Similar vs Different Personality Type when choosing a spouse?

[Keslove]

"Opposites attract" or "Birds of a feather flock together"....I realize there is no one overall perfect match when it comes to marriage, and a successful marriage is based on multiple factors....but to all those out there who are married, what has been your experience/preference in regards to choosing a spouse(s) based on personality type?

 

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My situation....

 

My recent EX girlfriend of 3 years wants to get back together. She wants to go to relationship/marriage counseling and further work towards an engagement followed by marriage. We are of different personality types and temperments, but meet in the middle with many of the same interests, as well as strengths and weaknesses that complement each others'. Physical chemistry is off the charts. We broke-up mainly due to poor communication and understanding that occurred over the course of our relationship. It also bugged me that she didn't get my dry sense of humor.

 

However, I have recently begun dating a fellow co-worker. She is cute and of a similar personality type to myself. She gets my dry sense of humor and we can be goofballs and laugh at each other in public. So I guess she's succeeding where my EX and I were failing, but I'm not so sure this new girl and I are compatible in all the areas where my EX and I were. This is a new relationship, and I do not fully know her or her flaws as of yet.

 

 

Opinions on the subject would be greatly appreciated.

 

Thanks!

[alphamale]

However, I have recently begun dating a fellow co-worker. She is cute and of a similar personality type to myself. She gets my dry sense of humor and we can be goofballs and laugh at each other in public.

i would stay with the new talent

[Trialbyfire]

Keslove, since it's a new relationship, just relax and get to know each other better.

 

One thing's for certain. Make sure that anyone you consider for a life partner, has similar core values and goals. Don't just take someone's word for it, make certain their actions mesh with those words.

[TaraMaiden]

You know it didn't work out with the ex-

You broke up.

Now suddenly, she wants counselling, therapy and marriage....

 

but how much do you want this?

because you have to want it as much as she does.

if you have any doubts at all - and with a new GF, you should have plenty - then it won't work.

You've moved on, found someone new and established a good and happy rapport.

How do you think your new GF would feel if she knew your ex- was trying to reel you back for another go?

This is grossly unfair.

I'm sorry, but in my opinion, you simply tell your ex-

"Sorry, no go. we had our chance, and now I've moved on".

 

This GF may not be "The One" either. But you have to give it a decent chance. It would be both cruel and unjust - to both of you - not to.

 

Stop wondering.

Keep living.