herenow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 I was just pulling Donna's leg. And I also wanted to take a shot at this "support" nonsense that I see all. The. Damn. Time. on this board (not buying it whatsoever, sorry). And think the crux of the problem, like Dexter indicated, is that she simply can't tell a coherent story. Oh, OK sorry, I totally misread your post. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 I was just pulling Donna's leg. You KNOW how I LOVE THAT! And I also wanted to take a shot at this "support" nonsense that I see all. The. Damn. Time. on this board (not buying it whatsoever, sorry). And think the crux of the problem, like Dexter indicated, is that she simply can't tell a coherent story. True, that. If there really is a ring, why would the W leave it laying on a dresser? Hell, I'd sell it! As for these supposed clothing items he refuses to return, perhaps the W burned 'em. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 (edited) You KNOW how I LOVE THAT! True, that. If there really is a ring, why would the W leave it laying on a dresser? Hell, I'd sell it! As for these supposed clothing items he refuses to return, perhaps the W burned 'em. Or, the BW likes the clothes and she is wearing them Talk about the OW being irrelevant. Just the fact that any reminder remains must mean that the BW just really doesn't care. You are right, if the BW was at all bothered by these items, they would be long gone. Reminds me of the time, well after d-day, that the OW sent my H flowers on a holiday. He called me and said he was throwing them in the trash. I told him not to, it would be a shame to waste such a beautiful gift from nature. He gave them to his assistant to bring home to her family. Really, why waste flowers by throwing them in the trash? My H's assistant knew who they were from and thought it was a holiday gift to the office. Worked out great. Edited October 23, 2009 by herenow Link to post Share on other sites
howcouldInotknow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 You KNOW how I LOVE THAT! True, that. If there really is a ring, why would the W leave it laying on a dresser? Hell, I'd sell it! As for these supposed clothing items he refuses to return, perhaps the W burned 'em. Okay what he does with the ring once it is no longer on my finger is his own problem. He and his wife although working on their M do not live together. And is what I say is "supposed" then that can be said for everyone here can it not? Maybe some of the H here are supposedly committing to their marriages once again. I believe he proposed because he believed that he loved me. At the time he wasn't honest about his feelings for his wife and that is where things went wrong. I gave the ring back it doesn't necessarily have to be sitting on the dresser (that is where he keeps his jewelry) but it is there she knows about it. Despite what you people want to say and criticize her husband isn't as into her as he tells her. Honestly their divorce was proceeding smoothly until she wanted more money. I will never be anyones OW. And nothing I say is supposed what I say about my relationship is FACT. And I am done with all of you salty angry BS. Just like the OP wanted to say maybe her husband was never in love with his OW. I know in my case he was in love with me and I understand why that is hard for some of you to deal with. Obviously MM is missing something with me or he would not have tracked me down on facebook. And what he is missing is not sex because I am sure he gets that from his W. So I would appreciate if you women stop responding to my thread. Regardless of what you want to say there is an OW because your man brought her into your lives so again all of this is judgement and anger is misplaced. Go take it up with your husbands who betrayed their marriage vows by putting his hands and lips on another womans body. Regardless of what you say at some time she had something your husband wanted at some time or another Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 So I would appreciate if you women stop responding to my thread. Your thread? Was there some kind of coup when I wasn't looking? And no, you don't sound angry at all. You're fine. Link to post Share on other sites
howcouldInotknow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Okay what he does with the ring once it is no longer on my finger is his own problem. He and his wife although working on their M do not live together. And is what I say is "supposed" then that can be said for everyone here can it not? Maybe some of the H here are supposedly committing to their marriages once again. I believe he proposed because he believed that he loved me. At the time he wasn't honest about his feelings for his wife and that is where things went wrong. I gave the ring back it doesn't necessarily have to be sitting on the dresser (that is where he keeps his jewelry) but it is there she knows about it. Despite what you people want to say and criticize her husband isn't as into her as he tells her. Honestly their divorce was proceeding smoothly until she wanted more money. I will never be anyones OW. And nothing I say is supposed what I say about my relationship is FACT. And I am done with all of you salty angry BS. Just like the OP wanted to say maybe her husband was never in love with his OW. I know in my case he was in love with me and I understand why that is hard for some of you to deal with. Obviously MM is missing something with me or he would not have tracked me down on facebook. And what he is missing is not sex because I am sure he gets that from his W. So I would appreciate if you women stop responding to my thread. Regardless of what you want to say there is an OW because your man brought her into your lives so again all of this is judgement and anger is misplaced. Go take it up with your husbands who betrayed their marriage vows by putting his hands and lips on another womans body. Regardless of what you say at some time she had something your husband wanted at some time or another And further more I am talking about my own personal experience why is everyone jumping down my throat? If you've got your husband back great for you I am talking about what happened to ME Link to post Share on other sites
