TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 (edited) I'm not sure why, just have been for the most part. Something about them turns me on. They can't be too psycho, otherwise it doesn't work. And they can't simply be bitchy, that doesn't count. I like girls that have lived a little, have had their fair share of ups and downs in life, aren't a good girl. I'm much more turned on by a decent looking girl that's a little messed up in the head than a hot looking girl that's closer to normal psychologically speaking. I'm pretty sure it's because I'm kind of F'd in the head too. Also, the sex with girls that were like that was always the raunchiest and most satisfying- connection wise. My longest relationships have been with girls that have a srew loose. I'm kind of an adrenaline junky/risk taker- that's probably why we meshed. That and they seemed to be a bit more of a challenge. Who knows. Opinions? Any psych majors? Any girls out there that are messed in the head as well? Discuss. Edited October 21, 2009 by TheLoneSock
EcstasyX6 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 You sound like my ex. He says I'm a challenge.
espec10001 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Well then you pretty much have the entire female population to choose from!
Island Girl Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 ...at your service my dear. LOL CE-- aren't we all?? As for the described Hot Looking Girl That's Closer To "Normal" I have yet to meet one of those! Must be like a Pegasus or a Unicorn -- at the very least a needle in a haystack. I'm not saying we're all crazy - but every woman I know has her issues. LOL
mushmush Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 would you describe your parents as a little co-dependant?? there is my pschology attempt Hell I used to go for the slightly crazy/arty girls myself.. Found the relations turned out to be not so.... umm lets just say healthy for my mental state. I think f'ed up in the head stopped being attractive for me when the last one I dated threatened to commit suicide on me if I moved out.
Island Girl Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I think f'ed up in the head stopped being attractive for me when the last one I dated threatened to commit suicide on me if I moved out. Um if she was at all serious this is ACTUALLY crazy not just a little bit.
tigressA Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I can definitely understand that sentiment. I have heard some guys say that relationships with crazy girls are frustrating, but really fun and because of that, it's hard to break the habit of dating them. There are also probably some guys who feel that they can "save" these girls from themselves and like coming to the rescue. My first boyfriend, who I dated over 3 years ago, took it to the extreme. The girl he dated before me, who he was deeply in love with and wanted to marry, is VERY F'd in the head--hints of antisocial personality disorder, history of eating disorders, self-mutilation, a couple of half-hearted suicide attempts, she got hooked on Oxycontin and then got kicked out of school because paraphernalia was found in her desk where she did work-study(!). But just from looking at her and chatting with her, you wouldn't know it, which seems to me to be even more F'd up.
Bleeve Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I am the same way. Every girl I have dated has been a little psycho. They are attracted to me and me to them so doesn't seem to be much I can do about dating them.
mushmush Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Um if she was at all serious this is ACTUALLY crazy not just a little bit. Thats why I got out! lol she was not serious, was just doing it as a way to try and control me and stop me from leaving. Misery loves company so to speak. Gave and gave until I had nothing left. Yes she was definatly a sandwich sort of a picnic though. As a possitive it was a good turning point for me, stopped going for girls that had a screw loose and started going for girls that would make a positive differnce in my life. mmm girls who are adventurous But yeah back in my younger years a little f'ed it the head is alot of fun for the sheer randomness of it all. Another form of escapism so to speak. What parties you would end up, who you would meet and yeah sometimes you think you can make a differnce in their lives.
torranceshipman Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I remember JillyBean commenting in another thread somewhere that a lot of women get involved in toxic drama fueled relationships in their 20's, then grow out of it, and settle down with someone a lot more stable when they are a bit older (i.e. the drama gets boring). Sounds like the same thing here, but with a guy voicing it...
AD1980 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 (edited) Interesting..Most of the time its women who like the slighlty unstable or unreliable guy becasue they feel they need drama in a relatinship or something to fix or they get bored Edited October 21, 2009 by AD1980
Devil Inside Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 OP...what do these girls say attracts them to you? Is there a pattern? Often we find ourselves with a person that puts us in a particular role...can you see that pattern here with your dating partners?
freestyle Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Here's a different angle. If I recall correctly,from one of your other posts, you have clergy members in your close family.Father, or grandfather,I forget which.......... I've seen this pattern with the children of clergy people, a tendency to want to rebel some what (or, a LOT) against a strict upbringing.Do you think it's possible that your attraction to "bad girls" may be influenced by your background??? Food for thought?
Awesome Username Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Q: What does a man get when he rescues a damsel in distress? A: A distressed damsel! If you don't already live in California, move here. There are plenty of hot mess tattooed pierced black heart oxycotton goddesses for you to choose from. Bonus if you're a musician.
