prairiestar13 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Hello. I am Amelia and 29 years old. I am new to this forum. I have just moved to Los Angeles from a small small town in Napa Valley to be with my boyfriend, who I had a long-distance relationship with for 8 months. I am new to L.A. and have no girlfriends to vent to when I need it, so i'm lucky I found this place. A little history about me and Josh: We met on an online forum about 6 years ago. Not a dating or luv forum or anything. It was actually a fan forum for a semi-famous band we both liked back in 2002-2003. The people that posted on the forum were very loyal and we all became like family, posting on the forum to this day even tho the band now sucks. LOL. Josh and I had always been friends and then about two years ago we started talking irl via text messaging and phone calls. We became even closer and then BOOM! He called me late one night and told me he was in love with me. I said the feelings were mutual and we began a whirlwind long-distance romance. We both pretty much knew right away that this was it for both of us and, because it seemed more realistic job and school wise and with the blessing of both our families, I moved to Los Angeles to be with him this August. Its been GREAT. We are deeply in love and committed, have a great sex life, are best friends, and I am just waiting for him to pop the question which I can tell is coming VERY soon.... NOW, my PROBLEM just happened last nite. I was SICK SICK SICK with the flu yesterday. Skipped work and slept pretty much all day. When he came home from work, he was a doll and fed me chicken noodle soup and juice and made sure I was comfortable. I took some thera-flu at about 9pm and went back to bed, leaving him watching television in the front room. I awoke two hours later to him laying in bed, with his back to me, so he couldnt see that I had woken up. He was looking at something in his iphone and upon further inspection, I see that he is looking at a semi-XXX porn site. Actually, back up..... so my guy has a thing for Scarlet Johanssen. I know this. The other day I emailed him a risky picture of her that I linked from this site Hollywoodtuna.com. The site is not a porn site, but BARELY missing it. Basically a celebrity gossip site filled with boobs and such. I emailed him the picture of Scarlet because I know he likes her and it wasnt a very bad pic, no boobs or anything. He asked where it came from and I told him, but I also told him that he better not be looking at that sight, half joking. I mean, i KNEW he would peek at it.... but i didnt know he would be going through it while he was in bed with me. What I spied him looking at was a picture of a naked girl and a erotic story that went with it. I got angry and woke up and he tried to say that he wasnt on his phone and I was dreaming. I grabbed the phone from him and he said okay okay i was looking at the sight you told me about, but I SWEAR i was only looking at the celebrities. I told him i SAW what he was looking at and the girl with her nipples hanging out was NO CELEBRITY. He rolled his eyes, apologized and tried to calm me down but I was angry and hurt. He says that I am overeacting. Am I? This has never happened to me before. I mean, i KNOW he looks at porn sites now and again...every guy does...but in bed with me? Seriously???? Am i overreacting?
torranceshipman Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I think you are overreacting...I know people think different about the porn issue but to me looking at a naughty photo on his iphone isn't really a big crime! Is the biggest issue that he was looking at it while physically in bed with you, though? I think that bit might actually annoy me quite a bit too, as it comes off as disrespectful...so the photo wouldn't really bother me but the context would, if that makes sense.
salem mark Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 overeacting? youve got be kidding me if something this small upsets you have alot to learn about relationships and the fact that you posted here where people have real issues LIGHTEN UP!!
MissJoness Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Why would you give your boyfriend a sexy pic of another woman? It screams desperation to me.
Recommended Posts