Author bac Posted October 23, 2009 Author Posted October 23, 2009 What do you mean when you say "never get attached'? What does it imply for you? If I like a guy, especially if I have good sex with him, I will get attached unconciously. No matter how much I try not to get attached, I will get attached. When I say 'get attached' I mean kind feelings for him, thinking of him, helping him, pleasing him, having a desire for sex, jealousy and stuff like that. To me 'get attached' does not mean that I want a commitment, a long-term relationship, a marriage. Am I on the same page with other people about the terminology of dating?
Lizzie60 Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 What do you mean when you say "never get attached'? What does it imply for you? If I like a guy, especially if I have good sex with him, I will get attached unconciously. No matter how much I try not to get attached, I will get attached. When I say 'get attached' I mean kind feelings for him, thinking of him, helping him, pleasing him, having a desire for sex, jealousy and stuff like that. To me 'get attached' does not mean that I want a commitment, a long-term relationship, a marriage. Am I on the same page with other people about the terminology of dating? I never get attached.. meaning I don't fall head over heels for them.. I like them.. I don't 'love' them.. I used to fall in love as soon as I would have sex with a guy .. but that was decades ago... when I was very young.. Jealousy... I do NOT have that feeling anymore.. and I doubt I would.. not at my age.. I don't think... I used to be extremely jealous when I was much much younger.. So, to get jealous... and to fall in love after the first sexual encounter.. IMO denotes emotional immaturity.
justforfun Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 What do you mean when you say "never get attached'? What does it imply for you? If I like a guy, especially if I have good sex with him, I will get attached unconciously. No matter how much I try not to get attached, I will get attached. When I say 'get attached' I mean kind feelings for him, thinking of him, helping him, pleasing him, having a desire for sex, jealousy and stuff like that. To me 'get attached' does not mean that I want a commitment, a long-term relationship, a marriage. Am I on the same page with other people about the terminology of dating? Yes...spot on I think! Brilliantly put.
justforfun Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 I am emailing to guys who are shy, desperate, attractive and who are not popular because of their shyness and personality. They told me that they want to learn something from me, not just have a penetration. I do not write emails to guys who are popular with girls, alpha or pervs. Erm..I think your answer is right there.
justforfun Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 So, to get jealous... and to fall in love after the first sexual encounter.. IMO denotes emotional immaturity. Everyone's different. But I don't think that is what she was saying.
FeelingLonely98 Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 No offense, but what else could it be? I'm also in my 40s and these KIDS are not relationship material. They view us older women as conquests and not much else. Of course it is about sex... Um, Not sure if you've read my threads (my story) - but my STBXW left a great M with me to shack up with an 18 yr old BF. She's 47!!!! {UGH} She plans to move in with him and possibly get married. (I know hers is just one example - but she thinks it is relationship material!!!)
FeelingLonely98 Posted October 25, 2009 Posted October 25, 2009 To be fair, what else would a 40's woman want with 20's guys? She wants sex, too lol Um, Not sure if you've read my threads (my story) - but my STBXW left a great M with me to shack up with an 18 yr old BF. She's 47!!!! {UGH} She plans to move in with him and possibly get married. (I know hers is just one example - but she thinks there is more than s*x they currently have!!!)
Johnny M Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Um, Not sure if you've read my threads (my story) - but my STBXW left a great M with me to shack up with an 18 yr old BF. She's 47!!!! {UGH} She plans to move in with him and possibly get married. (I know hers is just one example - but she thinks there is more than s*x they currently have!!!) Yikes!! Why on earth would an 18 yr old guy want to shack up with a woman who's practically old enough to be a senior citizen? F-ing weirdos...
CaliGuy Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 Um, Not sure if you've read my threads (my story) - but my STBXW left a great M with me to shack up with an 18 yr old BF. She's 47!!!! {UGH} She plans to move in with him and possibly get married. (I know hers is just one example - but she thinks there is more than s*x they currently have!!!) First off, I am really sorry about this. But the fact that she would leave a marriage to shack up with an 18 year old when there is a 30 year difference tells you something about her. Now I am one who places less empahsis on age, but LEAVING a marriage like in such a manner tells me that this won't work out for her either. If there is any solace, you'll find someone better as you're still relatively young. And it WILL work out much better for you in the end.
justforfun Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 But the fact that she would leave a marriage to shack up with an 18 year old when there is a 30 year difference tells you something about her. Interested to know what that tells you about her?
