Exit Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 (edited) Either that or life just likes to screw with me. Doing fairly well getting over my ex after 6 months. Slowly got onto the dating websites and I've been chatting with someone who seems GREAT and we're meeting up in a few hours. It's this new gir'ls birthday this weekend, and while I'm being cautious to not be a *nice guy* anymore, I still wanted to get her something small. Woke up late, ran to the store I planned on going to, they didn't have the item that I saw online. They called the mall about 30 minutes away and put one on hold for me at another store. Ok, I shoulda figured things would go south from here. Got to the mall, thought I spotted my ex's car parked there, same exact model and color, but the license plates were out of state. Kinda sucked being reminded of her, but oh well. Ran inside, got what I wanted, cool. The route home took me past my ex's work. A few months ago I would have drove through the lot to see if she was working (Stalkerish I know), but this time I decided to be the bigger person, realize I have a potential new GF on the horizon, and just kept driving. I was even saying to myself hmmm, some day soon it'll probably be okay to shop there, it's a music store that my ex works at and I'm gunna have to get guitar strings eventually, can't avoid it forever. And I'm sure at this point I'd be okay running into her there and just exchanging a quick hello and leaving. Then as I get closer to home, I see another familiar car coming, glance at the license plates, and this time it is my ex, probably heading to work. Got a birthday gift for another girl sitting on my passenger seat yet seeing this still gets me shook up for a second. I'm doing my best to get over her, why does life keep doing this to me? We live in a major city, I've never had such an easy time repeatedly running into someone I know out on the roads. Life did this to me months ago too in a similar situation, I was out for a drive and decided not to go wandering past her house, headed the opposite direction minding my own business, and ended up running into her. I feel so-so. I just wish it hadn't happened, why did fate not allow me to just get the item at the store five minutes from my house and let me go back home. Instead all of this had to happen, running around for 3 hours to different stores, seemingly just to remind me of my ex. I don't want her back, and I know someone will warn me not to use this new girl as a tool to help me feel better, and I'm not. She seems great, we have a ton in common, and I'm excited to see what happens. I'm especially excited to learn from all the mistakes in my last relationship. I know it's not exactly a good sign that I'm here posting about my ex hours before I meet this girl. It only took me a few seconds to calm down, take a deep breath, and just accept that it happened. Then at the next red light I was sitting behind a car with plates that said "FEEL GRT", and I felt like it was a command, not a suggestion. I had nothing to be upset about, I'm going to have a good night tonight. Just needed to vent about all of this and now I have to hurry up and get ready for tonight. Edited October 22, 2009 by Exit
CaliGuy Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 You're looking for her car, that's why you spotted it. And every car similar to hers you will pay attention to. I used to do that when I was hung up on the ex that brought me here. Now sometimes I see the same car and it doesn't phase me anymore. Who cares? She's old news now and there's too many potentials out there to let the fish that got away (and she is a fish, stinky and smelly! lol) bother me. There's bigger/better out there when you decide to let the past be the past.
Soul Bear Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 You're looking for her car, that's why you spotted it. And every car similar to hers you will pay attention to. I used to do that when I was hung up on the ex that brought me here. Now sometimes I see the same car and it doesn't phase me anymore. Who cares? She's old news now and there's too many potentials out there to let the fish that got away (and she is a fish, stinky and smelly! lol) bother me. There's bigger/better out there when you decide to let the past be the past. Exactly!!!!
JL911 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Honestly I think I could see my ex right now and laugh in her face....Shes just a dumb little girl... Especially with the new little hottie I got hanging on to me.... You need to get over the break up man...You are so close!!
Odyssey Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Exit, be glad you live in a city, i'd seen my ex about 5 times in the early months of coping (only met once and that was by accident). I agree with what everyone is saying here... that you shouldn't and soon, won't even care, especially when you find a new chick. Hey good luck with your date man!
angelface78 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 EXIT, I hope your date went well!!! FORGET YOUR EX...FOCUS ON THE PRESENT AND YOUR FUTURE
cdt76 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Try working with the guy your ex cheated on you with and is now in a relationship! Talk about walking in the same circles. I'm at 3 months. I know what you are doing because I do it too. I'm not as good at dealing with things as most on here. Keep working on you.
Logik Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 If there's a higher power, he's laughing. Why would He be laughing if He "showed" you that "FEEL GRT" number plate after your dilemma? Everything happens for a reason.
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