wanthim4eva Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 the BF dumped me a week and half ago (long stories but it wasn't because i had done anything bad like cheat or lie etc), i tried to reasoning and pleading, that didn't work so i am now on day 5 of NC. here is my prob... i have 4 of his good friends on my facebook list, i get on with them but don't talk to them that much... one of my best friends is going out with one of his best friends and we all used to go out in a group. i still want to get back with my ex so i don't want to do anything that could be counter productive or make him think i am doing anything only to cause a reation in him. i sort of don't want to end up seeing a pic of my ex having the time of his life pop up on one of his mates pages but at the same time i am not sure wether to delete them or not... if i delete them, they will most deff go back to him and say i have deleted them all.... but i do not want him to think i am just doing it for effect or to cause a reaction in him coz i know that is not going to help my case very much if he thinks i am trying to play games or get him wondering. if you dumped someone and then 2 weeks later they deleted all your friends from their FB list... what would you think???
Author wanthim4eva Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 ps - also i don't want them to think i am being funny with them as i know i will bump into them at some point. i don't want to mail them and explain why i am deleting them coz i don't want the ex to know it'd be too painful for me to see pics of him.
GrayClouds Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 ps - i don't want to mail them and explain why i am deleting them coz i don't want the ex to know it'd be too painful for me to see pics of him. Why, if your in pain your in pain, there is nothing wrong with that. YOur too worried about your EX and not enough about yourself. You need to do what you need to do to heal. Delete them and when they ask why say "I am getting over the break up and doing what I need to do. I need to take care of myself." That show strength rather then weakness. Read the following: So you want a second chance?
honeypear Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Why, if your in pain your in pain, there is nothing wrong with that. YOur too worried about your EX and not enough about yourself. You need to do what you need to do to heal. Delete them and when they ask why say "I am getting over the break up and doing what I need to do. I need to take care of myself." That show strength rather then weakness. Read the following: So you want a second chance? I agree. I am going through the same thing. I had to delete my ex bf because his friends who added me after we got together were now putting nasty messages on their status updates..you need time to heal, grow and decide what to do next.
cdt76 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I agree. I am going through the same thing. I had to delete my ex bf because his friends who added me after we got together were now putting nasty messages on their status updates..you need time to heal, grow and decide what to do next. Good to know there are women out there who do the right thing and break off contact with the ex's friends and social circle. My ex took over the social circle and I have to start over.....course they are scum bags apparently but still hurts to think she was able to take them all away from me.
adamt Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Remove your ex from all your social network websites. It is hard to do but it will make you feel better in the long run and make a difference
CaliGuy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 If I dumped someone and they deleted all of my friends, I don't think I'd care. You're still in the position of pining over your ex so you're going to do a lot of "destructive" things to yourself and the relationship (ie: begging, pleading, etc). Why not just complete NC? What do you have to lose at this point? He's already left you so staying in contact with him isn't going to make him miss you or want you more. If anything, staying in contact is sure to dig yourself into a deeper hole. Besides, if someone new comes along you'll miss the boat waiting around for someone who dumped you. Can you not see the bum logic in that idea? Wait for something old? Enjoy something new! Your choice. (And yes, it IS a choice to pine around for an ex).
Eisenhower Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 You don't need to "de-friend" your mutual friends - just block their status updates from appearing on your home screen and don't go looking at their FB sites. Self control is all you need - deleting them, when they did nothing wrong isn't necessary. Eisenhower
Author wanthim4eva Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 hey... thanks guys ... i can see by the replies i havent explaind things right... my ex is not on any social network sites.. he sais they are a waste of time and full of losers etc.... so it's not really my ex i have to worry about. he ended it nearly 2 weeks ago and i am on day 6 of NC and did do the crying and pleading on the first 2 days of him ending it then after 4 days of NC, i broke it and askd if we could at least part of friendly terms and stay civil .. that didn't work so went into NC which has been going on 6 days as i said. i did delete one of his friends last night as my good friend who is going out with another of my ex's friends told me that the deleted friend had been going around all happy and ringing people and saying 'have you heard?? he's finaly done it and got rid of her'.. that hurt as i was never anything but nice to the boy but if that's the way he wants to play then i wont ever talk to him or aknowledge him again when i see him about ... he is just jealous IMO coz he got dumped about 6-8 months ago and has had no female interest since so wants my ex single so he can be 'one of the boys' with him. grr. anyway so i deleted him but have kept the 3 others as i don't think they are going to be any threat or harm to me feeling like crap. been feeling like utter crap today .. was at the gym this morning but spent most of the time crying... then came back and lookd and photos of us and did more crying. made the decision though to tone right up again and get back into the modeling i seem to have let slip coz things had got too cozey with the ex... aswell as re-start my driving lessons which i also let slip. LOL. next time i know there is a chance i may bump into him, i am gonna make sure he doesn't see me looking anything but amazing.. i don't want him to walk away thinking 'yea i made the right choice'.. want him to be kicking himself even if by that time i don't want him back
adamt Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 keep going to the gym and push yourself there. get rid of all the photos are burn them onto cd and give them to a friends to look after. You will improve but you have to want to move on. Keep yourself busy as much as possible and take it day by day. i was where you were 5 months ago. Now i have met someone else and going to see how it goes with this new girl.
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