Phateless Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I'm not sure why, just have been for the most part. Something about them turns me on. They can't be too psycho, otherwise it doesn't work. And they can't simply be bitchy, that doesn't count. I like girls that have lived a little, have had their fair share of ups and downs in life, aren't a good girl. I'm much more turned on by a decent looking girl that's a little messed up in the head than a hot looking girl that's closer to normal psychologically speaking. I'm pretty sure it's because I'm kind of F'd in the head too. Also, the sex with girls that were like that was always the raunchiest and most satisfying- connection wise. My longest relationships have been with girls that have a srew loose. I'm kind of an adrenaline junky/risk taker- that's probably why we meshed. That and they seemed to be a bit more of a challenge. Who knows. Opinions? Any psych majors? Any girls out there that are messed in the head as well? Discuss. I know what you mean... there's something fascinating about psycho girls. For one, the sex is insane, and the intensity can be intoxicating. But the hangover SUCKS.
Author TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 ...at your service my dear. Well alright then, score.
Author TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 OP...what do these girls say attracts them to you? Is there a pattern? Often we find ourselves with a person that puts us in a particular role...can you see that pattern here with your dating partners? You know I'm not exactly sure. One in particular just had that look in her eye, can't descrive it. I'm a very dominant person in a relationship, and they seemed to be a little bit harder to impress. I'm also attracted to life experience, so a girl that hasn't done much doesn't do much for me. I've been through quite a bit so I like girls that can relate to me, not girls that need their hand held.
Author TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 would you describe your parents as a little co-dependant?? there is my pschology attempt That's an interesting question. I would not say they are co-dependent though. My dad was a bit of a bad boy and my mom was the highschool cheerleader with straight A's. I am a lot like my dad. Maybe it's because I like girls that are a little different from my mom? Good question about the parents.
Awesome Username Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 You know I'm not exactly sure. One in particular just had that look in her eye, can't descrive it. I'm a very dominant person in a relationship, and they seemed to be a little bit harder to impress. I'm also attracted to life experience, so a girl that hasn't done much doesn't do much for me. I've been through quite a bit so I like girls that can relate to me, not girls that need their hand held. You want an independent woman who wants to be dominated and FREAKY in bed, and will appreciate and need you emotionally. You want someone intelligent and experienced. Dude, pick up a rich cougar. You might as well make your preferences go in your favor!
Author TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 Here's a different angle. If I recall correctly,from one of your other posts, you have clergy members in your close family.Father, or grandfather,I forget which.......... I've seen this pattern with the children of clergy people, a tendency to want to rebel some what (or, a LOT) against a strict upbringing.Do you think it's possible that your attraction to "bad girls" may be influenced by your background??? Food for thought? You're right my grandpa is a Pastor, a korean war vet as well (my dad's dad). I was not brought up very strict though, I was never forced to go to church- when I did it was because I wanted to and to be around my grandpa because he always had something to teach me. It's only recently in life that I've gone closer to my faith. You bring up a really good point, but I was never put in a where I needed to rebel. My parents were actually pretty lax compared to most- they kind of turned me loose.
Author TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 If you don't already live in California, move here. There are plenty of hot mess tattooed pierced black heart oxycotton goddesses for you to choose from. Bonus if you're a musician. Haha whoaaa. You don't have to be a tat'd up druggy to be a bad girl lol. I don't go for those types.
Author TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 I know what you mean... there's something fascinating about psycho girls. For one, the sex is insane, and the intensity can be intoxicating. But the hangover SUCKS. Yes indeed they do.
Author TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 (edited) You want an independent woman who wants to be dominated and FREAKY in bed, and will appreciate and need you emotionally. You want someone intelligent and experienced. Dude, pick up a rich cougar. You might as well make your preferences go in your favor! Haha, I have only been with one 'cougar' before when I was 21. It was pretty good but I didn't see what all the hype was if you know what I mean. Girls near or below my age were just as good or better. Maybe it's just how my generation is? Surrounded by sexual bombardment from a young age. Or maybe it was with the wrong cougar. Edited October 21, 2009 by TheLoneSock
batinhell66 Posted October 22, 2009 Posted October 22, 2009 I FEEL you, man. I love guys that people categorize as "normal" and "sweet" and "relationship guys". My preference consists of guys that do not have tattoos, hate drinking and smoking and refuse to do drugs. Otherwise normal, maybe a bit too sensitive. And I'm a bit ****ed up in the head. A tad bit. Good for you, though. I'm sure they love you back!
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