absolutely_sweet Posted December 5, 2003 Posted December 5, 2003 well me and my bf have been going out almost bout 1yr and 8months, and everythang use to b great, i think i have pushed him away from me, like he is less interested in what i tell him on the phone, watches tv and does that damn playstation2 all the time, i have told him could he put it away and talk to me for afew. its just i put n and everything and he dont do anything n return of being respectfull. well he buys me thangs if i want something that i really need or want, which is sweet of him bc he use not to do that. well he said i need a life and that he thinks that i think everythang revolves around me which i dont. i just liked being loved,showed affection,him telling me sweet thangs like compliments. i feel very low and i dont feel good bout my self bc he dont tell me how i look or anythang when ever he sees me or whtever. i just want to feel special. he says i live n a wonderland of thangs that dont really happen, u know like a fairy tale. which i know theres guys or girls out there who show and tell each other how much they love each other and feel . i just want him to make me feel like im number one to him, lately it seems hes been to busy for me , like he works 8-5" lil after. then he talks to me like for a few like 10min or less and then he has to go talk to his grandmother and eat then he calls me for like 5mins b4 he has to go play some unimportant dont have to play sport. like he lets me go so he can go play basketball and then only one nite is a have to play sport which is bowling. well i just wish he would use some time to talk to me and dont wait on the last minute to talk to me. and usually when hes done w/what hes doing hes too tired and wants to go to bed after 10 or 20min of talkin to me on the phone . and he barley talks or pays me attention. i just feel really abandon. and i wish he would not b this way and i dunno what to do, i try to tell him he just says " SORRY" AND THATS IT, and keeps still how hes doing when i tell him how i want him to talk to me or anythang, i just feel like hes taking me for granted sometimes. i dont feel like were bf and gf really sometimes. well sry this is so long but i have more but ill save it. i just wanted to let this out and wanna know what i could do to make thangs better.. THANK ya"ll
potsagold Posted December 5, 2003 Posted December 5, 2003 He doesn't sound so bad. He could be worse - not at home, partying all the time, talking to other people. Sounds like he's just a home body. Besides, you don't need him to make you feel secure - you need to feel it in yourself - then step back and look at him....he loves you. He buys you things to show you that. Think about all the nice things that he does, instead of the "non affectionate" things. You'll see it's just how he is. If you can't hang with that - then you gotta cut him loose to find someone who is how you want them. Don't lose a good thing cuz your eyes are closed. Good Luck!
Arabess Posted December 5, 2003 Posted December 5, 2003 Well....generally you are married before the relationship goes "BLAH" on you! However, you have been together for quite awhile. I suppose all you can do is talk to him about it and see if you can live with his response to your request. I certainly wouldn't get married to this guy until we worked out the kinks though.
Colleen Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 Considering what you have said it doesn't seem that bad. Most guys don't like talking on the phone. You should probably be happy he talks to you for as long as he does, guys like talking one on one I have learned. If you feel he doesn't pay enough attention to you , talk to him and see if he changes and tries to give you what u need. Good luck
Debster Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 Ok, you're saying how your boyfriend doesn't make you feel special - but what do you do to make your boyfriend feel special? Also, it sounds to me like you need to do something with your time so you're not scheduling your life around your boyfriend's schedule.
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