Thebob Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 So i been in NC for like 1 month now and a couple weeks, and I know im improving but I still think about her a lot! Im honestly at the point that Im sick of it and I feel like an absolute pussy. I feel like deleting her facebook, phone number and everything, but I feel that is absolutely immature because we didnt break up over a fight or anything of that sorts. I just want her out of my head. We just stopped talking because I told her that we should due to the Long distance. We honestly had a perfect relationship up until the move to college she took forth. Never got in a fight once! She wanted to get with other people and I didnt' want to hear that so I told her not to talk to me until she is back from school during the summer. We dated for 1.5 months during the summer so we were at the brink of become a serious couple, but we pretty much were at that point. So when she went to school I was suppose to fly up, but then she told me that she wants to get with other guys and I just broke it off right then and told her that its best that I dont try anymore, and lets talk when your in town next summer. She still has our photos up on her facebook of us, and so do I, so obviously that is a sign in itself right? weve only talked 2 time in the past 2 months and they were only for a split second. I guess what I'm asking, since we didn't break up over anything really, just that we met to late in the summer and since im all the way down here and she is all the way up there should I delete her out of my life completely since nothing bad happened at all!? I feel that is completely unfair to her and it makes me look weak. Like i understand how she wants to go out and experience college single, since she was taken all last year from her ex, but I felt that if i kept trying to keep in contact with her I would never get her out of my head so I broke it off completely until next summer. I'm sure she wont call me but there is no reason why she wouldn't. Expert advice please. DO remember we never got in a fight, had a perfect relationship for 1.5 months, and I couldn't of honestly been happier during that time until she left and it got really hard for both of us. I honestly thought she was the one but distance is killer. I am honestly not mad at her about anything except for the other guy part. Thanks, Expert opinion please Thebob
logitech Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Ok. You said that you had a perfect relationship for 1.5 months. Then you said that she wanted to get with other people. And there it is. This girl has no commitment to you. Your pining over her appears to be a one way street. It will definitely work in your favour for your own sanity to remove her from FB etc. You will be taking control of yourself to remove her. It's definitely not unfair to her (which shouldn't matter now anyway) and as for whether is shows weakness... Some will say it does, some will say it doesn't. Again in the end what does it matter. The issue here that you have to resolve is you and your feelings. If you think doing those things will help you, just do it!! Anyway, removing her from FB etc won't be removing her from your life completely. If she cared about you enough I am sure she has other ways she could contact you. Just don't let yourself sit around waiting to be number 2.
Author Thebob Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 your right, I just remember the summer and how great it was. She doesn't want a bf at all and I believed her, and she wants to experience college single, but if she could choose it would be me. She can contact me if she wanted to, but I dont want her to feel like I absolutely hate her when I don't, and have her not be sure if she wants to contact me or not if I get rid of her totally. I mean if you remove someone I'm sure they'll be like, **** it there is no point cause he obviously hates me when I actually dont..... I'm not goin to be her second in command cause I wont allow it and I will bring it up to her if she ever talks to me again, when i get the opportunity to date someone else then I will. But i feel deleting is the best option for me but I'm scared that I'll lose her completely and I dont want that.....
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