Snowflower Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Howcould, I was going to empathize with you because like another poster mentioned previously, I truly feel sorry for anyone who gets involved with a partner who is separated. The marriage appears to be over so the separated person is 'available.' Then the separated partner goes back to their marriage for whatever reason and that has to hurt. I, for one, don't believe it is cheating when a married couple has separated and both spouses know that the marriage is over...as it appeared to be in your case. Honestly, you aren't even the OW as far as I'm concerned. However, being bitter and 'evil' (the title of this thread) doesn't only apply to BW. Do you enjoy lashing out at others in an attempt to hurt them, as you tried to do in your post above? BTW, your comments about our husbands putting their hands on some other woman doesn't bother me, as a fBW, in the least. Nice try...but I know my own truth about my H! Link to post Share on other sites
howcouldInotknow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Your thread? Was there some kind of coup when I wasn't looking? And no, you don't sound angry at all. You're fine. Are you serious? How petty are you going to get? Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Regardless of what you want to say there is an OW because your man brought her into your lives Um, in quoting and responding to me, make no mistake - there never has been nor will there EVER be an OW between me and my baby. Not a BS here. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Are you serious? How petty are you going to get? Not so petty as to taunt these women with thoughts of their husbands' hands and lips on the bodies of other women. So I suppose at least I've got that going for me. And I would never say anything like "hell, I can't imagine why the dude opted for his wife over you". Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Okay what he does with the ring once it is no longer on my finger is his own problem. He and his wife although working on their M do not live together. And is what I say is "supposed" then that can be said for everyone here can it not? Maybe some of the H here are supposedly committing to their marriages once again. I believe he proposed because he believed that he loved me. At the time he wasn't honest about his feelings for his wife and that is where things went wrong. I gave the ring back it doesn't necessarily have to be sitting on the dresser (that is where he keeps his jewelry) but it is there she knows about it. Despite what you people want to say and criticize her husband isn't as into her as he tells her. Honestly their divorce was proceeding smoothly until she wanted more money. I will never be anyones OW. And nothing I say is supposed what I say about my relationship is FACT. And I am done with all of you salty angry BS. Just like the OP wanted to say maybe her husband was never in love with his OW. I know in my case he was in love with me and I understand why that is hard for some of you to deal with. Obviously MM is missing something with me or he would not have tracked me down on facebook. And what he is missing is not sex because I am sure he gets that from his W. So I would appreciate if you women stop responding to my thread. Regardless of what you want to say there is an OW because your man brought her into your lives so again all of this is judgement and anger is misplaced. Go take it up with your husbands who betrayed their marriage vows by putting his hands and lips on another womans body. Regardless of what you say at some time she had something your husband wanted at some time or another Thank you so much. I really appreciate that you have cleared this up. It now makes perfect sense. He loves you, but he is back with his wife because it would cost him too much money to be with you. And she knows about you, so all is good. Thanks again for the clarification. Link to post Share on other sites
howcouldInotknow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Not so petty as to taunt these women with thoughts of their husbands' hands and lips on the bodies of other women. So I suppose at least I've got that going for me. And I would never say anything like "hell, I can't imagine why the dude opted for his wife over you". Boy I wish that bothered me lol go try though Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Okay b!tches you win I am done. Its friday afternoon I have other things to do than argue with a bunch of women. Thanks and enjoy the weekend Thank GOODNESS! And yes, I plan on having a WONDERFUL weekend. Bi-otch - signing off. Oh, I guess she really ISN'T done... lol Link to post Share on other sites
Snowflower Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Okay b!tches you win I am done. Its friday afternoon I have other things to do than argue with a bunch of women. Thanks and enjoy the weekend I think GorillaTheater is a guy! Hmmm? Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Oh and yes, my H did put his hands, lips and much more on the OW. That is all they did over and over again. And yes, that is all he wanted. So, you are correct. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 Oh, I guess she really ISN'T done... lol It's me. I have this way with women. Link to post Share on other sites
