Sometimes I THINK im okay but then BAM will she change her mind after finding some1

[Madandsad]

This is Matt again I posted this yesterday http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t206807/

 

I go to work and sometimes I say ill be okay no problem but when I see her happy with someone else I fall back into missing her. She flirts with him on the phone and sends him text we were together 9 years and have 3 kids and weve been broken up 2 1/2 months. Since then she was hanging around with 3 different guys...this third opne though I think she loves him. Shes listening to the song "leavin" by jesse mcartney and "little too late" by default...I think shes trying to figure out how to tell me shes not coming back after she said she was for sure when she was ready which changed to i dont know. Do I step back and let her be in love with this person shes lying about...will her feelings for him go away? From what I gather hes telling her he can be a better man to her than i was and to tell me shes leaving...its so hard to bear...i say to myself i can be okay and to ignore her to see what happenes but ive ignored her for 2 days and she has me as well...

[carhill]

If you were my son, I'd tell you to fight for custody of the kids, take care of them and let her go. She's a mess and you know it. Nothing good will come of this drama, especially for the children.

 

For the future, the best advice I can offer is to realize that you can't control the way a woman thinks or feels or what she does. You can only live *your* life. Don't predicate your life upon a woman. Start today. Hug the kids