Lizzie60 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Um, Not sure if you've read my threads (my story) - but my STBXW left a great M with me to shack up with an 18 yr old BF. She's 47!!!! {UGH} She plans to move in with him and possibly get married. (I know hers is just one example - but she thinks it is relationship material!!!) Humm.. interesting that a woman her age would leave a GREAT M (you said it) for an 18 yr old kid... Methink, it could have been any man, any age.. she probably was fantasizing about other men.. and this kid comes along... gives her some attention, sex, love.. whatever (+they are fun).. I know (my young MM is 31 years younger than I am)..then.. she falls head over heels for him.. and leaves... It was just about the timing IMO... he was there at the right time, at the right occasion... She will find out soon enough that he's not relationship material.. trust me.. it will only last a few months/years..
TheLoneSock Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Tell me Lizz, how does one snag a cougar? I'm very curious what it could be like. I'm 23, a man in uniform, and almost finished with my education. I think I could find a hot one if I tried.
Lizzie60 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Tell me Lizz, how does one snag a cougar? I'm very curious what it could be like. I'm 23, a man in uniform, and almost finished with my education. I think I could find a hot one if I tried. Humm... is this you in the pic? What do you mean a man in uniform? Pardon my French but what do you mean 'snag' a cougar?
TheLoneSock Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Humm... is this you in the pic? What do you mean a man in uniform? Pardon my French but what do you mean 'snag' a cougar? Yes that's me in the pic, and I mean I wear a uniform daily for work, I'm an EMT. Idk, some girls like it, some couldn't care less. By snag I mean catch, as in meet one, go on dates with, hang out with. But I guess it might work the other way around...
MrPlayStationMan Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 To the OP. Do they disappear / run before or after they've seen your photo?
Lizzie60 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Yes that's me in the pic, and I mean I wear a uniform daily for work, I'm an EMT. Idk, some girls like it, some couldn't care less. By snag I mean catch, as in meet one, go on dates with, hang out with. But I guess it might work the other way around... What does EMT stands for..
Lucky_One Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Emergency Medical Technician. Lonesock, an EMT is NOT what most women consider a "man in uniform".
Lizzie60 Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 If that's what it is.. then no.. it's not a man in uniform.. I was once told by a bus driver (who wears uniform) that he was attracting women because women like men in uniform..
Teacher's Pet Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Rich, powerful, famous, etc. ....Larry King.... -TP go ahead, chicago!
dreamergrl Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I am OK with having sex with them. I have no problems if they do not want a commitment with me. I am so greatly confused with you bac. You've posted (in the recent past) how you worry all guys want is to have sex with you on the first date. Now you are okay with it?
Author bac Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 I am so greatly confused with you bac. You've posted (in the recent past) how you worry all guys want is to have sex with you on the first date. Now you are okay with it? No, I am not OK with ONSs. I want a relationship with emotional connection.
dreamergrl Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 No, I am not OK with ONSs. I want a relationship with emotional connection. Then why are you okay with sex with them, when chances are that is all they want? I don't understand how you can be so worried about all guys wanting is sex, then you make the statement you are okay with sex with these guys. I think you are pushing away the guys that will and can give you a relationship with emotional connection, and pulling in the ones who only want sex.
Author bac Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 Yes that's me in the pic, and I mean I wear a uniform daily for work, I'm an EMT. Idk, some girls like it, some couldn't care less. By snag I mean catch, as in meet one, go on dates with, hang out with. But I guess it might work the other way around... Go to any personals match.com, yahoo.personals, AFF or others. Read women's profiles because some women may say that they are looking a younger man.
boogieboy Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I KNEW you wanted a relationship Bac. Not a commitment, but you want to have sex with the same guy. Young guys do not want this, and thats why they are running from you. Im sure you give them some kind of hints that you want to only have sex with them, and they dont want cougars to get attached to them, and the responsibility of an emotional connection. If they want an emotional connection, they will get it from a young girl. They just want to hittit-&-quittit. You will just have to play the numbers until you find one that wants a steady bang.
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