blinded Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 However, being bitter and 'evil' (the title of this thread) doesn't only apply to BW. Do you enjoy lashing out at others in an attempt to hurt them, as you tried to do in your post above? This is true about BS not being the only ones bitter and 'evil'. The lies and deceit from an A cause people to act out of character. A BS acts out in reaction to the betrayal. The OW/OM acts in response to whatever trust was broken based on empty promises or even lies told to them by the MM/MW. I don't think any sane person purposely sets out to hurt another whether the know them or not (unless you're chemically imbalanced). But I do think that if you're being verbally attacked and ganged up on, then it's ok to defend yourself in any way you seem fit. howcouldInotknow- hang in there and enjoy your weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
mybrowneyedgirl Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 whats that song from alanis morisette? "i hope youre thinking of me when you F*** her" just being an ugly battered OW here. excuse the moment of hatred. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 And we all hope the W is thinking of the OW when her H takes her out to dinner and surprises her with an anniversary gift this year. Link to post Share on other sites
Snowflower Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 (edited) Oh and yes, my H did put his hands, lips and much more on the OW. That is all they did over and over again. And yes, that is all he wanted. So, you are correct. Yeah, herenow, and I'll bet your H put his hands, lips and much more on YOU, his wife both, before and after his A. So much for the thought that the fBW are always being ugly, evil women! I guess it was why my H couldn't stay away from me after I gave him the chance to make it up to me and recover our marriage. Edited October 23, 2009 by Snowflower Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 I Everytime she walks around his home and looks at rooms I decorated, clothing I picked out for him, and the 3 karat ring he gave me sitting on the dresser I KNOW I am not irrelevant. Thank you Sorry, but IMO THIS is where "evil and ugly" began in this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 (edited) Yeah, herenow, and I'll bet your H put his hands, lips and much more on YOU, his wife both, before and after his A. So much for the thought that the fBW are always being ugly, evil women! I guess it was why my H couldn't stay away from me after I gave him the chance to make it up to me and recover our marriage. Yup always did. Even during the A. Sex with my H is great. I'm sure that the OW enjoyed it very much. I certainly do. I wonder why he didn't run to the OW when I kicked him out. Instead he paid to stay at a hotel while he begged me to take him back. Gee, if this is all about money, you would think he would have at least taken the OW up on her offer when she begged him to stay with her. Edited October 23, 2009 by herenow Link to post Share on other sites
Snowflower Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 I wonder why he didn't run to the OW when I kicked him out. Instead he paid to stay at a hotel while he begged me to take him back. Gee, if this is all about money, you would think he would have at least taken the OW up on her offer when she begged him to stay with her. Yup, had a similar situation with my H. I gave him the proverbial 'boot up the ass' and told him to go live the life he kept saying he wanted. There was no way I was going to get into any competition. I simply didn't have it in me at the time. I was numb from d-day, emotionally exhausted, and pissed. I told him to have a happy life and go pursue his 'friendship' with her. His OW kept asking him to go stay with her but he never would go. It was almost irritating at the time, as I recall. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 (edited) Yup, had a similar situation with my H. I gave him the proverbial 'boot up the ass' and told him to go live the life he kept saying he wanted. There was no way I was going to get into any competition. I simply didn't have it in me at the time. I was numb from d-day, emotionally exhausted, and pissed. I told him to have a happy life and go pursue his 'friendship' with her. His OW kept asking him to go stay with her but he never would go. It was almost irritating at the time, as I recall. Right, why would anyone want to be someone who wants to be with an OW? It has nothing to do with kids, money, status, obligation, etc. If my H loved an OW, I would want him to be with her, not me. I would want the chance to find my own love and happiness and would hope he would give that to me. I would not want to waste my years with a man who had any kind of love for an OW. I would never use kids to keep a man. That would be disrespectful to the kids. How horrible to place that type of responsibility on children. I highly doubt kids would like it if they found out their parents stayed in an unhappy marriage because of them. You can still be great parents and not be married. and, no amount of money would pay for years wasted in an unhappy marriage. I don't buy those ideas. However, it did take a lot of time and work before I would let my H back in my life. I needed know that I could be happy without him before I was able to try and make our marriage work. He made some very significant changes and I did as well. We are all the better for it. Bottom line. No evil wife here. Just a woman trying to be the best I can be for my H, my family, my friends, and humanity in general. Edited October 23, 2009 by herenow Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 If my H loved an OW, I would want him to be with her, not me. I would want the chance to find my own love and happiness and would hope he would give that to me. I would not want to waste my years with a man who had any kind of love for an OW. I sincerely doubt that there are any truly recovered marriages where the the betrayed spouse doesn't kick out the wayward spouse and send him/her off to the AP. Otherwise, where is the incentive for the WS to make a choice? Link to post Share on other sites
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