honeypear Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 My ex and I broke up because of a lie I told. He broke off the engagement told me he did not want me or a future with me. I accept what I did, and yes would like a second chance. Because of the distance between us me in Canada and him in England we used Skype. I went NC after another one of his venting messages. Which was follow up an hour later with sorry i didnt mean that. I am not allowed to ask questions about him, his family or job cos he does not trust me. Our general chit chat is polite and sex chat(yes i know this is wrong) After a day of NC he asked if we could talk and we spent the entire day chatting like we used and with no sex chat..I follow his lead did not ask questions about him and when he asked me questions I gave non specific answers. Here is what I am really confused about he does not want me or trust me yet still wants to talk to me and when I tell him the sex chats have stopped. Why does he still want to know what I am doing in detail, talk to me and want sex chats? Well duh on the sex chat question. What is going on here? Any insights as to what he may be thinking.
littlebittle Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 He sounds hurt and confused about his own feelings, but he's also being kind of manipulative. You've broken his trust, and he's really hurt by that. I obviously don't know what kind of person he is, but just protect yourself and be careful that he's not messing with you. He's either very confused, or playing games. Maybe try to talk to him about how you feel, and how confused you are by his behavior. If he doesn't want to be with you, he shouldn't be dragging things out this way. If he does want to be with you, he needs to be decisive. You did make a mistake, but you're only human. Someone who really cares about you and wants to grow with you will make an effort to understand that and move forward.
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