batty Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Hi just looking for some advice/opinions tbh. I worked abroad for the summer and met a guy who was on holiday, we rly liked each other and have met up since I got back. He lives about 700 miles away and were both rly busy so cant c each other that often. we spk on phone/txt every day and were meeting again next month. I rly like him but not sure what he wants - weve not rly talked about the future?! Ive just met a guy in my hometown that I also rly like and have been on a few dates - I feel rly bad saying this but I dont rly wanna stop seeing either of them. im not sure what to do should I be honest and say im seeing other people or just keep it going the way it is? help! thanks!
BG1985 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Of course you can't date both of them. Sorry, but you'll have to choose one or the other.
GorillaTheater Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Of course you can't date both of them. Sorry, but you'll have to choose one or the other. Disagree. Unless you agree to be exclusive, you can date whoever you want. Early on I don't think you're even obligated to tell either one that you're dating someone else. But to BG's point, be prepared to find that one or both don't want to date a woman who is also dating others. Personally, I'd probably fall into that camp.
Author batty Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 I do agree I know I cant rly date both of them - aaah im confused! Thing is I rly like the guy who I met abroad but Im not rly sure if he wants it to go further or hes just happy to keep meeting up for the odd weekend. I should probably just ask him what he wants next time I see him and then decide. Im going to meet him in a few weeks and I feel like Im gonna be lying to the guy im seeing in my hometown because hes gonna wonder where Im going all weekend - im not sure whether just to be honest and say that im going to meet someone I met during the summer but its not rly serious...I dunno. really tho how likely is the long distance thing to work....I should probably just finish it with him?
ADF Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 You can live your life any way you want, but you at least owe it to the people you date to let them know what they are getting into. The deserve that much respect; don't just make it easy on yourself by lying. Very few guys are going to tolerate sharing a woman with another man. You are gonna have to make a choice.
OpenGL Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Hi just looking for some advice/opinions tbh. I worked abroad for the summer and met a guy who was on holiday, we rly liked each other and have met up since I got back. He lives about 700 miles away and were both rly busy so cant c each other that often. we spk on phone/txt every day and were meeting again next month. I rly like him but not sure what he wants - weve not rly talked about the future?! Ive just met a guy in my hometown that I also rly like and have been on a few dates - I feel rly bad saying this but I dont rly wanna stop seeing either of them. im not sure what to do should I be honest and say im seeing other people or just keep it going the way it is? help! thanks! Are you 12? Jeez some women are just so dumb it hurts.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Do what you want, but be honest with them.
Johnny_Rocket Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Do what you want, but be honest with them. Exactly! Dating someone is a short term exclusivity contract of sorts "probation". It is irrelevant as to if one is 10 feet or 10,000 miles away. Being lead on hurts and for some it can hurt worse than others. Don't let it go too long, most men understand a hard decision, but will not forgive indecision!
Zoff Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 If you're going to do it then make sure they know. Otherwise it could come back to bite you in the backside if the guy you end up choosing finds out after the fact and decides he doesn't like it.
boldjack Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Op, this is easy. Tell both men that you want to date around for a while and will be seeing other people. Tell them that you don't mind if they see other people as well. Then try to come to a decision as soon as possible to avoid any bad-feelings. This should work out well.
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