BCCA Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Without rehashing my whole story, I got dumped a little over a year ago. Life was rough, and I talked a little here and there to my ex, before realizing I was being used/strung along for her own benefit, and ended all contact. That was about November of last year. Since then, no one has tried to contact the other one. I've purged any and every thing that reminded me of her, moved back to my home city (which is like 30 miles from where we lived together, but its something), and kind of tried to start my whole life over. Initially, some stuff still reminded me of her and us, but I moved past it, or got over it. Until this morning. I saw a picture/add thing that was like 'our joke' (impossible to explain, but i think some will understand). We would put it on eachothers myspace/FB walls, laugh about it, etc... I ALMOST lost it and texted her, like, i had the phone in my hand. Sadly, even a year later, after immediately removing her number, I can still remember it by heart. The ONLY reason I didnt is because I dont feel like going back to square one if she responds in a nasty way. I can handle being ignored, wouldnt be the first time, but any 'Ive moved on and need you out of my life, dont contact me again' crap would feel aweful. Anyone had any experience contacting an ex like a year later?
northstar1 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I can relate. I still had an urge to contact my ex up to about 8 months after we broke up, even though we had been in NC for months. I can't even remember what the trigger was, but something hit a soft spot and I was very tempted to. But then I realized that all it would do would give me more pain, because in the end nothing would have changed I would have felt relief for about 10 minutes, then it would have dissolved into anxiety waiting for a reply. Looking back I'm glad I didn't, and I know you will too.
Dmoney28 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Hey BCCA, i read your previous post and i can relate. Its been a year for me as well, and i have tried my best to move on. NC for the last 5 months and i have been dating and seeing women on a regular basis. I tried so hard to move on and forget. Even though i thought about her alot. I get a blank e-mail from her no subject line or content. I stared at the e-mail for 5 minutes. I had the phone in my hand to ask her "whats this about"...but i would of screwed up myself 1000x more than i am now..just seeing the e-mail. Its just one of those things were you have to keep moving through the mess
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