MissJoness Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 well is that how you know you're attractive is by how often you get hit on a day? if you don't get hit on that much then that means you're not all that pretty? I was talking to this girl online and she said that she gets hit on everytime she walks out the door; all day long. So, she must be incredibly pretty then. I don't get hit on all day long, nor everywehre I go. So I have been wroking on my appearance lately. I've been getting chemical peels, and wroking out like crazy to get down to a size 4.
alphamale Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 you're forgetting one fact that a lot of people are afraid to "hit on" a good looking person. most of the good looking women i've dated said they got hit on occasionally but usually it was not the kind of guy they liked.
Author MissJoness Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 you're forgetting one fact that a lot of people are afraid to "hit on" a good looking person. most of the good looking women i've dated said they got hit on occasionally but usually it was not the kind of guy they liked. oh that makes me feel better. maybe that's the case with me. I know somebody said that good looking people don't get complimented that much because folks don't think they need it.
northstar1 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 constantly, by men, women, even some dogs. it's a tough burden to carry, but what can i do?
Zoff Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Heh I'm like quasimodo then, I'm still in single digits T_T
Johnny M Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 well is that how you know you're attractive is by how often you get hit on a day? if you don't get hit on that much then that means you're not all that pretty? I was talking to this girl online and she said that she gets hit on everytime she walks out the door; all day long. So, she must be incredibly pretty then. I don't get hit on all day long, nor everywehre I go. So I have been wroking on my appearance lately. I've been getting chemical peels, and wroking out like crazy to get down to a size 4. Unless they are totally clueless, good looking men and women are usually well aware of their attractiveness even if they don't get complimented on a regular basis (good looking people who are very busy or simply not very outgoing/socially active obviously don't get approached as often as good looking social butterflies...) You can tell whether you are attractive by gauging the reaction of the members of the opposite sex - i.e. the way the talk to you, the way they look at you, whether they get shy around you, etc.
Awesome Username Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 well is that how you know you're attractive is by how often you get hit on a day? if you don't get hit on that much then that means you're not all that pretty? I was talking to this girl online and she said that she gets hit on everytime she walks out the door; all day long. So, she must be incredibly pretty then. I don't get hit on all day long, nor everywehre I go. So I have been wroking on my appearance lately. I've been getting chemical peels, and wroking out like crazy to get down to a size 4. It all depends. I think that the "people hit on you" and male attention stems more from where you are and your surroundings than stuff like makeup and shoes, or at least as much. Since you're talking online, I'm assuming you two live in separate parts of the country. In my hometown which was filled with about three women to one man, I wasn't hit on that much because men didn't have to try as hard. Women were BEAUTIFUL and would spend hours on their appearance to merely get noticed at a mall. Male to female ratio is something that goes unsaid, but matters a lot and will change your 1 to 10 number at least one or two spots. This goes with average age of people living in a specific spot, and obviously the higher the population the more you'll get picked up on. You can be a Silicon Valley goddess or a San Diego plain Jane. Those are extreme examples but the point I'm trying to make is that your location matters a lot. Long hair, high heels, tight shirts, mascara, and going to: 1. Home Depot 2. Computer stores 3. Charity events 4. Sport anything ...will drive the point of "location" home.
627 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I think it depends on the outfit maybe the girl you were talking to was wearing something incredibly hot or something(like short skirts or something) while you don't tend to wear such outfits that will draw more attention to her there is also the factor that the guys you know may not have it as a habbit to compliment or feel weird doing so, do they compliment other women while you are there? sometimes I see a girl I know looking extremly beautiful (maybe a new haircut or makeup or something) and yet I don't say anything to avoid awkward situations, I feel as if it is not my place, maybe she has a boyfriend so giving compliments depend on more factors than simply you looking nice
Phateless Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I think it depends on style of dress as well. The girl that looks more "available" will probably be approached more.
torranceshipman Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Honestly, it doesn't matter how hot a person is, they will so blatantly NOT get hit on every moment of the day!! Well, not unless they are really, really seeking out the attention everywhere they go, and acting/dressing in a way that always gets them a lot of attention (why make so much effort, seriously!!). That suggests a person who really, really needs validation from others. If you don't madly attention seek then people will silently appreciate the fact that you are cute without really hitting on you. On a related note, I have been told by a few people in the past that they were more likely to hit on people that they felt were cute but accessible to them, i.e. more in their 'league' and they would never even bother hitting on the really gorgeous girl as they thought it'd trash their ego when they got rejected. Not sure how true that is but it's quite interesting...
