salem mark Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 less than 2 weeks ago, i get this from my girl, then all of a sudden she goes cold on me after a heavy 3 month dating period, is she confused or seeing somebody? Mark I know, sometimes my emotions may be confusing to you as they are to me. Sometimes, they come out of nowhere especially when I am in a situation that resonates deep within me. Those emotions feel like a million balled into one, joy, sadness, fear, love. At times, I need to talk about these so I myself can sort through what I am truly feeling and I am glad you listen. I need this in my life and especially in relationships, I have learned this through past experiences. One thing I want you to know is that you are so wonderful to me and I love you very much. No one in my lifetime has been as kind, caring or loving towards me as you have and this is what I have been waiting for all along. It is nothing that you are doing wrong and I don't want it to sound that way, I am just feeling my way through a dark room sometimes so to speak. At times, I need you to teach me things, talk to me and point me in the right direction. You are my sweetheart and I want this to last forever. I just wanted you to know this. Let me know about tonight. M
BG1985 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I can't be sure, but she may be softening you up for a big blow.
torranceshipman Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 She sounds like hard work....how old is she?
Author salem mark Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 37 but unbelievably hot, smart she is alot of work but im 41 and you dont meet alot of women like her
BCCA Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Have you been in regular contact with her or is this the last you heard of her? To be honest, reading between the lines a bit, it sounds sort of like she's trying to let you know she's going to play the 'confused' card, and her behavior probably isnt matching up with her words. There is just something about messages like this, that even though they initially sound good and make you feel like everything is ok, but the whole 'youre not doing anything wrong, im feeling my way in the dark' bit strikes me as conflicting with most everything else. I think shes going to pull the 'friends' bit or go AWOL all together.
Author salem mark Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 we been together since then, but things have changed, she never acted confused when we were together, i felt like i was on my honeymoon, lately though just colder in general. Shes a late bloomer from a screwed up /mentally ill family so i have been patient with her about a lot of things but im about ready to throw in the towel
Die Hard Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 she is alot of work but im 41 and you dont meet alot of women like her I hope you don't sound this desperate around her....though I think she already knows....
Die Hard Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 It is nothing that you are doing wrong and I don't want it to sound that way, I am just feeling my way through a dark room sometimes so to speak. M Ouch....she's giving you the "it's not you it's me" line...not good at all. Btw, I found the part where she said you are her teacher to be quite strange. She sounds very immature for her age, and very high maintenance, as well as selfish. What has she done lately to deserve being taken out and shown a good time?
BG1985 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 If a girl/woman is really into you, there won't be any confusion on her part. She wouldn't be sending you all these confusing messages.
BCCA Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Shes a late bloomer from a screwed up /mentally ill family so i have been patient with her about a lot of things but im about ready to throw in the towel Dude, bail. Now it makes more sense, she was basically just giving you a heads up that your needs/wants are going to mean jack squat for a while, and since youve already played the role of her shoulder to cry on, shes going to take a fat crap on your feelings and feel sorry for herself when she does. I know its hard not to be sympathetic, but there are people who will just use you up and spit you out. And the odd thing is, they all look super hot, and you wonder how in the world they are still single. THIS is why. Her entire focus is on herself, and shes going to drag you into an endless web of unhappiness before leaving you if you stick around. I've seen this story (and lived it) too many times. If you see a girl that is just TOO GOOD to be still single, and she starts in with the messed up family (whose isnt? who hasnt had some f'd up stuff happen?), RUN! These kinds of people cant be good partners to normal people. They seek out destructive and abusive relationships, or turn the one they have into one.
Left in a Lurch Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 From what she wrote, apparently you are so good and amazing that she can't feel comfortable with herself being with you. Considering that makes no sense at all, ditch her. You could always have fun and write her back that she is the woman of your dreams and you want to spend your life with her and nobody is more perfect for you, but your emotions and love just won't allow it to work no matter how perfect you know she is and how happy it would make you. Then finish it with, "Wanna go to dinner this weekend?". Let her figure out some meaningless bs line.
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