bac Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 (edited) I am emailing to guys in early 20s and I am in 40s. They are very interested in meeting me when they are emailing. And, it is not about a long term serious relationship. I have an impression that they want to have sex with me somehow. I am having a lot of emails from them. I am emailing to guys who are shy, desperate, attractive and who are not popular because of their shyness and personality. They told me that they want to learn something from me, not just have a penetration. I do not write emails to guys who are popular with girls, alpha or pervs. The problem is that they vanish into thin air when I ask them to let me know when they are available for the first meeting. So, either they never had a real intention to meet me or they are afraid of something. Could you please anybody explain me why they vanish when I am ready to meet them? What can I try to say/email them to get to meet them in reality? What do they want to hear from me, so they would not be afraid of meeting me, if it is the case? Edited October 22, 2009 by bac
Zoff Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 How long are you corresponding with them before suggesting a meet? I'm not that young now, but I was once. You say you're speaking to shy types, it is only understandable that they're going to get cold feet when someone who they don't know very well suggests a meet up. I'd suggest getting to know them better and giving them time to become comfortable.
Shygirl15 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 The best answers to these questions will likely come from those young boys themselves.
Awesome Username Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Just to let you know, you're my hero.
CarrieT Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I have an impression that they want to have sex with me somehow. No offense, but what else could it be? I'm also in my 40s and these KIDS are not relationship material. They view us older women as conquests and not much else. Of course it is about sex...
lemeng Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 i am 25 and i am atrected to older women like yourself it isent easy to go to the first meeting together but i found it is batter if you talk on skype or phone first this way you get to know the person and and after a few nice conversations he will be dieing to meet you i hope it helps
BCCA Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I think what you described is most people's gripe about online dating anyway. Seems most people there are just there to look at pictures or talk online indefinitely. You also are looking at the age group of people who are the most flaky, selfish, and fickle. I have an impression that they want to have sex with me somehow Well, by the tone of your post, I'm guessing thats your agenda as well, right?
Author bac Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 i am 25 and i am atrected to older women like yourself it isent easy to go to the first meeting together but i found it is batter if you talk on skype or phone first this way you get to know the person and and after a few nice conversations he will be dieing to meet you i hope it helps What is the skype? IM? In my experience, they do not like phone conversations the same as older males. What do they want to hear? I will tell them whatever they want.
BCCA Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 What is the skype? IM? In my experience, they do not like phone conversations the same as older males. What do they want to hear? I will tell them whatever they want. Are you just trying to have sex with them?
Author bac Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 The best answers to these questions will likely come from those young boys themselves. Sure, but there is no way they will tell you anything. How can I ask him politely "What is your problem? What are you afraid of? Do you really know what you want when you contacting me ?" ?
Meaplus3 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I am emailing to guys in early 20s and I am in 40s. They are very interested in meeting me when they are emailing. And, it is not about a long term serious relationship. I have an impression that they want to have sex with me somehow. I am having a lot of emails from them. I am emailing to guys who are shy, desperate, attractive and who are not popular because of their shyness and personality. They told me that they want to learn something from me, not just have a penetration. I do not write emails to guys who are popular with girls, alpha or pervs. IMO, They are only interested in on thing.. and that's S*X! Could you please anybody explain me why they vanish when I am ready to meet them? It's pretty simple. They are NOT who they say they are in the first place. Meaning they have something to hide. I've been there, I know. Mea:)
Author bac Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 Are you just trying to have sex with them? I am OK with having sex with them. I have no problems if they do not want a commitment with me.
BCCA Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 IMO, They are only interested in on thing.. and that's S*X! To be fair, what else would a 40's woman want with 20's guys? She wants sex, too lol I am OK with having sex with them. I have no problems if they do not want a commitment with me. Ok, what are you suggesting to do when you meet up?
Meaplus3 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 To be fair, what else would a 40's woman want with 20's guys? She wants sex, too lol Good point. I should have mentioned that. I very much agree. Mea:)
CaliGuy Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I am emailing to guys in early 20s and I am in 40s. They are very interested in meeting me when they are emailing. And, it is not about a long term serious relationship. I have an impression that they want to have sex with me somehow. I am having a lot of emails from them. I am emailing to guys who are shy, desperate, attractive and who are not popular because of their shyness and personality. They told me that they want to learn something from me, not just have a penetration. I do not write emails to guys who are popular with girls, alpha or pervs. The problem is that they vanish into thin air when I ask them to let me know when they are available for the first meeting. So, either they never had a real intention to meet me or they are afraid of something. Could you please anybody explain me why they vanish when I am ready to meet them? What can I try to say/email them to get to meet them in reality? What do they want to hear from me, so they would not be afraid of meeting me, if it is the case? a. Most young boys/men are insecure. Get used to it. b. While they say they want a cougar, if a young hottie comes their way, they'll "pounce" on her. c. Don't expect to have much fun other than meaningless sex. There will be no "relationship" in the typical sense of the word. d. What did you expect? My definition of "cougar" isn't just an older woman. It's a HOT, HOT, HOT older woman....but that's just me.
boogieboy Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Bac, 1.) either you are coming off to them as getting attached easily, 2.) they are just testing the waters to see who answers - and they found better looking women after they wrote you, 3.) they are fake profiles looking to see what they can get. Either way, you should only worry about the ones who actually meet up with you, not the flakes. You probably have to talk to 50 boys before getting one that will meet up with you before meeting up with a younger girl for sex.
CaliGuy Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I should add that people who use online dating tend to lean towards the picky/flakey side because they can. There is no loss to them and they feel they can wait around for Mr/Ms Perfect to drop in their laps. These are the same people who end up dateless on the weekends, BTW
TheLoneSock Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Just to let you know, you're my hero. Lol! Are you a cougar Awesome?
CaliGuy Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 On this topic, if older women who date younger men are "Cougars" then what do you call older men who date younger women? Before you say it, no they are not PERVS! LOL. I'm thinking TIGER!
Author bac Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 On this topic, if older women who date younger men are "Cougars" then what do you call older men who date younger women? Before you say it, no they are not PERVS! LOL. I'm thinking TIGER! I think that men in 40s who are dating younger girls are just normal and average men. I think that perves are older men who want group sex with several young girls or men of any age who want to do some perv's stuff during sex.
Johnny M Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 On this topic, if older women who date younger men are "Cougars" then what do you call older men who date younger women? Before you say it, no they are not PERVS! LOL. I'm thinking TIGER! I believe they are called "successful", "mature" and "established in life"....
CaliGuy Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I believe they are called "successful", "mature" and "established in life".... Rich, powerful, famous, etc.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 On this topic, if older women who date younger men are "Cougars" then what do you call older men who date younger women? Rich probably Women arent biologically interested in men our age pretty boy
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