myFLIPside808 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 (edited) 1. This is the most important one. Completely stop every type of communications with them. 2. Give them space. 3. Let go of your emotions. Cry if you have to. Let it out. 4. They left you for a reason, don't chase them. Have some self respect for yourself and don't look desperate by trying to get them back. 5. Listen to the reasons of the breakup. 6. Work on the things that caused the break up. (improve yourself.) 7. Prove to them that they made the biggest mistake in their life. 8. Get a new hobby (go to the gym, new sport). 9. Read articles or forums about breakup and learn from people's mistakes. 10. Life doesn't wait for you, so why dwell on it for too long. 11. Focus on your self and no one else. 12. Remember this "the breakup was not the worst thing that happened but it is the best thing that happened." You'll truly understand what you are worth in life. 13. Use the breakup as a motivation "like I said prove to them that they are wrong with the decision. 14. Don't hang out with people that is associated with them. (not permanently but for now) 15. Go out with friends and family. Use this time to catch up with the people that you lost touch with. 16. Remember to Live life NOW not the past or the future. Future is only made if you focus in the now. 17. Be happy that it happened because it set you free. Find your true self and nothing will ever make you more happy than that. 18. Ask yourself this do you really want someone to be with you because they felt sorry for you, or the fact that they are just lonely that they need you to be there until someone better to come along again. (like I said earlier, have some self respect for yourself). 19. There is nothing you can do to get them to chance their mind, you have to let them realize it on their own. So focus with healing yourself. FOCUS JUST WITH YOURSELF. 20. Don't stalk them, I know this at first this will be tough but take a different route from their house, don't go to places where you think they will be. Trust me it won't do you any type of good. What will you get anyway if you did see them? nothing. 21. "God will never take anything from you, unless God will give something better." 22. This breakup really has a reason to it, at first it won't make any sense but in time it will show that it has a purpose for it in your life. Always don't forget that this breakup will help you improve and nothing more. 23. Pray to GOD when life gets tough. He is the only true person that will guide us to achieve what we want in our lives. 24. Stay strong and positive all the time, it will be tough but trust me you can. "you can never know how strong you are until being strong is your only option." 25. Remember being alive is another form of chance. Take a big advantage of it. 26. If GOD can forgive us then forgive the dumper but one thing you can't forget is to forgive yourself also. 27. If you've finally realized that you are ok without them then your on way to being healed. You won't die if they are not with you so why bother. "Never cry for someone that doesn't cry for you." 28. (for men who got dumped) Be a MAN to be treated like a MAN. (stop acting needed and desperate, that is not what a man do). If you have been doing this all the whole time then I congratulate you for your hard work. It takes time, self respect to gain everything back. If I've missed some good tips please post it. I have been broken up with my ex too for about 3 months now. It's been tough but we all can get through it. =) Edited October 22, 2009 by myFLIPside808
GrayClouds Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 29. work on your spelling and grammar Correct spelling, indeed, is one of the arts that are far more esteemed by schoolma'ams than by practical men, neck-deep in the heat and agony of the world." -- Henry Louis Mencken
angelface78 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Gray Clouds is right. I was not looking at the grammar. Thank you for the helpful post.
mendsley Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 Great post "The person who achieves makes many mistakes, but ye never makes the biggest mistake of all - doing nothing" -- Benjamin Franklin
ATR Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 Some good points, but i am atheist, so i laughed at your GOD ones.
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