Scarlett513 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I know this guy as part of a group, and feel like I'm getting signals from him but I can't really tell if he's being polite/friendly or actually interested. He's always a gentleman, but he is that way with everyone (women and men, just an all-around nice guy). Last weekend he took my number, texted me, and after a long conversation online one night, the next day he texted to tell me that it was really nice talking to me. We've been talking more than normal lately but I don't know if he's just being friendly. In general, how to know if a guy who is in general, friendly, polite, and gentlemanly, is interested in you in particular?
carhill Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Easiest way to know is when he asks you out on a date IME, if I'm interested enough to ask a woman for her contact information, I'm interested enough to ask her out, but some guys just collect numbers and play the numbers game. Another sign will be subtle flirting. Eye contact, body mirroring, light touching. These are things a gentleman does to express interest. He's not loud nor makes crude jokes nor is obvious in his touches. Subtle. If you find him attractive, reciprocate those subtleties. He'll get the message
BlueHarvest Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Easiest way to know is when he asks you out on a date IME, if I'm interested enough to ask a woman for her contact information, I'm interested enough to ask her out, but some guys just collect numbers and play the numbers game. Another sign will be subtle flirting. Eye contact, body mirroring, light touching. These are things a gentleman does to express interest. He's not loud nor makes crude jokes nor is obvious in his touches. Subtle. If you find him attractive, reciprocate those subtleties. He'll get the message God I love carhills advice. If I was gay or a girl I would ask you to make love to me carhill. For now accept my e-slap-on-the-back!
Johnny M Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I know this guy as part of a group, and feel like I'm getting signals from him but I can't really tell if he's being polite/friendly or actually interested. He's always a gentleman, but he is that way with everyone (women and men, just an all-around nice guy). Last weekend he took my number, texted me, and after a long conversation online one night, the next day he texted to tell me that it was really nice talking to me. We've been talking more than normal lately but I don't know if he's just being friendly. In general, how to know if a guy who is in general, friendly, polite, and gentlemanly, is interested in you in particular? Unlike women, most men are not chatterboxes. I personally would not ask a woman for her number and spend all night texting back and forth if I wasn't interested in her. That goes way beyond simply being polite. The fact that he messaged you the following morning saying that he enjoyed talking to you is also a hint. Clearly, this guy likes you.
carhill Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 This is what's confusing the OP (or she is unsure of)... He's always a gentleman, but he is that way with everyone (women and men, just an all-around nice guy). How does she discern the 'interest' of a gentleman from that of a non-gentleman, who likely is more 'forward'? She's re-tuning her perception. My best advice is to let him lead, but escalate reciprocation beyond the typical reaction you have to the more forward men. Balance the books, so to speak. If you're too passive or non-specific, he may not discern adequate reciprocation. Remain within your boundaries of how you process romantic interaction, but push the envelope a bit.
Odyssey Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 She flirts. He initiates. Repeat. Either he changes his tune or they tango
627 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 the guy you described sounds like me well are you giving him any good feedback? personnaly I don't tend to take risks and ask a girl out unless I see that my chances are good, do you smile at him? did you let him know somehow that you are not seign anyone? etc...
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