Illiandra Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Been dating this guy for about 2 months now, we had previosuly dated a year ago for 6 months and broke things off. We see each other 2x a week and have moving progressly. My question is, at this point should i bring up the fact that we are hanging and dating again and where is this going or should i just go with the flow ahhhh!
BG1985 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Who broke things off? I'm assuming he did. In that case, he's the one wielding the power in this relationship and the ball is in his court. Why don't you have a few guys on the side while this guy is making up his mind?
Author Illiandra Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 we both did, and have mutually discussed that we want to take things more serious, and not waste each others time. I just want to bring up the fact that we should be together and see what his reaction is. Althoug he has questioned me a few times if i am seeing or dating other people. Even though I was I have broke off dating other people and have dated him only now for about a month
BG1985 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 You should just go with the flow. As I said the ball is in his court, and it's up to him to make the move to officially resume the relationship. If you feel like it's taking him too long, then leave; it's his loss. How come you changed the fact that y'all have been dating from two months down to one month. Or did you say you ditched those other guys a month ago?
torranceshipman Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Don't walk on eggshells...just speak your mind and ask him. If you like what you hear, fine, but if he doesn't want commitment by this point - after 6 months, then getting back together, then dating 2 months, and having him say he wants to get more serious - then move on as if he isn't invested now, he never will be!
ADF Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 If you want a relationship with this person, you'd better spell that out. Men, if left to their own whims, will almost always opt for a FWB arrangment unless you make it clear you want more. Push the issue.
BG1985 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 A guy who just wants friends with benefits is not looking for a relationship. If he actually has feelings for the girl, he'll pursue a relationship.
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