Mimsicles Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Ok, well my 3rd cousin keeps texting me and suggesting we meet up, he is also sending me suggestive messages. The thing is i think he is really good looking but i know that it morally wrong. I dont want him texting any more but how do i tell him without upsetting him. I'm 21 and he's 28.
TaraMaiden Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Why is it morally wrong? Cousins can marry..... What's the problem? or are you just scared of what others will think?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Your "third cousin" ??? That concern is a little far-fetched when it is your third-cousin. Just go for it if you want to. (if it were your "first cousin", then no...) but the established boundaries ARE the boundaries for a reason.
TaraMaiden Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Your "third cousin" ??? (. . .) (if it were your "first cousin", then no...) but the established boundaries ARE the boundaries for a reason. There is no reason why, even if he were her first cousin, that they should not venture into a relationship. As usual, the USA with its archaic and draconian, zealous, overly-religious prejudice, has decided that marrying first cousins is illegal and taboo. But, you will note, only in some states. So it depends where people live as to whether their relationship is feasible or forbidden.... In the UK, such matters are not an issue. it's just an overly conditioned dogma that makes people believe that somehow it's sinful, or that genes will be corrupted. neither premise is true. The link provided is interesting.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 There is no reason why...they should not venture in... marrying first cousins is illegal. Oh good, another scofflaw
TaraMaiden Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Oh god, an otscoff! yes, I see what you mean..... !
Isolde Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 You share a great-great-grandparent with your third cousin. That's SO far removed.
Not the love ace Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Don't worry. Cousins liking cousins is an old thing. To tell the truth, I had sex with my 3rd cousin and made out with my 2nd cousin. Maybe doing something with my second cousin was a bit wrong but my 3rd cousin was whatever. My 3rd cousin and I still have things for each other till this day.
Author Mimsicles Posted October 26, 2009 Author Posted October 26, 2009 I dont think its that wrong myself, but i know my friends and family wouldnt approve. Especially as his mother and my mother are so close, they treat each other like sisters! I dont know what to do but i do like him and if things were to go further then maybe i would go for it. I just dont fancy facing all my family and friends!!
TaraMaiden Posted October 26, 2009 Posted October 26, 2009 As your and his mum are so close, are you sure you're not just imagining objections? Your connection is so distant.... Can't you talk about it to your mum.....?
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