kis Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Can anyone who has been involved in an emotional affiar tell me how long it lasted and how it ended.
kirby Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I am currently in the midst of an emotional affair. It has been going on for 5 months. I am divorced, he is married. It began as a friendship and progressed to an emotional attachment - no sex. It involves weekly communication, via calls and texts. He does not live in the same town. It is physical only to the point of kissing and hugging hello and goodbye. It is emotional as the feeling are very real and very strong. It is coming to a point where a decision must be made. It is becoming too diificult.
Jaspe_Loco Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Can anyone who has been involved in an emotional affiar tell me how long it lasted and how it ended. 3 years, 2 months and still going. Both of us are married but are in the process of filing for divorce. Our relationship did become physical a few months ago, but I'd say our relationship is 80% emotional, 10% physical. The thing about an emotional affair is that eventually you have to make tough choices. Emotional affairs cannot by nature remain stagnant. They either have to grow and they will wither away, usually with one partner wanting more than the other can give. That was a revelation to both of us last Spring and we decided to go forward. You should be aware that emotional affairs often result in great pain to some or all parties involved.
JumpinJimmy Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Men stay in EA's to get to the physical part. Men can hardly fufill the emotional needs of 1 woman, let alone two. JL, your guy to wait 3yrs to get it has to be some kind of record, but he did get it in the end.
Jaspe_Loco Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Men stay in EA's to get to the physical part. Men can hardly fufill the emotional needs of 1 woman, let alone two. JL, your guy to wait 3yrs to get it has to be some kind of record, but he did get it in the end. 80% emotional, 10% physical. Not really sure what happened to the other 10% lol. Actually, JJ, I'm the man. Although I haven't told her this, sex gets in the way of our relationship more times than not, mainly because we are always rushed and have to hold back. When you're constantly watching the clock or worrying about claw and bite marks, it diminishes the experience.
Author kis Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 I am currently in the midst of an emotional affair. It has been going on for 5 months. I am divorced, he is married. It began as a friendship and progressed to an emotional attachment - no sex. It involves weekly communication, via calls and texts. He does not live in the same town. It is physical only to the point of kissing and hugging hello and goodbye. It is emotional as the feeling are very real and very strong. It is coming to a point where a decision must be made. It is becoming too diificult. I am in an emotional affiar too. Lots of hugging very closely. No kissing, I think it would be way too hard to keep from progressing if we kissed. But I want to..........................
kirby Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 It's funny, but once you share that first kiss - you can't go back. Everything changes from that point forward. You just cant see someone the same way after that. It's diifficult, so avoid the physical aspect as much as possible - it's just too difficult.
carhill Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 25 years or so, with a 14 year break interspersed. I ended it the first time, as the OM, and I'd say she ended it most recently, as the OW. No PA but completely inappropriate intimacy regardless. Physical affection and ILY's. Anyone could see us together and know something was going on. How did it end? Most recently, flew back home together, helped her collect her luggage, gave her a hug and told her to take care and headed off to the parking lot whilst her boyfriend came by to pick her up. No drama, no tearful goodbyes. We both just kinda knew it was time to take care of our own respective business. NC since, about two months now. We have those periods, sometimes months, sometimes a few years. Life goes on
Author kis Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 It's funny, but once you share that first kiss - you can't go back. Everything changes from that point forward. You just cant see someone the same way after that. It's diifficult, so avoid the physical aspect as much as possible - it's just too difficult. We have had hugs so intimate and close that i wonder if a kiss would be that much more. I dont know. It is the first time in my life i have felt like i was making out with someone with a series of hugs only. Is this weird? Anyone experience such a thing?
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