downunderground Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Some evenings I'm a little tired from early rising for work but still ready for whatever. But why would she wait til I am sleeping not wake me and get herself off to 'Skin-a-max'? I would gladly wake up and provide for her needs but why this? And this is quite common actually. I woke up and caught her once but she didn't know I was awake. What is the deal?
TaraMaiden Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 WTF is skin-a-max...? And if you woke up, why didn't you ask her? or join in? Maybe she's off sex, but onto self-pleasuring....who knows? Well, you would, better than we would, if your communication was up to scratch... Try - radical, I know - discussing it with her.....??
stuckinoz Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Some evenings I'm a little tired from early rising for work but still ready for whatever. But why would she wait til I am sleeping not wake me and get herself off to 'Skin-a-max'? I would gladly wake up and provide for her needs but why this? And this is quite common actually. I woke up and caught her once but she didn't know I was awake. What is the deal? REALLY? Gee....Men do it all the time. No excuses made - well, except "It's just how they are & It's just what they DO".....What's the difference??
The Midnight Rider Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Some evenings I'm a little tired from early rising for work but still ready for whatever. But why would she wait til I am sleeping not wake me and get herself off to 'Skin-a-max'? I would gladly wake up and provide for her needs but why this? And this is quite common actually. I woke up and caught her once but she didn't know I was awake. What is the deal? This could be one of three reasons: She doesn't want to wake you. She knows you work hard and wants you to be at your best and not assdraggin' all day.She likes to do it herself sometimes. If you masturbate and are married, does that mean you don't want to have sex with your wife? Of course not! Don't look too deep into this one, either.You aint ringin' the bells, brotha'. She may be doin' what you aint or won't. Any of these need communication between you both. Just getting ticked and bitching to us isn't gonna help and getting ticked and bitching to HER is worse. Get a grip, come to her and tell her what's on your mind. Don't be embarrassed, just ask what the deal is and don't cry about coming up short if that's the issue. This can be a new dawn of openness between you both. Good luck!
giotto Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 never heard of skinamax, so I looked it up... "refers to the cinamax movie channel which is known for showing softcore porn on friday and saturday nights." Anyhow... do you masturbate at all? She has the right to masturbate, as long as it doesn't affect your sexlife... how often do you have sex? Are you satisfed with the frequence? Otherwise, you'll have to talk to her...
Sparty97 Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 I would generally agree that masturbation by married people is normal/healthy, etc. But the weird part about this is that it sounds like she's doing it in the bed while he's there (is that accurate OP?). Sorry, that's just rude. How would most women react if they woke to their hubby spanking it in the bed next to them? Take it to the bathroom or someplace private.
Lauriebell82 Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 never heard of skinamax, so I looked it up... "refers to the cinamax movie channel which is known for showing softcore porn on friday and saturday nights." Anyhow... do you masturbate at all? She has the right to masturbate, as long as it doesn't affect your sexlife... how often do you have sex? Are you satisfed with the frequence? Otherwise, you'll have to talk to her... Yeah, that's what skinamax is. I think you should talk to her about why she feels the need to satisfy herself as opposed to have sex with you. I wouldn't go about it in an accustatory or mean manner though, that will just turn her off. She may not think you want to have sex that late and doesn't want to wake you out of respect. Maybe the two of you could incorporate mutual masturbation into your sex life if she enjoys pleasuring herself.
Fallen Angel Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 I would generally agree that masturbation by married people is normal/healthy, etc. But the weird part about this is that it sounds like she's doing it in the bed while he's there (is that accurate OP?). Sorry, that's just rude. How would most women react if they woke to their hubby spanking it in the bed next to them? Take it to the bathroom or someplace private. LOL... that is not neccesarily a bad thing.... I have sometimes masturbated while in the bed with my SO, it was more pleasurable for me because I could feel the heat of his skin against mine and I could smell him (something that is a big turn on for me). The only reason I was flying solo was because he works so hard and needed rest, I was in need of physical release, but respected and loved him enough to give him what he needed (sleep) while I got what I needed (orgasm), but because I love him, I wanted to be close to him. How is that "weird"? The times he has awakened while I was masturbating he wasn't upset, he turned towards me, held me, and whispered lovingly into my ear while I finished, or woke up enough that he decided he wanted to join me. But each time we both took pleasure in it, and it was a very loving time between us. I see no harm in it unless the OPs wife is denying him physical affection in order to masturbate alone.
giotto Posted October 24, 2009 Posted October 24, 2009 I have sometimes masturbated while in the bed with my SO, it was more pleasurable for me because I could feel the heat of his skin against mine and I could smell him (something that is a big turn on for me). I can relate to that...
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