How do I get closure with this girl, and this up and down relationship?!?!

[Paralyzed]

So, she sucked me back in about 3 weeks ago. My own fault, I admit it. She acted weird right away. Stayed with me for a few days. A freind gave me the heads up that she had been on a few dates with a guy the week before. I didn't bring it up to her because I had been on a few too. One of the conversations we had was about forgiving the past. I told her I was willing to do that. She said she would do the same. Fast forward 4 days, and I recieve a text message from her that nearly stopped my heart. There was a picture of me on Facebook with a girl I had dated during the summer when the ex and I were broken up. She knew about her, and had raked me over the coals about it. After seeing the picture, which may have stung her naturally, she lost it. "she hated me", I was "F@ck Face, lying piece of *****, manipulative mind F'ing a-hole". I reminded her that she had been on dates just the week before. She admitted it and let me know how that guy was not a bar hopping loser like me. I ignored the rest. Later that night she wrote again "you will never touch me again". I had enough, i told her "i didn't want to touch her again, and to go away, that she was a hypocritical lunatic". It felt good. She kept it up. I ignored. I heard she was bar hopping herself the very next night. Two days passed and she wrote me an apology. Admitting she was being hypocritical, but ended it with "goodbye". I accpted and stayed away. A week passed and my bday rolled around. She texted again to see how my weekend was. Moronic chit chat followed. I got rid of her before it lead anywhere. Silence for a week. Saw her that Friday night holding hands with a guy outside a club. Called her on her lies and reminded her about her texting me the week before. She let me know that this guy actually respected her. I stayed away, no contact.

 

5 days passed and she texts me again letting me know how her sick Uncle was doing. I ignored. Friday night, at 12:45 I was out with a male friend, she phones. Drunk. She acted sweet at first, i know this routine. She tells me that I don't want her because she is a drunkard. I said "if you want to talk like an adult, call me 2morrow when you are sober". She hangs up on me. Then texts me "F off mr serious". I write back that it's time for her to let me go.

 

The next day she has me unblocked and there is an email on my facebook. "Hi Paralyzed, I hope you are well. I'm sorry for everything. I hope you are keeping yourself well. You deserve happiness in your life".

There was no sign off. No goodbye, seeya, go to hell, nothing. I've been dealing with this woman for almost 3 years, and I'm still puzzled by her behavior. She hasn't been to a therpist. But, is this Bipolar, Borderline? She is certainly a Narcissist. She can date whomever, talk to whomever, and I have to sit home and cry when she decides it's just not working anymore.

For now, i'm no conctact, and i'm not responding to this email. I would love to meet her face to face to get closure, but I realize it doesn't matter. She will sit across from me, reject me, then contact me again weeks later. What do I make of this email? Can anyone translate it for me?

[Ronni_W]

Well, it's not just her, is it? You're totally doing your own part in keeping the "moronic chit chat" and hostile exchanges flowing, whether in person, text or email.

It comes across as more childish than mental disorder...but, whatever it is, I would want to make sure that you're not BOTH suffering from the same thing.

 

Honestly, just man up and cut her off. Block her from everything. The dynamic is such that she's not good for your self-respect, and you're not good for hers. Take a stand for your own Self. Please. If you will. That's how you'll get your "closure".

[salem mark]

or let her chase you

 

(dont talk to her until she knocks on your front door begging)