C-i-C-u Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 Male players act and say the right things till they get what they want - the woman on their back... and then they lose interest. Female Relationship Players act and say the right thing til they get what they want - the man on his knees - then lose interest. That all depends on the case. There are times when those players decide to keep going and pretending until they get the women pregnant. And when the girl has the child, they are gone.
MoreAwesomeUsername Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 That all depends on the case. There are times when those players decide to keep going and pretending until they get the women pregnant. And when the girl has the child, they are gone. There are some cynical views on this board, I can't relate as closely, I guess cultural/social influences leads me to divergent views.
Els Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 im a good solid, respectful man, (its how i was raised) Im definitely not the problem It may be - I date single women between 35 -40 and they're usually emotionally screwed up This post alone proves it - it's you. What the hell does a 5-year age range of women have to do with their emotional sanity?
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I never understood the women need a man to take charge of a relationship to feel safe,what does that even mean?? Do women think theyre mentally incapable of making any decisions in a relationship ?? They want to be protected from sabre tooth tigers and other extinct animals. Having others make all decisions allows them to avoid responsibility, while also being able to complain that he is controlling. Hence, drama.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Most women require drama to be "happy." This comes from bad parenting, and low self esteem, which are epidemic in western societies. A woman will stick it out longer with a guy she has more complaints about, than a guy who treats her well. Ever notice women with physically abusive or emotionally abusive guys are always in those relationships longer than their relationships with guys who treat them well? They're addicted to the drama. If you cannot provide drama, if you are a sure thing, if you are predictable, you really have no business dating. Those traits will bore 9/10 of women. It's not the 1940s anymore.... The traits of being loyal, dependable, faithful are considered boring, hence they don't provide drama, and are thus undesirable. Is this a bad thing? I don't know, but is being unhappy good? Is it better than a woman is bored and unhappy by a guy who treats her well than her being happier and entertained by a guy she has lots to complain about?
Pyro Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Call me old fashioned but I still have faith in women. Yes I know their are many women out there who are off their rockers. Nothing will keep them happy, blah blah blah. Us guys aren't exactly innocent either. I know many guys who just complain and complain and are never happy and can't let go of the past. My point is that I still believe decent women are out there and instead of painting all or most women as a whole into one category, I'm going to live each day of my life at my pace and do what makes me happy and if I see a woman that gets my attention, I will take my time and not rush into anything because that there leads to ALOT of relationship problems. The difficult part in a relationship is knowing the balance between what is too much or what is not enough. Communication and compromise are key friends.
torranceshipman Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Well adjusted mature women want a great guy in their life, and will run at the first sign of drama, immaturity/bad behavior. End of story. You seem to be attracting drama queens or something...I don't know why.
squidattack Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 What are everyone's thought on this. My reasoning, My experience is that all breakups are usually done by the female (9 out of 10) They say they they want someone to appreciate them, but if you comply with that (make yourself available 24/7) they become resentful and want space. Resentful because your not a challenge anymore and your boring. I just learned this personally, for the umpteenth time, (Why don't I learn?) What the hell is wrong with you women? Why can't you be happy with someone? We're all lucky to find a mate, just a mate, and you have the audacity to audition men? Comments? You have a crappy attitude about women. Not all women are the same by the way. Maybe you are choosing the wrong ones. So, you are wondering why women don't just settle?? Most women are looking for a spark, not just a nice guy.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Well adjusted mature women want a great guy in their life, and will run at the first sign of drama, immaturity/bad behavior. End of story. You seem to be attracting drama queens or something...I don't know why. I think most women have self esteem issues, hence most women are into drama, so there are only a few women that aren't like this. Which sucks, but is reality. I know very few guys that don't have to deal with constant drama in their relationships. Just small stuff is like when things going well, and out of the blue she starts laying down all sorts of accusations and stuff, just for entertainment, no basis behind it. My ex used to accuse me of cheating all the time, when in fact it was her who was cheating. She based these accusations on having scratches on my body. I have two cats, she's seen them scratch me. She knows what cat scratches looked like, but needed drama.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 You have a crappy attitude about women. Not all women are the same by the way. Maybe you are choosing the wrong ones. So, you are wondering why women don't just settle?? Most women are looking for a spark, not just a nice guy. I don't know about 9/10 relationships being ended by women, but as an attorney, I know that the vast vast majority of divorces are initiated in no fault states, by women. No fault means, no reason needed. There wasn't any infidelity, she just "was bored" or "fell out of love" and gets half the marital assets.
stace79 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 People need to learn that 9 out of 10 of your relationships are going to end. We're meant to be with and marry ONE person; not everybody you date. Maybe the women who've broken up with you are wondering why YOU would stay in a relationship that clearly wasn't working? Maybe they think you're just desperate for any woman to fill the role of girlfriend? It sounds like you'd take anything or deal with anything or act anyway your SO wants you to, just to stay in a relationship.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 People need to learn that 9 out of 10 of your relationships are going to end. We're meant to be with and marry ONE person; not everybody you date. Maybe the women who've broken up with you are wondering why YOU would stay in a relationship that clearly wasn't working? Maybe they think you're just desperate for any woman to fill the role of girlfriend? It sounds like you'd take anything or deal with anything or act anyway your SO wants you to, just to stay in a relationship. That's a very good point. But today, even most marriages end in failure. So it's easy to assume that every relationship you enter is doomed to fail, and today, even most marriages are doomed to fail, and the ones that don't divorce aren't all happy.
Sam Spade Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I don't know about 9/10 relationships being ended by women, but as an attorney, I know that the vast vast majority of divorces are initiated in no fault states, by women. No fault means, no reason needed. There wasn't any infidelity, she just "was bored" or "fell out of love" and gets half the marital assets. there is no need for fault - after accomplishing the motherhood mission, the men that assisted in the process are to be disposed off , so their only fault is for not getting lost after the kids are off to college. A prenup will not stave the problem off, but at least will leave you some money in retirement to spend on the sweet Carmelita.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 After accomplishing the motherhood mission, the men that assisted in the process are to be disposed off . A prenup will not stave the problem off, but at least will leave you some money in retirement to spend on the sweet Carmelita. After getting experience in Family law, I would never get married, though prenups are enforceable. It just seems that marriage is being used more and more as a wealth redistribution system, with the worst case scenarios being like Heather Mills, who was only shortly married to Sir Paul, yet still got the biggest payout in history. What for?
ADF Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 What are everyone's thought on this. My reasoning, My experience is that all breakups are usually done by the female (9 out of 10) They say they they want someone to appreciate them, but if you comply with that (make yourself available 24/7) they become resentful and want space. Resentful because your not a challenge anymore and your boring. I just learned this personally, for the umpteenth time, (Why don't I learn?) What the hell is wrong with you women? Why can't you be happy with someone? We're all lucky to find a mate, just a mate, and you have the audacity to audition men? Comments? Sounds to me like you're the one who's unhappy.
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