Johnny M Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 It all depends. I think that the "people hit on you" and male attention stems more from where you are and your surroundings than stuff like makeup and shoes, or at least as much. Since you're talking online, I'm assuming you two live in separate parts of the country. Agreed abut the "where you are and your surroundings", but I lol'ed at the "shoes and makeup" part. Unlike women, most men do not have a shoe fetish. We really couldn't care less what shoes you were wearing, unless they were totally mismatched to the rest of the outfit or were downright fugly. As for makeup, if you applied tastefully and not overdone, yes it can help increase your level of attractiveness, but it would be a marginal increase. As thy say, you can put lipstick on a pig... In my hometown which was filled with about three women to one man, I wasn't hit on that much because men didn't have to try as hard. Women were BEAUTIFUL and would spend hours on their appearance to merely get noticed at a mall. Where's your hometown? I'll start packing bags tonight...
CaliGuy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Totally agree that if you are truly HOT you won't get hit on as much as you think you should because most men are intimidated and insecure around truly HOT women. If I think a woman is attractive, no matter how attractive and I am single at the time, I'll show my interest. Rejection doesn't phase me anymore. That said, a little liquor and I'm sure there will be plenty of leg humpers available you. I get hit on occasionally but usually only when I am wearing something that reveals my features. No, I'm not talking bout hot pants, either. Maybe if I walked around only wearing a jock strap I'd get hit on more. Even then, probably by more gay men than women. Hah.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 If you're really attractive you get hit on all day long? well is that how you know you're attractive is by how often you get hit on a day? if you don't get hit on that much then that means you're not all that pretty? Oh yes, of course, but the problem is, even if you are hit-on 972 times in a day, you still don't know what to compare that number to, so you're back to square one of not knowing your own appeal. In addition, these theories don't account for social habits and proximity to population centers, so they may be about as F'ed-up as are most other gauges of general social appeal.
Lizzie60 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 What exactly do you guys mean by 'hit on'...
627 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 plus most of the stuff we read and the people who advice us say "don't say a compliment to a woman that she has probably heard a thousand times, be original etc..." and so, many, me included, are convinced that random obvious compliments are not needed and not welcomed ... which is why I don't tell every beautiful friend I know that she looks beautiful today
BCCA Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 What exactly do you guys mean by 'hit on'... Im assuming like, a guy trying to pick up on you, ask you out, for your number, etc. I agree that really hot women actually rarely get hit on, and its not always the intimidation factor. A lot of them look unapproachable or like they wouldnt be much fun to talk to. Or a lot of guys assume they have a bf, or dont want one.
Ilovecake Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I think it has a lot to do with how you carry yourself and less with level of attractiveness. It is true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, one person might find you attractive while another doesn't give you a second look.
Zoff Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I think it has a lot to do with how you carry yourself and less with level of attractiveness. I agree with this, if you look like you don't want to be approached then that will put off most people. No one likes being rejected.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 What I think the question is, what does this online friend consider being 'hit on'? Some people will consider a second glance as being hit on, some will consider a held open door with a nod and a smile a come-on...some will even consider an insult like, "Hey, I got twenty bucks, you got five minutes to give me a BJ?" a come-on. lol. The guy whooting at you from the back of the garbage truck is NOT hitting on you. He's simply being obnoxious.
LB85 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 well not to sound arrogant or anything but I am quite attractive and I do get hit on, but the amount varies each time. I think it also depends on the environment your in and I sometimes think it depends even which city or country your in! Its strange but when I go to some places, I get looked at or hit on more (I don't mean the ghetto:p). Maybe its the vibe I give off when I'm on holiday or visiting friends and family. I don't really know but does it matter that much? I mean people can even instigate the person sitting opposite them in the train to flirt with them, its not that difficult. I also don't think attractive is all about being hot. Guys look at the whole package so if your gorgeous but wear dull clothes and look boring then they would just consider you pretty but not want to do anything (depends on what they want really). I mean do you realise how different guys like you for different reasons, astonishing really...
MrFun Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I never get hit. It has happened maybe one or twice a year. But then again, I'm not visually attractive. I asked a model gf of mine and she said men never hit on her. I reckon they're just too chicken to. See that's my forte, I'm dorky, but I love having a great time. Women dig my vibe and I love good looking women. I know that they hardly get hit on. So I snatch them away for you better looking guys HA!
CaliGuy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I agree with this, if you look like you don't want to be approached then that will put off most people. No one likes being rejected. The biggest turn off for me is NOT smiling back or making eye contact. It either means you aren't interested (taken or not) or are insecure. I don't think they're stuck up, I just get the message LOUD and CLEAR.
boogieboy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Miss Joness youre gettiing down to a size 4? How tall are you?
Ophelia Rue Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 The girl is a liar. No one gets hit on all day, every day.
Lizzie60 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 If she's beautiful.. then I would believe she gets hit on a lot.. I can't say that I get 'hit' in the way you guys mean.. but every single day I get those 'smiles', those 'flirty' eye contacts... in the buillding where I work (thousands of people).. on the street, public transit...
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