Mutual breakup (ish) where now?

[letter]

So my first relationship with a girl, lasted a year and we are very close. She was grat, a few sketchy bits when we were seeing each other meant i didnt trust her, and allthough she wasent helpfull at times we both got through it and really had an awesome relationship.

 

Over summer we were apart, got by 4 months happily, then a few days before we were to meet and just before a really special day she ended it. I know she didnt think it through. I knew the errors of my ways the second it happend but couldnt win her round straight off.

 

I got angry, shouted and ignored her for 3 weeks. When she got back to where we live and we met, i knew she had been seeing a guy back home but she got really upset and said she regretted it all.

 

Weve both leart so much from this, we both wanted to be back together, but after whats happend i dont know if i could and she was too scared about the pressure as it was a tough breakup. So understandable.

 

 

My question is where now? her new guy is comming to see her and she wants to remain friends (im certain its a rebound relationship) i know i couldnt have her back but still have strong feelings, and truthfully dont want to satisfy her by being her friend as i feel it gives her best of both worlds.

 

I know if i ignor her from now on it will push her closer to this guy so im so so lost : (

[littlebittle]

Aw, that's a crappy situation. I think the option that will be less painful, and more beneficial in the long run is to not be in contact with her for now. Trying to be friends with someone you have feelings for is hard enough. But when they're dating someone else, that's just the worst. Take some time away from her, and try to work on getting over your heartbreak. You don't want to get even more hurt. I think this will also be conducive to a healthier relationship (in whatever capacity) for you two in the future. Who knows what can happen down the road? But it sounds like right now is not a good time for friendship.