a cell phone. Today for instance, I saw a hot little latina with an amazing body outside the front office and she eye ****ed the **** out of me, but she was in the middle of a phone call- big deterrent. What was I going to do, interrupt her call? I flirt when I can, sometimes things just get in the way. It's called cock blocking, and it comes in many, many forms.
AD1980 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I see women im attracted to walking aorund allthe time but rarely approch because i figure im gonna get rejected
TheLoneSock Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I see women im attracted to walking aorund allthe time but rarely approch because i figure im gonna get rejected As soon as I saw that you were the last to post on this thread, I knew you were going to say something like that. Always short, self loathing and a bitter aftertaste. You are a lot like cognac and stumpy dude. You need to work on your self esteem.
AD1980 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 As soon as I saw that you were the last to post on this thread, I knew you were going to say something like that. Always short, self loathing and a bitter aftertaste. You are a lot like cognac and stumpy dude. You need to work on your self esteem. 'My self esteem is fine as far as what kinda person iam which is a pretty happy one in most aspects of life Im just realistic when it comes to women being attracted to me..
TheLoneSock Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 'My self esteem is fine as far as what kinda person iam which is a pretty happy one in most aspects of life Im just realistic when it comes to women being attracted to me.. There is no way it is as bad as it comes off in your posts though. Being realistic is a good thing, but if that 'realism' is always defeat, it's not realistic at all. Even a broken clock is right twice a day, if you know what I mean.
callingyouuu Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 How often? More than I should. Why? As much as I would like to have one, I just don't feel like I have enough time to devote to a relationship right now. I'm also a recovering pansy.
kdark Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I refuse to approach women out of the blue. I have never found the initial attraction strong enough to want to just from seeing them on the street or between classes or what have you. I've met far too many extremely shallow women by doing that to want to continue that way of meeting them. I stick to the classroom, at work, while doing my hobbies, and online dating. Weeds out the duds.
AD1980 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 (edited) There is no way it is as bad as it comes off in your posts though. Being realistic is a good thing, but if that 'realism' is always defeat, it's not realistic at all. Even a broken clock is right twice a day, if you know what I mean. Its not defeat its just self depricating in almost a humorish way for me..Keeps me sane and able to laugh about it rather then cry Instead of the cliche if you love yourself and be confident women will magically be attracted you nonsense and whatever other fluff people people say to try to make you feel better..And it usally comes from people who have no problems getting women so it easy for them to sit on a soapbox and say stop being negative.. Edited October 23, 2009 by AD1980
Sam Spade Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 When I was single, almost never. Say, in 70-80% of the cases I'd go for it. (In the other 30% just didn't want to be bothered). So, no problem, gettinng some numbers, some dates, blahblah; but, I still don't have to like it - it's a formulaic chore and also a crapshoot. (Flirting is not that much fun when you're the one doing all the upfront work). [When I don't care (see 30% above, and 100% now that I'm not single), my preferred approach is to do nothing but flash a big grin conveying "You want that, eh honey? Move it along, sweetie, gotta go" . Or, don't notice dem chicks at all.]
TheLoneSock Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Its not defeat its just self depricating in almost a humorish way for me..Keeps me sane and able to laugh about it rather then cry Instead of the cliche if you love yourself and be confident women will magically be attracted you nonsense and whatever other fluff people people say to try to make you feel better..And it usally comes from people who have no problems getting women so it easy for them to sit on a soapbox and say stop being negative.. I understand your frustration, and applaud your humor. But there's a reason I get a negative vibe from most of your posts, and I doubt I'm not the only one that notices it. That has to come from somewhere. There's a difference between humility (what you seem to be getting at), and a low self worth. I know that you can't make women magically cling to you just by being confident in yourself, but that's no excuse to shift to the polar opposite and have no faith in yourself to be able to pull a girl. Maybe I'm misinterpreting your posts, but they seem to ooze a bitter taste. Any decent looking guy (decent is a broad term) can find atleast ONE girl that digs him as long as he has the right attitude. There's someone for everyone.
AD1980 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I know that you can't make women magically cling to you just by being confident in yourself, but that's no excuse to shift to the polar opposite and have no faith in yourself to be able to pull a girl. Maybe I'm misinterpreting your posts, but they seem to ooze a bitter taste. Any decent looking guy (decent is a broad term) can find atleast ONE girl that digs him as long as he has the right attitude. There's someone for everyone. Bitter maybe fair somewhat i guess..Evryone wants to be desired by the opposite sex on some level and you dont think you are[wheter its true or not] does kinda suck lets be honest.. And i would hope theres more thne one girl in the world atracted to me but do i want to go through milions of rejections to get to that point??
TheLoneSock Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 (edited) Bitter maybe fair somewhat i guess..Evryone wants to be desired by the opposite sex on some level and you dont think you are[wheter its true or not] does kinda suck lets be honest.. And i would hope theres more thne one girl in the world atracted to me but do i want to go through milions of rejections to get to that point?? Rejection is part of the process. Rejection is a part of life, for everyone and every thing. Your standard pride of lions in Africa makes a kill on average 1 out of 4 attempted hunts. That means they fail 3 times before seeing success, often in a single day. Yes, some people get rejection less than others, but everyone none the less gets it. You have to learn to not take it personally and look at it from an indifferent perspective. Edited October 23, 2009 by TheLoneSock typo
Soul Bear Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I slide into opportunities, not past them Joke
TheLoneSock Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I slide into opportunities, not past them Joke Bahahaha. *High five*
AD1980 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Rejection is part of the process. Rejection is a part of life, for everyone and every thing. Your standard pride of lions in Africa makes a kill on average 1 out of 4 attempted hunts. That means they fail 3 times before seeing success, often in a single day. Yes, some people get rejection less than others, but everyone none the less gets it. You have to learn to not take it personally and look at it from an indifferent perspective. I guess yuore right its just that i dont take rejection well and when it happens it just makes me feel justifed that women arent atrracted to me
CaliGuy Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 So guys, do tell us ladies, how often in a day you let the oppurtunity to introduce yourself to a woman that sparks your interest and why? As long as I am single, green light ALL DAY. The woman at my salon who gives beauty treatments is from Britian. She says the men here are boring because they just don't flirt. Men in Britian are much mroe playful. I don't want to turn this into a thread about how evil women are and how we cry foul the second a man flirts with us. What I would like to know is how many times have you let an oppurtunity pass you by when you were interested in a woman for dating potential. I flirt all the time. Some take offense, some don't know what to say and others, they wanna take me home right away lol. That's just too fast for me.
ADF Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 It is very difficult to just speak to women you don't know. Americans are a very fearful, nervous bunch of people. They get very defensive, even hostile, when appraoched in this way. Unless the context is conducive to a random meeting--e.g. at a party or in a night club--I really avoid approaching women I don't know.
Brady_to_Moss Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 Oh gosh..i let oppurtunities slip by me ALL the time. All day..everyday with women..but i could really care less. Like stated before me, Americans are mean and judgemental people. Hell i had a guy get out of his car at a red light today and start yelling at me becasue my high beems were on according to him. So i flipped him off and flew by him. Angery people in Mass including myself when it comes to driving Getting off topic, but i really will never approach a girl i dont know. Not worth it IMO
Author Jersey Shortie Posted October 24, 2009 Author Posted October 24, 2009 I had a girl pull a knife on me once just for changing lanes in stopped traffic. Scared the crap out of me.
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